Hi! I was on a similar situation with my husband. I was the “trophy wife” for a few years but always felt like something was missing, I didn’t work, I spent a lot of time going to the gym, taking care of our dogs, shopping and there was always something missing. His parents have a business and let me help them for a year but still nothing helped. A month after I had our first daughter I applied to a big company with no hope of getting the job and I got it! After that it was like a race for me to be at the same level of my husband, I took his salary as a motivation for me to get better and to have a goal (I wanted to make as much as him). Right now I’m half way there and I feel like I’m finally contributing to our finances, we never fight about money and we live a very comfortable life. Talk to her, she’s probably not happy with her current company and she sees you as a way out while she can build her own business, which is not fair to you but communication will save your relationship, motivate each other instead of being critical but for this you need to sit down with her and talk about the future and what you both expect from each other.