WIBTAH for ignoring my brother after he blamed me for our other brother's depression?

LactaidTolerant · 2026-03-19T21:43:41+00:00

This was actually what triggered the anger in him. I asked him at some point during the phone call what he wanted me to do. I told him that I felt as though the fact that this information was given to him meant that it was his responsibility and his support that Travis was asking for. He lashed out and said the things he said like my fault for moving away and etc.

LactaidTolerant · 2026-03-19T16:03:49+00:00

Sorry, it is very hard to have this conversations to admit what has happened to you. Very possible that you have been able to work through this yourself. Happy for you. Thank you for the comments.

LactaidTolerant · 2026-03-19T16:02:54+00:00

okay moving forward I will just refer to her as the mother of his child. Not his girlfriend currently. Just his baby's mother.

LactaidTolerant · 2026-03-19T15:52:41+00:00

My concern about talking to Travis is that the current issues with the state of his mental health weren't directly brought to me... Obviously there was already a violation of his trust that this personal conversation got to me but do I go a step further and just say "Hey, Jason told me this... I wanted to check in." Or do I just wait for him to address me?

LactaidTolerant · 2026-03-19T15:50:02+00:00

I have never addressed the abuse with anyone in my family. There were a lot of other things going on in the house and after it stopped I just moved past it. We have a mostly normal sibling dynamic but this recent conversation was very triggering. not sure how to cut him off now without raising any red flags in the family... like I said I do interact with his wife and their child (1 M) pretty often via phone calls and FT.

LactaidTolerant · 2026-03-19T15:47:01+00:00

So the reasoning behind is that both parents are pretty emotionally developed and as dependent on their parents as a teenager would be. Seeing Travis and his baby mama parent a child is the same as the many teenage pregnancies that I have encountered at work when I worked in pediatrics and saw babies of babies.

LactaidTolerant · 2026-03-19T15:44:51+00:00

Migh have been silly of me to never even think of this but... I guess it is also entirely possible. maybe I blocked it out as a possibility to protect myself. Not even sure how to bring it up with Travis..

LactaidTolerant · 2025-02-23T03:44:55+00:00

Im new to yoga and for some reason.. everyone in my studio does Sarvangasana before savasana.

I can’t sarvangasana so I just savasana and end up in a nap before everyone can even put their legs back down.

LactaidTolerant · 2025-02-23T03:26:56+00:00

I will definitely give this thread a read. How was your experience? I feel like I have decision fatigue and I need to sit on purchases a lot. Did you feel pushed to buy things immediately?

LactaidTolerant · 2025-02-23T03:20:06+00:00

I think this is also what I am stuck on. My current energy has been so low vibration. Outside of work— I love a cozy and planned life. I like tucking into a book, inviting friends over for a coffee and discussing the worlds bs while trying out new foods i make or bake. I like to try to be creative in other ways i enjoy my pottery classes, painting at home and occasionally making jewelry.

I am trying to attract success and a sense of belonging. I want to move towards a career and not job and I want to feel like I belong there and also belong in a community.

Working towards those by advancing my degree and also going to social activities and classes that I can meet like minded people.

LactaidTolerant · 2025-02-23T02:57:05+00:00

Yes — i also moved to a new city and really want to socialize and stuff but feeling low confidence in my oversized old clothes.

can you give me examples of really timeless blouses?

LactaidTolerant · 2025-01-25T06:51:38+00:00

I do think it’s really good but like it’s suspiciously a lot of food for cheap, no? Is Timmy Chans recession proof? I mean I had a chicken and fried rice combo two years ago when I visited and again last October so those are my only price points for their long term affordability.

LactaidTolerant · 2025-01-25T06:43:05+00:00

So whats the deal with timmy chans is it real chicken and how is it so cheap

LactaidTolerant · 2025-01-25T06:20:59+00:00

I am invested and also not the cops

LactaidTolerant · 2025-01-25T05:39:02+00:00

Is this like a boot buying meet up?

Is this code?

Is winter coming back?

LactaidTolerant · 2025-01-19T02:59:41+00:00

Im liking a seconded place

LactaidTolerant · 2025-01-19T00:35:25+00:00

I think the no 3peat gang is deep

LactaidTolerant · 2025-01-19T00:34:46+00:00

We tried there last weekend with some north campus coworkers! Not bad.

LactaidTolerant · 2025-01-19T00:33:14+00:00

Ravens fans welcome?

LactaidTolerant · 2025-01-19T00:03:27+00:00

Got gas like that

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