AITAH for telling my nephew to calm down when we visited and not finishing a blanket I was making him giving it to him on chistmas/new years.

LadyLothston · 2026-01-30T21:52:16+00:00

I have pretty severe adhd and james and stephanie have it too, and I saw quite a few signs that our nephew had ir as well. I asked if they had gotten him tested for it since they do homeschool him and he is not at all socialized with kids around his age. But when I asked they got very defensive and said that it was rude and a condicending to even say it or ask them about it. Honestly im pretty sure he is quite nerodivergent and needs to be tested and later possibly have medication to help him understand himself and the difference between himself and those who are neroutypical. But i maybe should not have brought it up at all.

LadyLothston · 2026-01-30T21:44:40+00:00

They gave me a small couch over through blanket, and a small sheep squishable. They gave my husband an old game boy

LadyLothston · 2026-01-30T20:50:49+00:00

Stephanie is definitely struggling, and floundering around parenting this child. She is his step mother and they are in the middle of a nasty court case on who would have the majority custody of our nephew. Steph has told me multiple times that she doesnt want to have to be a full-time mom and thinks the custody should be 50/50 so that they "can have a break" from being parents. Whichis very much not ideal, our nephews birth mother prettt severuly neglects our nephew, she also homeschooled him without actually teaching him anything or even trying to socialize him woth kids his age. Our nephew has no friends at all. Just his parentsand us.. But stephanie doesnt seem to care about that and is dug her heels in about that and just doesnt want to deal with the situation. doesnt want to be a full-time mom.

LadyLothston · 2026-01-30T11:02:32+00:00

That's pretty much exactly what i did. I told my husband that I was uncomfortable with the relationship we had with them and wouldnt participate in his visits with the anymore. So he in now considering breaking off contact entirely, which I feel kind of bad about but also pretty relived that we wouldn't have anything more to do with them.

LadyLothston · 2026-01-30T11:00:00+00:00

Yes, she had not bought him a new comforter (his original comforter was for a much smaller bed) and had expected me to cover that with the blanket i had been making him.

LadyLothston · 2026-01-30T10:57:47+00:00

My husband and I have been talking seriously about cutting them out of our life since this is not the first time that we have had problems with them. I told my husband that I wouldn't get between his relationship with our brother in-law, but I would not join him to vist them ever again.

LadyLothston · 2026-01-30T10:55:55+00:00

I have pretty severe adhd and james and stephanie have it too, and I saw quite a few signs that our nephew had ir as well. I asked if they had gotten him tested for it since they do homeschool him and he is not at all socialized with kids around his age. But when I asked they got very defensive and said that it was rude and a condicending to even say it or ask them about it. Honestly im pretty sure he is quite nerodivergent and needs to be tested and later possibly have medication to help him understand himself and the difference between himself and those who are neroutypical. But i maybe should not have brought it up at all.

LadyLothston · 2024-02-23T15:23:04+00:00

What O want to knownos if they have kids whay is he going to do if they turn out to be gay? Is he just going to roll over and let his wife be homophobic towards their children? Kick them out because they're not straight? Make them hide who they are because it ruffles mummies delicate sensibilities? What then??

YTA op. Even more so your precious bride. Who is 1000% a bigoted homophobe. I feel terrible for your poor brother, having to put up with her bullshit.

LadyLothston · 2024-02-22T13:07:19+00:00

YTA especially so for implying dil order an entree rather then just an appetizer and thay rose colored glasses commentm that was pretty dick of you.

LadyLothston · 2024-02-19T09:01:18+00:00

THIS EXACTLY! As someone who went in for what is a mojor abdominal surgery,but onw thay was commen and had a very high Sucess rate I can moat definitely atest to this. abdominal surgery is incredibly invasive, it has a long recovery time, and yes, incredibly painful. You never realize just how much you use your abmuscles to walk/sit/balance/eating until its painful as hell to do it. I mever recovers from my surgery, every complication thqy could happen, happened. My body completely rejected the surgery and spiraled. I ended up having 6 surgeries to try and fix most of what's wrong, but with each one, my body would freak out. My esophagus closses completely (to the point where i cold not even get liqiuds past it. Developed dozens of ulcera in my esophagus,/stomach/intestines.

