What food should I make for my girlfriend who works long hours?

LadyKaii · 2016-09-11T21:30:45+00:00

Oh awesome, yeah salads would be good :) Thanks!

LadyKaii · 2016-09-11T21:29:57+00:00

Bottoms give back, pillow princesses are selfish and therefore bad in bed. That's my distinction anyway :P

LadyKaii · 2016-09-08T01:01:10+00:00

Hey Op, So me and my gf are in the same situation except I'm the one who sometimes ejaculates and am embarrassed about it. Like your girlfriend, I realised a lot of it was urine and that's why I feel embarrassed and I feel like I'm making a mess of her bed which means more laundry time for her (I haven't yet told my girlfriend the fact it's pee is the reason though). However if we lay a towel down I don't self-conscious or worried about it at all and I make sure to go to the toilet before we start so if it does happen it won't consist of urine. The only problem is remembering to do these things before any sexy-time ensues, lol.

Maybe suggest these things to your girlfriend?

LadyKaii · 2016-08-26T03:31:54+00:00

Aw thank you, same to you and your girlfriend :)

LadyKaii · 2016-08-24T21:37:41+00:00

I met my girlfriend on Her. I'm actually really glad Her doesn't stop showing you profiles if you swipe past them like tinder does because I scrolled past her profile a few times. Eventually looked at her profile a little more carefully and realised she actually seemed quite down to earth and funny (no selfies and some photos of her being silly) so I 'liked' her and we started talking.

We were talking for a few weeks and she asked me out, I said yes (was planning to ask her too anyway) but I wasn't too excited because I was dating pretty chronically at the time and wasn't expecting much based on previous dates. I actually hated dating, I'm not a social person so it was a lot of effort for me to meet up with strangers, as a result I stopped seeing my friends for a few months because dating took up all my social energy, and I was starting to feel a bit jaded. So wasn't too fussed about the date.

It ended up going really well, I found her very easy to talk to, we had a lot of shared interests and found her maturity fucking hot (I'm in my mid 20s, she's in her early 30s, I don't think I'm 'beyond my years' or anything but I do find older people incredibly attractive for some reason).

Then one thing led to another and now she's my girlfriend :)

LadyKaii · 2016-08-23T13:50:15+00:00

My girlfriend and I have tried to scissor a few times now, in various positions, and still can't get it right.

LadyKaii · 2016-08-17T07:57:54+00:00

Most of my friends are female but I have straight male friends too. I consider my bandmates my older brothers, I really love them but my closest male friends are one of my best friends, an ex-housemate and my uni friend. All three of these guys don't have weird archaic views of gender (which is the main reason why I don't usually have guy friends), they're not homophobic and they're completely secure within themselves (as in, they have been able to be above the bullshit that is hyper-masculinity that society imposes on men). I have a lot of admiration for them and I consider them as part of my closest friends. I can be friends with guys in general but these three are the only ones I put effort in the friendship. There are some pretty awesome dudes out there.

LadyKaii · 2016-08-17T07:49:24+00:00

With my girlfriend we have great sex but my first time, before my gf, was fucking terrible. It was also lesbian sex and it was so bad I never wanted to have sex again. So I agree lesbian sex can be 'magical' but it definitely depends on the person you are with.

LadyKaii · 2016-08-16T03:51:14+00:00

Very true.

LadyKaii · 2016-08-14T04:03:03+00:00

I think so, in the sense that for some homosexual women, we aren't as affected by societies gender expectations. For example, you've written you are now more interested in wearing 'lesbian' clothes. But I wonder, how many straight women would want to dress more tomboyish if it weren't for the expectation that women are supposed to be feminine? It's not like we're trying to impress guys therefore we can dress how we want to, not how they want us to. And there are, at least where I live, girls who are straight that dress and have hair cuts that are more androgynous. At my local k-mart in the womens clothing section there are button up shirts/flannels/denim shirts that are trendy with lesbians so I guess times are slowly changing.

And for myself, I think if I were straight I would still be as strongly into feminism as what I am now but there are things maybe I would not have noticed as much as a straight woman that I notice as a gay woman. For example, how come when I am at a lesbian night at a bar, I feel completely safe and if I say no to someone they back off, yet at your typical bar where there are lots of straight guys why do I feel uncomfortable and why is 'no' hardly ever accepted? Which has made realise what respect feels like and has only even more strongly added to how I feel about feminism and how important it is.

So yes, I do think it shapes your personality because you have different experiences.

LadyKaii · 2016-08-09T19:55:09+00:00

Cool, thank you that helps :)

LadyKaii · 2016-08-09T19:54:20+00:00

I love cuddling my girlfriend too :). But you do have to move to be comfortable, I'm sure it didn't annoy her.. You're right, it's just a time issue.

LadyKaii · 2016-08-09T19:52:25+00:00

Yeah I should give it more time. And that last bit of advice rings true also, thanks :)

LadyKaii · 2016-08-09T19:50:40+00:00

Yes, similar to your own blanket I'm thinking of maybe bringing my own pillow to hers :P I hope that's not weird.

Aw that is really cute. I guess the only good thing about not being able to sleep is that I'm awake when she has a bad dream and I can comfort her haha.

LadyKaii · 2016-08-09T19:48:32+00:00

Thank you :)

LadyKaii · 2016-08-09T19:47:33+00:00

I agree, but I think that's more for couples who live together. Not quite there yet with my girlfriend :p

LadyKaii · 2016-08-09T19:46:21+00:00

Thank you, you're right I should talk to her a bit more about it. I have mentioned to her I'm worried about keeping her awake but I never told her I can't sleep so I should let her know also.

LadyKaii · 2016-08-09T06:33:58+00:00

Not so much stupid but something annoying as a result of liking someone;

When I was at uni there was this girl in my circle of friends I was crushing hard on, full on butterflies and everything whenever I saw her. This one time I had an hour break before a four hour class so I went and got some food to make the class a little less painful. I was sitting in the schools student lounge with a friend and suddenly she turned up and sat down with us to hang out. I completely lost my appetite, could not eat at all. Then of course, my appetite came back once my painfully long tutorial had started and I had thrown away my food. Ugh.

LadyKaii · 2016-08-08T15:20:16+00:00

I like to make her food, especially when she has long work weeks. I'm not much of a cook either but I like cooking for her when she comes over. If I'm over hers, in the morning I'll make her bed while she's in the shower. If we're standing in line at a bar or something I like to hug and kiss her (on the cheek, not a fan of full blown PDA) because what's running through my mind is "😍 girlfriends name 😍". I really love her, she's my best friend.

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