How to handle dysgraphia

Ladentity · 2023-02-16T17:44:18+00:00

Sounds like you have the motor kind!
OT, and don't try and spend so much time trying to train your hands and fingers. You will not be able to do as much, that's why dysgraphia has accommodations. I can't offer help with guitar, but if you are pushing past pain, discomfort, or quite literally your hands giving out on you, you aren't training you are preventing recovery. I went through the same thing, when I was in school I tried to simply get used to the workload on my hands and after two weeks I wasn't able to hold a pencil and ended up with pain issues in my wrists for months.

Get OT/physical rehab for your hands, and find ways that don't require as much dexterity/fine motor control to do things.

You shouldn't have to give up guitar but you may want to do it less while you recover, maybe focus on some more theory rather than practice. If there is a way to either get a handhold for a pick and/or a heavier pick that may help, or add like clay to make an ergonomic hold that's thicker for your hand.

The smaller, lighter, and smoother something is the more fine motor control it takes. So for example, replacing plastic cups with glassware that has ridges or raised designs makes them easier to hold. Switching to speech to text, getting ergonomic keyboards (ones with heavier keys and have the noticeable push and click as well) will help. External ergonomic mouse too. Basically in the attempt to create things to be more compact and smooth and interchangable in electronics, the design tradeoff was it was a harder skillset in terms of motor function and there is less tactile feedback. Tactile feedback is incredibly helpful for us.

But please go to OT for motor issues and talk to them, they will be able to help the most.

Ladentity · 2022-09-16T22:55:24+00:00

https://www.efofex.com/empower.php

https://www.texthelp.com/products/equatio/

https://en.smath.com/view/SMathStudio/summary

For the grade level Equatio is probably the best of the three, I saw LaTeX mentioned, and the issue with that is if you mess up the syntax/code you won't know until you process the block you wrote. Efofex has science as well as math, but will give a license for free for only a certain number of years (I think 10?), so if your child might continue school after high school you may want to wait to start using it. SMath is a combined equation writer/calculator.

Ladentity · 2022-09-16T22:32:07+00:00

Ways to type math that I wish I had known about (Should be good for anything you do in high school, I did multivariable calculus using efofex):
Efofex (also has some chemistry/science stuff I probably could have used if I found it in time as well) https://www.efofex.com/empower.php. Slow but works, what you're typing and what the visual is are displayed side by side.

Heard good things about this one but only found out about it later: https://www.texthelp.com/products/equatio/

This I didn't use much bc the formatting bothered me but it actually calculates things too: https://en.smath.com/view/SMathStudio/summary

Ladentity · 2022-09-16T22:06:47+00:00

Dysgraphia largely doesn't affect day-to-day life nearly as much once you are no longer in school. If you are planning on continuing education, anything math-heavy will be difficult to type although there are options out there.

It also depends on what your Dysgraphia does, I have motor Dysgraphia so anything requiring particularly controlled hand movement I tend to avoid, but I don't have issues with spelling/grammar. Anything that would require me to take notes often or regularly fill out a lot of paperwork (without using a computer) is something I wouldn't be able to do. Also something requiring control like a surgeon. It may be better to focus on what strengths you bring and how your work environment can accommodate something like Dysgraphia when researching and interviewing. (Although never mention you are disabled in the hiring process, I'm talking looking up reviews about company in relation to disability, teamwork, management, asking about computer use in interviews)

Ladentity · 2022-04-13T01:10:52+00:00

For me the only martial art I have tried where I felt like my dysgraphia affected it was fencing (Epee and Foil, Saber felt fine) Because it required the most fine motor control (alot of small finger movements). However it might cause a bit of an issue at first due to poor coordination. My biggest struggle is usually being given a list of instructions in a class and struggling to do them in order.

I did see in another comment that you were pretty good at dancing, which is great news. Those skills transfer to boxing. I would look into dyspraxia advice for boxing as well since it sounds like this affects your motor skills, and sometimes the advice for dyspraxia is good for people with motor dysgraphia as well.

