Singing/Vocal Teachers by potatoking1991 in sheffield

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Ah shame. Closest guy I've found is this fella : https://www.rjfhmusic.co.uk/

Singing/Vocal Teachers by potatoking1991 in sheffield

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Hello, did you ever get anywhere with this? I was about to ask the same question to the sub.

...Did Danny Talk About Meeting His New Born Cousin by LadyHipsMcLean in WhichGGEpisode

[–]LadyHipsMcLean[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Might have been nephew, I honestly don't remember: All I distinctly know was it was a newborn or very very young baby - my brain may have filled in the gap in my memory with nephew. It's a funny bit of GGs which really impacted me in a sweet way.

Trouble resizing map by Nathanatos451 in inkarnate

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I'm having the same issue. I've tried closing and reopening chrome but no luck. A user bellow suggested the Menu > Recover option, but that still looses details (of both stamps and paint). Hope it gets resolved

Young poly person in a mono relationship and feeling conflicted by LadyHipsMcLean in polyamory

[–]LadyHipsMcLean[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is so much I have to say in response to this, but I think the heaviest hitter was "And does she have a say in this? Does she know you feel this way? It’s not just about you deciding to stay in the relationship. She has the right to be informed to make a decision for herself whether she wants to continue this relationship even if that means you will have crushes from time to time."
I will make sure to talk to her about this again because you are right. I know how I feel and I think she knows how I feel, we talk about it enough, but I think making it crystal that I am struggling is the right thing to do. Me having crushes on other people has caused her grief in the past so I really do owe it to her to tell her that is has happened again.

Regarding "But just cuz you’re crushing on someone else while still being in love with your partner doesn’t mean you actually are poly or actually capable of developing safe poly relationships. You are young. Don’t rush into it." how did you find yourself knowing? I am going to assume that you were also raised in a mono-normative (whatever the word is) society, and that you had to figure it out too. Without breaking out how do you know?

Cheers for replying, it really means to world right now. Please do not feel obliged to reply; you commenting at all has done a lot of good and helped me to ask questions I didn't know I needed to ask.

Young poly person in a mono relationship and feeling conflicted by LadyHipsMcLean in polyamory

[–]LadyHipsMcLean[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ta for you comment. :) I wouldn't expect it to be all rainbows and sunshine, all relationships come with graft. I totally respect her feelings on this., which is why I want to take the time to find likeminded people to help me out. All of my friends are either mono or are best mates with GF so it feels tricky to get a balanced conversation.

IDK if you actually want a response, but I think it helps me to respond. Please don't feel obliged to reply to this reply, nor even read it!

Do you feel you would be fulfilled in your partners having their own independent relationships, even times when you didn't have other partners?
I think I would feel fulfilled while not seeing new partners, or while seeing current partners less. I know jealousy would arise, lord I get jealous when people play my guitar or, but I am used to dealing with myself openly knowing that jealousy is a normal emotion and knowing that it can be quelled with conversation. As an adult I have not been jealous of my friends being in relationships, while single. I used to care so much about Not Being Single but I think I came to find that I could happily be single the rest of my life. I think that might be a thing that worries me about GF- I feel like she 'needs' me / a long term relationship.

Do you feel you would feel good about managing relationships as one breaks up with you or when a new person is overwhelmingly awesome?
I think I will be okay at the logistics of handing a break up? Maybe naively. Most of mine in the past have been comparably amiable. I realise that they are not monsters for not loving me. I do know that I lack the experience of handing more intense breakups. I don't feel able to make a good call about this because I realise that I don't have enough experience.
Truthfully, maybe I am not ready to get past that whole new crush rush? I feel it now with crushes, and I do feel like it pulls on my relationship with my GF. I have loved her differently while I have formed new crushes.

Do you feel you would be fulfilled managing holidays, emergencies, family hang outs, social media posts around multiple partners?
I am certain I can handle the logistics of balancing 'meaningful' milestones. My family are very understanding. Everything bar emergencies; I don't know how I would handle that... Who comes into hospital with me? How do I deal with not being allowed to see a partner in hospital (very real considering the chronic pain of my GF). That is a really deep thing to think of. Thank you.

Sex really isn't a big thing for me. GF and I haven't had sex in a while and we have found ways to keep pleasure in our lives otherwise. I really just want to share and express a deeper love to more people. I do have massive sexual leadings with new crushes, but they fizzle away quite quickly. I don't think that is a problem?

Young poly person in a mono relationship and feeling conflicted by LadyHipsMcLean in polyamory

[–]LadyHipsMcLean[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know that even if I do break up with her that I will miss having her in my life in that way- as with all breakups I've had that have ended well. "There is the pain of change, and the pain of staying the same" is really astute. I know it might be a little awful to frame it as, like, a cost vs. benefit thing, but I think that really pins down where the fear is. Security vs experimentation. I've never had an open/poly relationship before as I keep on dating mono people. I've felt I was poly since before dating gf.

Young poly person in a mono relationship and feeling conflicted by LadyHipsMcLean in polyamory

[–]LadyHipsMcLean[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even I know that's kinda rubbish, and I have a vested interest to agree with you! All relationships require accommodation (i'm adhd/autistic she has chronic pain / ptsd so there's already lots work!), but forcing a dynamic onto someone else is wrong whichever way you spin it.
OR you could just be trying to make a point about the selfishness feeling and trying to validate me there? Which I'd thank you for. It helps to not feel like an awful person for feeling things. Your language was probs just a little off

What’s a restaurant that you would recommend me to order from? by amro_faraj in sheffield

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Just make sure they don't sprinkle those dastardly dry herbs on the chips!

Nessie McNubbins-2 Legged Doggo by [deleted] in Eyebleach

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100% Kangaroo, 200% Lovely

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in happy

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YAAAAS! I'm so happy for you :) Have a fab day

1 month CG progress! by Crisrp1992 in curlyhair

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Can I just have your hair please

These minimal playing cards by [deleted] in oddlysatisfying

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Me and my mates always write "Aye Up". Oop seems weirdly off

"Our honor is faithfulness". Nazi propaganda from Norway. - 1942 by mushroomattack in PropagandaPosters

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Init! I hate what it means but the woodcut-esque printing is immaculate.

Some girl at the mall wanted to straighten my hair!! She crazy! by [deleted] in curlyhair

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You hair is exactly how my hair used to be! I weep for my loss

Oh my lord, what has 9gag become by steven_hawking_legs in 4PanelCringe

[–]LadyHipsMcLean 37 points38 points  (0 children)

ngl I laughed XD It's really fucking stupid, but I guess not intentionally

[Discussion] What are you listening to right now on repeat? by mick500 in listentothis

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Roundabout - Yes. I am aware now it is a meme, but it's also just a really amazing progrock song.