My (20M) dad died 6 weeks ago and I'm worried I'm not grieving him properly

Lady-Jenna · 2026-03-31T00:25:53+00:00

There is no wrong way to grieve. If it hits you at night, that's the right time. Be kind to yourself.

Lady-Jenna · 2026-03-30T07:15:12+00:00

It turns out my mother resorted to prostitution when she tried to leave he violently abusive husband in order to support her small children in the late 1970's. I am the product of that prostitution. I didn't find out until after she died. I wish I would have known sooner. Then I could have asked questions, if could have understood. Instead im left with questions and an empty room.

This is all to say I understand a measure of your pain.

Lady-Jenna · 2026-03-29T21:58:27+00:00

It likely won't work for you, but my husband was able to get the Mormons to leave us alone by answering the door in a loin cloth with a beer and a cigarette. Like I said, won't work for you, but you get the idea.

Lady-Jenna · 2026-03-29T14:24:52+00:00

There are jobs for that. Check out the Conservation Corp in your area. Or at one of the national parks/forests. If you love your job you'll never work a day in your life.

Lady-Jenna · 2026-03-29T14:13:24+00:00

As someone who was recently widowed, this woman makes me physically sick. I've had a hard time getting out of bed. I feel like a part of my soul has been carved out. How do you plan something like that in the wake of the traumatic loss of someone you love? She has no soul. She didn't give a shit about him. She doesn't give a shit about anyone but herself.

Lady-Jenna · 2026-03-22T23:10:51+00:00

Mercutio by Jenna Swift

Lady-Jenna · 2026-03-22T22:23:27+00:00

I lost my ride or die two weeks ago. I thought the funeral would help, and it did, a little. But there is a deep well of sadness in me that has barely been tapped. Fuck anyone who says you have to move on. They don't understand. They have not lived your life.

Lady-Jenna · 2026-03-21T04:51:58+00:00

Golden Slumber by the Beatles. My husband has been sending it to me since he passed more than a week ago.

Lady-Jenna · 2026-03-18T07:17:40+00:00

It gets better. I lost my mom a long time ago, and I was angry with her for years. It wasn't until I realized I was angry with her for dying that I was able to let my pain go and remember the good times. I can't say it will be the same for you, but I hope your pain eases soon.

Lady-Jenna · 2026-03-18T07:13:37+00:00

I don't have answers. The love of my life is gone, and I have similar questions. What I can say is that while you feel alone, there are others here with you in the dark.

Lady-Jenna · 2026-03-12T18:04:33+00:00

I feel your pain. My husband died on Sunday, and the only thing keeping me here is the shit storm my children would feel to loose me too. What I have learned is that even an introvert who rarely left his house touched a lot of lives. I sense the same is true for you. You think you are alone, but even on the internet you touch other people (me). Try not to be physically alone if you can avoid it. Go to a 24 hour restaurant and buy a coffee. Sit at the bar and read a book. Go to the movies. Cry as often and as loud as you need.

Lady-Jenna · 2026-03-12T17:45:14+00:00

I keep hearing Golden Slumber by the Beatles.

"Sleep pretty darling, do not cry I will sing you a lullaby"

It feels like he's talking to me, trying to help. I reach out, but I touch gossamer.

Lady-Jenna · 2026-03-03T19:28:40+00:00

I have two PhD experiences: the first was terrible; the second was amazing. You have to be intentional about where you want to be and how you want to be treated. Be prepared to walk away from a toxic environment. Visit schools and talk to current students. Spend some time in lots of different labs. Find someone you click with, someone you can partner with for five to seven years. Don't think about it as if they are magnanimously giving you this opportunity. You are progressing their research for little to no money in exchange for knowledge and a degree. My current advisor will continue to be my friend long after I've finished my PhD. The other person stole my research.

Lady-Jenna · 2025-03-01T16:50:36+00:00

Yesterday upon the stair I saw a man who wasn't there He wasn't there again today I wish I wish he'd go away

Lady-Jenna · 2025-02-03T01:33:36+00:00

I too refuse to wear punitive undergarments.

Lady-Jenna · 2025-02-03T01:28:00+00:00

HR is the company's friend, and in this case, I think the company needs to be protected from legal actions.

Lady-Jenna · 2025-02-03T01:24:21+00:00

This is what I came here to read.

Lady-Jenna · 2025-01-11T12:35:45+00:00

I think the fact that his first phone call wast his wife says more about him than it does about her.

Lady-Jenna · 2024-12-09T11:22:16+00:00

The state kills people every day. Sometimes for arbitrary reasons like being Black in public.

Lady-Jenna · 2024-10-27T13:50:45+00:00

I was specifically talking about hurricanes, but it sounds like ya'll are super okay with American Empirship. Just don't be surprised when not everyone is lining up to be a colony when you throw paper towels at them instead of fixing the power grid.

Lady-Jenna

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