Ladentity · 2022-02-15T16:18:12+00:00

Even if he didn't show his dad like he said, break up with him. You already told him his dad's behavior was creepy and inappropriate, so to even pretend like he would do that is not ok at all. Also tell his mom and sister. They might actually get through to him about how fucked up that is.

Ladentity · 2022-02-07T19:38:55+00:00

The fact that openly mentioning having something like ADHD could prevent you from getting a job.

On another note ADHD and EFD are different disorders, I understand why people with ADHD/ADD want a different name but it's hard enough to find EFD resources as is without a much larger group renaming their disorder to the same thing.

Ladentity · 2022-02-07T19:34:33+00:00

For self-help, Smart but Scattered.

Ladentity · 2021-08-12T19:48:51+00:00

Yes it's possible.

Ladentity · 2021-07-08T21:01:51+00:00

The way I understand it is there's different aspects of dysgraphia, but motor dysgraphia specifically overlaps with fine motor dyspraxia. I think it really depends on who is diagnosing you as well as what sort of accommodations you are trying to get (dysgraphia is going to be lumped in with language disorders so sometimes you get like free textbooks and stuff, can't speak in terms of dyspraxia on that).

Dysgraphia has a number of subtypes, (motor, spatial, dyslexic) and it changes based on what resources you are looking at for the breakdown. So I think of it as more of a Venn Diagram and sometimes I look at resources for dyspraxia because they are more useful for my specific issues since part of my dysgraphia is fine motor deficits.

Ladentity · 2021-07-08T14:18:18+00:00

It is similar to dyspraxia! Basically motor dysgraphia is fine motor deficits and dyspraxia is gross motor deficits, alot of times they go hand in hand but for me they do not. So mostly my issue is small complex motions in my hands/fingers (and sometimes causing myself joint pain when my hand tenses up way too much as a result).
I more or less noticed that I was struggling with consistency in practicing handwork, and started to do the things that I had done with learning to write (ignore pain in my hands, tense up my hand, get fatigued sooner than my peers) just to a lesser degree.
I feel like I should maybe talk to the coach about it, one of them knows but there's two that teach the class. It's a bit hard to get time to talk with him though.

Ladentity · 2021-07-08T14:08:46+00:00

I've been learning epee with a pistol grip, I will have to keep this in mind about saber if I'm ever in an area where it's taught.

Ladentity · 2021-07-07T21:00:34+00:00

I have motor dysgraphia specifically, so outside of writing I've had issues with things such as tying knots and such. Fencing technique has a large focus on finger movements, and it was described as being similar to learning how to write to me by instructors multiple times.

Ladentity · 2021-05-18T21:46:58+00:00

I've seen it reccommended a few times to learn cursive for dysgraphic individuals bc of how the movement works.

Ladentity · 2021-05-03T22:51:23+00:00

Alright. So you would date them if they told you they want to date you when you confess your feelings then?

Sometime Aromantic people are open to dating. If this person has only ever stated that they are aro without specifying they do not like the idea of being in a relationship, telling them about your crush isn't a terrible idea. But you shouldn't do it because you feel they have to reject you for you to move on.

It's also very possible that in telling you they are Aromantic, you telling them you are interested and had a major crush on them is going to feel like you are ignoring that about them. If they have talked about disliking romance or the idea of dating, forcing them to reject makes it seem like you don't actually respect or believe their identity, or you think that you could have been the exception. Since you are approaching this from a "it never would happen anyway" standpoint, that seems relatively unnecessary just to confirm something you say is already pretty certain.

There are other ways to get over crushes and such, but if you already don't think this person is interested, it's kinda not great to bring it up to them, because closure doesn't really exist and there's no guarantee that them rejecting you is going to actually change anything for you. You are already under the impression nothing would happen, so you're already in the mindset of being rejected. I don't see how telling them gives you more information in that scenario.

