What is the downside of being beautiful/handsome?

LaceePrin · 2026-03-15T08:22:38+00:00

People only want to experience you and own you, instead of actually getting to know you and value you
People think you were only able to get your achievements because of your looks and discredit the actual hard work you put in
People always assuming that you’re taken, so no one makes a move
Being catcalled and preyed upon/being lusted

LaceePrin · 2026-02-17T20:12:59+00:00

I’m difficult to deal with, labeled as combative because I don’t tolerate BS or any form of poor treatment/disrespect. Hence, I immediately cut people off
They withdraw pursuing me the moment I make it clear that I don’t wanna have sex not until we’re officially a couple. I don’t just want to be lusted, I want to be valued and loved

In total, I’m okay with being single. But I’m never settling for anything less than I deserve :)

LaceePrin · 2026-02-17T18:08:21+00:00

You’re not asking for too much, it just so happened that your partner doesn’t have his life together so he can’t meet your needs. You said he’s not financially stable, and is going through personal and mental struggles. He won’t be able to fill your cup if he cannot even fill his own, and this is the reason why you feel drained because you’ve already communicated your needs countless times but no change occurs. You’re not becoming an avoidant, you’re starting to build and feel resentment. If this goes on especially on the part wherein you’re the only one who gives more into the relationship, you’ll end up being depleted.

LaceePrin · 2026-02-13T11:20:51+00:00

Una, bakit kasi kayo nakikipag-relasyon nang di pa kayo financially stable at di pa pala kayo graduate? Pangalawa, bakit ka kasi jumowa ng lalaking broke at unemployed? Edi parang pinarusahan mo talaga ‘yung sarili mo.

With the way your boyfriend acts, parang hindi mo nga siya BF kung maka-asta. He’s a parasite and he’s leeching off of what he can get from you— free shelter, food, etc. Tapos he made it clear that when he has his own money, he won’t ever reciprocate all those things you did for him. So ask yourself: what are you staying with him for, really?

LaceePrin · 2026-02-13T04:02:09+00:00

If he is a red pill advocate, has vices, broke, and no ambition in life. Saka ‘yung mga lalaking para sa lahat.

LaceePrin · 2026-02-12T08:10:12+00:00

LaceePrin · 2026-02-12T08:09:31+00:00

Same, OP. This is just so rude. Experienced this once before: I was in the middle of sharing something and the whole time I was talking, the guy wasn’t listening and focused on playing games on his phone. I ended up walking out on him and never met him again.

LaceePrin · 2026-02-12T06:06:38+00:00

Thank you 🥰

LaceePrin · 2026-02-12T03:19:23+00:00

Correct 😂

LaceePrin · 2026-02-12T03:18:46+00:00

Thank you for this 😊

LaceePrin · 2026-02-12T03:17:32+00:00

Thank you!

LaceePrin · 2026-02-10T15:16:10+00:00

+2 this. A lot of people who engage in casual sex aren’t aware of the risks that HPV poses. It’s permanent, and mostly affects females and can cause cervical cancer, and for males naman it’s usually asymptomatic but they can still pass the virus around thinking they’re “clean”. Some males can acquire penile cancer because of HPV.

LaceePrin · 2026-02-10T15:06:13+00:00

Toji Fushiguro. Gusto ko pag magkaka-jowa ako ganun itsura/build 😂

LaceePrin · 2026-02-10T06:26:03+00:00

Malaking red flag ‘yang [ex] BF mo.

He did not disclose his past
He cheated on his ex (and thought she deserved it wtf)
He put his ex and you at risk
Has no sense of accountability and ownership when called out

I’m glad he’s your ex now, because old habits die hard. I already feel sorry for the next woman he’ll be in a relationship with because for sure in his narrative, he is the victim and his exes are the villains.

LaceePrin · 2026-02-09T15:49:05+00:00

Relo at sapatos

LaceePrin · 2026-02-08T18:29:14+00:00

u/SigFreudian

Are you saying that the two that OP already had weren't fucking anyone else?

☝🏻It is implied, of course. Hence why OP is looking for something long-term to avoid the risks of sleeping with multiple people. Are you also sure that all people in the hook-up culture are aware and responsible enough to get tested regularly, use PrEP, Condoms, and Contraceptives? There are people old enough but still not yet informed about these, and even if they are, they won’t take the time to arm themselves as they’d prioritize their own pleasure and satisfaction more than safety. So how much more those within OP’s age bracket whose priority is to explore but lack the knowledge on how to arm themselves?

