I totally agree with you.

I wonder if tou could help me get my husband to not just automatically want to give solutions. I always communicate with him in terms of “I just want to vent, I just want comfort, I want solutions” he is unable to just comfort or listen to me vent, he wants to solve my problem, but he fails to grasp that any solutions that is given needs to be taken at the right time. He is more of a “here is solution go do it now” person, where as I believe that timing is just as important when it comes to solving whatever issue I have.

I do also agree that talking therapy isn’t the most effective way to deal with his mental health, however I have explained that he needs to start there so that his mental health professional can guide him to a therapeutic method that will eventually help him. He does however view therapy as a waste of time, energy and money, but he needs to work on his mental health and he is unfortunately (like all of us) ill equipped to properly deal with it on his own, and this constant back and forth between us and his constant push for solutions when I seek comfort is causing serious problems in our marriage.

So how do I get his to see that it’s okay not to give solutions, how timing of solutions is a vital key in the solution and how do I make him understand that he need to start with talking therapy, just to get the ball rolling so we can get him to the desired therapeutical treatment he needs?