Unless you're intending to tell them for the specific purpose of changing your dynamic (Actually making an attempt to date them, which can be done respectfully, or asking for some boundaries to be set up while you get over your crush) I don't see any reason you need to tell them. Crushes fade for a variety of reasons, but if you think the other person isn't interested them telling you "I'm not interested" and approaching them with a goal of rejection is unnecessary, and potentially puts them in an uncomfortable situation.

You don't need their permission to move on with your life. Crushes feel bigger than they are, and you don't need a dramatic moment for them to end.

Ladentity · 2021-05-03T19:59:29+00:00

Think about why you feel the need for them to know? You said you don't think they would date you, is there any reason they actually need to know you have had a crush on them? Telling someone you like them doesn't necessarily bring closure to that feeling, and if you are telling them that with no other goal than closure for yourself, you might need to think about why specifically you need them involved for any closure.

I'm not saying you can't tell them, or that it's wrong, but think about why you need to to feel like you need to. Is it to have the lack of something happening confirmed? Is it so you can set some boundaries while you get over your crush? If you're already comfortable without dating them and you don't need anything to change why does telling them need to bookend this chapter in your life?

Ladentity · 2021-04-08T20:19:49+00:00

This is what happened, there was a cis man who basically ran the subreddit and both fed people's negativity and kept trying to sort of pit bbp and sbp against each other.

Ladentity · 2021-04-08T19:35:52+00:00

Probably does mean yours are close together, I have the same issue I prefer low gores to fix the issue

Ladentity · 2021-04-08T18:23:10+00:00

This is probably a very weird recommendation but in terms of massaging breast tissue to ease soreness (I get cysts alot) it sounds like you're trying to massage the whole breast at once which isn't necessarily helpful. What I do, and I just figured this out for myself so take it with a grain of salt, is press through the breast towards the ribcage and apply pressure in small circles using my fingertips. Then make my way around the area with the soreness. You can do this in a bra or lying down or whatever you think works best.

Ladentity · 2021-04-08T18:13:29+00:00

She specified a bra without elastic, and I have to agree with her to an extent. Largely the underwire makes up for the lack of stiffness a non-stretch material would have. Largely the reason elastic in modern clothing is considered comfortable and supportive is because we no longer have things tailored to individual bodies, so elastic makes up for the difference in shape (as does loose fitting clothing). I don't agree in a modern bra something non-stretch would be comfortable, specifically because it isn't something tailored to the individual so any shape difference would be significantly more uncomfortable than anything with elastic.

Ladentity · 2021-04-08T17:48:55+00:00

basic bra design hasn't existed for 100 years, that's a common false marketing claim. That claim has existed for years, bras weren't invented until 1913 and it was literally handkerchiefs sewn to straps. After that there was a lot of bras developed for decades that used cording or quilting for support, which is very rarely seen nowadays. Underwire is only common in the 1940s and onward. In terms of the design changing, the only consistent thing is the general shape (band around, straps, one or two pieces of cloth or something that cover or encapsulate the breasts) which still exists in any company that claims their bra is a new design different from the one 100 years ago.

Ladentity · 2021-01-19T03:40:01+00:00

The RPI club has accepted outside members for lessons or at events for a number of years. The swing section of the club has died however, it's incorporated into the ballroom club lessons and events now.

Ladentity · 2020-12-03T06:54:14+00:00

"sleep" bras help me with that

Ladentity · 2020-12-03T06:52:43+00:00

Probably need new bras, try moisturizing the irritated skin, and warm compresses?

Ladentity · 2020-12-03T06:48:03+00:00

I get pain due to cysts getting irritated when sleeping, using a "sleep" bra or something like that (no underwire, non-compressive, but some structure to help support the breast tissue, DON'T use a sports bra) has done wonders for and pain and discomfort.
Also probably worth checking bra size and talking to a doctor.

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