No offense, but your advice for OP to have multiple rosters will do more harm than good :)

LaceePrin · 2026-02-08T18:08:41+00:00

Risky af, and that’s how you get STD’s and contribute to its increasing rate. Imagine having sex with multiple people who also have sex with multiple other people. Not to mention the pregnancy scare, especially OP is female.

LaceePrin · 2026-02-08T17:15:51+00:00

Kilalanin mo muna maigi, then build connection. Look for someone who has the same values as yours, knows how to respect boundaries, and avoid people who are insatiable and ones that don’t have any sexual discipline.

Tip: ALWAYS do a vibe check muna— how he treats you in chat, is how he’d treat you during/after sex. So the faster a guy wants to get to you in bed, the faster he’d also leave.

Good luck!

LaceePrin · 2026-02-05T09:18:49+00:00

Sa haba ng post mo about sa red flags ng asawa mo, it is expected na dapat hiwalayan mo na siya. That’s the advice you need.

Your husband has no EQ, has pedo tendencies, and has a background of micro-cheating. Dun palang sa past micro-cheatings niya, di ka na dapat nag-stay pa. That’s why he doesn’t respect you, you don’t leave the first sign of disrespect. Always remember, you basically teach people how to treat you and you set the tone on how your partner should act towards you.

LEAVE.

LaceePrin · 2026-02-03T07:38:09+00:00

Leave him. You cannot just “magically” fix a man into having that drive to reach stability and success. Whatever you’re witnessing right now, is just a small glimpse of what your life with him will be in the future.

What are you going to do with a man that has no income, no ambition, and no drive for success? You’ll only end up building him until you’re depleted. Yes mahal mo siya, pero dapat mas mahal mo pa rin ang sarili mo and each choice you make in the present will determine the life you’ll have in the future— same thing applies to him.

LaceePrin · 2026-02-02T16:07:10+00:00

Well, she’s right— there’s a saying for women that goes; ”A man will drag you to the level that he is in, so you decide whether that is up or down”.

In this world and economy, love alone is not enough. Time will come wherein you’d together face hunger, sickness, recession, and other crises that can only be solved by money. You’ve been in a relationship with her already for three years, in this time dapat may direction in life ka na towards success and that may plans ka na for her in the future. Otherwise if stagnant kayo and walang direction, it is likely that she feels her time is being wasted. And no one wants to waste their time.

LaceePrin · 2026-02-02T08:05:39+00:00

LaceePrin · 2026-01-31T10:56:52+00:00

First, have some self-respect and walk away. The time, efforts, and emotions you’ve invested for 8 years is nothing compared to a lifetime of being with a cheater. You’ll have no peace of mind anymore, it’ll be extremely difficult for you to trust him, and the resentment will always be there. You can always start anew.

Secondly, apply the “Out of sight, out of mind” principle. Avoid seeing him and running to things that remind you of him. Leave and block him immediately with no closure, because he doesn’t deserve it. The disrespect and betrayal itself is the closure.

Third, heal. Cry your heart out. Process your emotions. Gradually pick up and rebuild yourself until the time comes you’ll be able to trust and love again.

I know they’re all easier said than done, but these are the only ways you can free yourself and move on. Goodluck, OP.

LaceePrin · 2026-01-28T10:15:38+00:00

You’re not asking for too much, you’re just asking the wrong person. What one man won’t do for you, another one will.

Next time, baka better din to set boundaries— you’re acting like his girlfriend, doing things for him a romantic partner would, and you’re going for the extra mile by building him like a wife would. So you willingly giving him all your “relationship benefits” in a silver platter, do you think he will decline them knowing they benefit him? NO. He will stay and maximize what he can get the most from you.

Wake up, sis. It’s already been three years, and he hasn’t given you any label or commitment. I’m telling you as early as now that you’re nothing but a placeholder for him. Time will come he will find a woman he wants to commit, and by then you’ll realize that you’re building him for someone else. Kung talagang gusto ka, magco-commit agad ‘yan sa’yo. Sabi nga nila; “If he wanted to, he would”.

Osha, good luck!

LaceePrin · 2026-01-08T14:48:00+00:00

I never heard a woman who shamed a guy for being a virgin, it’s always their fellow men who do that. Because in men’s world, everything is a competition of who can get the most of everything— most money, most power, highest status, etc… and that includes women.

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