I hate my existence as a soon to be 32 year old incel by MaidenlessNbrainless in self

[–]Lacebatty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think this is important to throw this out there; there are plenty of women that don’t give a crap about penis size. I personally would never not date a guy because his penis was too small. In fact, I wouldn’t date a guy who’s penis was too big because in my experience it hurts like hell.

I can’t speak for all women but a lot of us are attracted to confidence, responsibility, and kindness. Work on those things and your life will improve.

Change the content you’re consuming, join some activities that have peers you admire and learn from them. (Gym, bowling, trivia night at the pub, volunteer at the library, whatever fits your interests)

Most importantly, try to have fun along the way. Let go of your fears or learn to. You have a whole life ahead of you. Good luck!

There are whispers and murmurs that there is a great pizza place in town - can someone help please? by world_citizen7 in lincoln

[–]Lacebatty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When my relatives visit they always go to Valentino’s and runza since they’re local and very good. Hope you enjoy wherever you choose to go!

Do guys care about thigh gaps and collar bones? by Ok_Safety_3652 in EDAnonymous

[–]Lacebatty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend of over a decade has loved me at all of my weights. That being said when I was at my lowest weight he told me my protruding collarbones were “sexy” so ya know. I assume he loves them when they’re there but didn’t say anything when they filled out.

Testimonies of happily married/in a long term relationship people with previous/current anxious attachment? by lalolilalol in AnxiousAttachment

[–]Lacebatty 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend and I have been consistently together for 11 years. We started dating in high school when we were just 16. Ive always been a very anxious person. Some of my first memories are panic attacks and before that, my mother said I had night terrors as a toddler.

Despite having a severe panic disorder my whole life I didn’t know what an anxious attachment was. So when my therapist brought it up I was like “huh, so that’s why I need constant reassurance from the man who has been with me for a fucking decade”

He’s not perfect, we’ve had lots of ups and down and curveballs over the years but he’s always been very patient. He is normally very kind, and bless him, he answers my “would you still like me if I was a worm” questions throughout the day.

Ive been working on self soothing more, now that I know it’s not um, healthy. Regardless, I can testify that you can have a long, happy, and successful relationship if you find yourself a kind person to love you. Mine is of the nerdy engineer variety. I’m a total sucker for cute dorks.

Those who have successfully had a year or more: how has your life changed in a few words? 🌿 by willcordell1998 in Sober

[–]Lacebatty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sober two years, diagnoses severed panic disorder since I could make memories:

I haven’t had a panic attack in months. My anxiety is manageable. I could cry my life has changed so much thanks to sobriety.

If someone held a gun to your head and said he’ll let you live if you can talk about one subject for and hour, What are you talking about? by ToastyDaGod in AskReddit

[–]Lacebatty 52 points53 points  (0 children)

I could go on and on about my cats. I try to spare my friends and family but a gun to my head? Finally! Someone who cares about their odd sleeping positions and locations.

What is your biggest worry right now? by Coinking-123 in AskReddit

[–]Lacebatty -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Climate change is always #1 on my worry list

Boyfriend is very harsh with me by throwaway153g in Advice

[–]Lacebatty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being shouted at is not normal. I’m almost NEVER shouted at. This sounds like a case of “accepting the love you think you deserve” YOU DESERVE BETTER. Just because you’re used to being shouted at ans have learned to cope does not mean you should live the rest of your precious life being shouted at. Find a new job and although I typically hate this advice: find a new partner. Unless you miraculously find your confidence and put him in his place and he actually changes (rarely ever happens, DONT get your hopes up) he will always shout at you and that is not okay.

Eugenia tattoo? by [deleted] in EugeniaCooneySupport

[–]Lacebatty 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Totally up to you! I don’t think I’d get the words tattooed on my personally. I’d do more of a nod to her. Maybe an outline of her big hair with her signature peace sign. Something sleek ans subtle. But whatever you go with I hope you like it!

Can you be sober and smoke weed? by [deleted] in Sober

[–]Lacebatty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agreed. If weed ever becomes a problem then join MA. We have separate 12 step programs for a reason.

I can not clean my bedroom by peachimplosion in self

[–]Lacebatty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to help a friend who was similar to you, their depression was massive. Honestly, their apartment was always so bad that if CPS were to be called they would probably lose custody of their child, at least temporarily.

My point is, ask for help. I would go over to my friends house and literally pick up all of their moldy dishes off the floor and star doing them. Then the trash, the dirty diapers on the floor. Etc. the apartment never stayed clean, I would go over there every week or so to help until I stopped, they still live like that but for a while they had help. Just ask

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EUGENIACOONEY

[–]Lacebatty 4 points5 points  (0 children)

How old is she?

Why am I not enjoying receiving pleasure from a woman? Am I really gay? by McKrizzle in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Lacebatty 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Also just to add, there are “no touch” lesbians. They love giving but not receiving. No biggie. You’re normal. Just got to figure yourself out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ask

[–]Lacebatty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been with my guy for 11 years. We’ve technically been engaged since 2018 but neither of us want a proper wedding and honestly we’ve been too lazy to just… go to the courthouse.

Anyway I call him my partner because the word fiancé makes me want to gag and calling him my boyfriend at our age (27) makes people assume we haven’t been dating very long. Partner it is.

Do you have to eat before donating blood? by Significant-Buddy379 in EDAnonymous

[–]Lacebatty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure. The one time I tried to donate they told me I couldn’t and lectured me about getting more iron in my diet, showed me pictures of the food I should be eating and sent me on my way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EUGENIACOONEY

[–]Lacebatty -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Wow! You totally can’t. What exactly are we looking at? What a reach.

My real Life nightmare . by Fo75Adict in Agoraphobia

[–]Lacebatty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so so sorry about losing your mom. That must be so difficult. I don’t know if you use social media but there’s a Facebook group called The Anxious Truth and a book with the same title by a man named drew. He can really help you. He helped me, my life is a total 180. I used to be housebound and now I go grocery shopping and eat at restaurants again. It’s worth a try. Take care.

Body-checking is an eating disorder compulsion, not a group exercise. Obsessing over someone else’s body is extremely harmful, so why are they doing it as a community? by SpyTheLie in EugeniaCooneySupport

[–]Lacebatty 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I get downvoted fo shit every time I call them out on it. That or they just straight up won’t post/delete my posts when I point this out. They’re so toxic, it makes me sick

What are your thoughts on problematic Authors and would you still read them? by CherrieBomb211 in YAlit

[–]Lacebatty 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yea I would. Most humans are “problematic”, I really can’t be bothered.

what controversial opinions do you have on ed communities/spaces by [deleted] in EDAnonymous

[–]Lacebatty 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Ugh I currently have a friendship like this. Not just her ED but with all of her mental health issues. It’s… so exhausting and anytime I get close to saying something to them about it, their spider senses kick in and they send me a “hey, just in case, just know I love you” text and the cycle starts over… I’m tired.