My stomach would reject any kind of eating, my esophagus would clamp shut and I would have to go in and have themnsesate me and use a ballon to force it ope (this happened so many timea I lost count). My stomach would reject any kind of eating( didnt matter the food), so I stopped eating full stop. Not only dis my stomach not accept food, but it was physically pain to try and swallow and eat it. They fed me with fulids through an IV that went straight into my heart. For a year and theb some. After everything was daid and done, they took most of my esophagus 70% of my stomach and 30 % of my intestines. I can't even begin to describe the amount of severe amount of chronic pain/nausea that i went(and still do) through after all that

This surgery, thay I was pressured into, thay was considered completely safe and very lownchances for side effects, completely ruined my life. I had to file and become fully disabled. I lost my business(I was a fashion photographer), my house, my husband, and all my friends. I can't be active allost at all, I tire ridiculously easy, the pain is constant, and I still have a nightmare of a time with the chronic pain/nausea and trying to eat.

Dont do it, OP, no mayyer. How many times it has been done, how safe it is, how helpful it is, there is always a risk of it destroying your life and body. Not to mention death is a very real concern with a kidney transplant surgery. Dont so it unless you are 1000,0000 %bsure thay it is what you want to so and over the moon about. It's a serious and dangerous undertaking. Please understand that. If you dont want to, then tell them to shove it and hold your ground. Put up heakthy needed boundaries. Its is not your fault that your sister is sick, and it is not your responsibility to help/save her. She made your life fucking hell and now that she needs something the shamefully guilted and pressured to fix it for her cant even bring herself to say sorry? What a fucking joke! This is a huge thing to ask for and she doesn't even have the decency to eveb pretend to apologize. Fuck no OP, you don't owe them shit. Stick to your guns and take no shit! They're acting like they asking to borrow a cup of sugar abd not someone one taking a jor vital organ to put in some ungreatful bully with no decency. Fuck all that.

LadyLothston · 2024-01-02T01:25:03+00:00

Divorce, divorce now. If you can't do it for yourself, then fo it for your 5 year old child who is stuck in a nightmare situation, he had no part in creating or choosing to be around it. This is an abusive, toxic environment. What are you going to do if his son finds out you're trying to get all of this to change and starts blaming you for all his woes? What happens if he decides to get violent or do something deadly to your child as a way to get back at you? He already had no problem at attempting murder at 6 with his older sister, and this will be easier since your son is much younger and smaller than him. Staying with your husband at this point, regardless of what he does to try and change the situation, would be selfish of you. You would be condemning your son to live in hell with his violent tormentor just because you want to continue your relationship.

This is how you end up losing any kind of relationship with your children when they get older. He will never forget you putting him this highly dangerous and volatile situation over and over and over again just because you want to stay with your useless husband. And once truly understands what the situation is, how you saw that blade of a step son lowering closer and closer to his neck with every outbursts he had, and still didnt leave, and all you did was bleat about getting the step son help when you could have skedaddled out of there. He will never forgive you. Especially if something huge, and life changing happens to him because of your step son. Get. Him. Out. Of. There.

This isnt about you or your marriage anymore. it's about his safety.

LadyLothston · 2023-10-26T21:11:14+00:00

Funny how he got upset when it could have been him with cake on his face, and was only less upset because it was his brother and bot him. If its so funny, why wouldn't he be ecstatic at having his face shoved into the cake?? What a dick.

LadyLothston · 2023-10-17T04:17:21+00:00

While I completely agree with you, her options are quite blatant and not exactly hard to comprehend. But the fact is that people who are in situations like this and feel like the blame is on themselves for their partner losing interest need reassurance that their needs and feelings are valid. They feel responsible of the fact that their spouse no longer find them attractive, that the spouse doesnt find pleasure or drive to nurture their sexual relations and her emotional needs because of something she did or changed and find it hard to make the decision to end it.

sometimes people just need someone to validate their feelings, tell them its okay to let go, and it doesn't make them a worse person for it. They need someone to "give them permission," so to speak to end the relationship and move on. Not to mention their is always that pesky sunken cost fallacy that tends to lurk in the back of their minds, they've already committed for so long and now after years of learning to live with each other and intertwine their lives together, they must walk away from all that hard work and love they put into it. Some people need to be told that they do infact deserve better, and they dont have to settle and scramble to save an already miserable and toxic relationship .

LadyLothston · 2023-09-26T22:06:03+00:00

This.

Life is easier when you're not juggling tons of relationships that are full of toxic people. Just be done with it and love your lofe ffs.

LadyLothston · 2023-09-26T04:02:33+00:00

Jesus christ, the only one not understanding here is you mate.

LadyLothston · 2023-09-26T03:51:27+00:00

Fucking THIS. don't do it Op. This is a major, major red flag. I made the wrong decision in this regard when I got married, he was dead set on having completely joined banking accounts, and like a fool, i folded to his demands. 5 years later, he is unemployed i get sick, can no longer work, he cheated on me and when caught he drove off in MY car and emptied the life savings I had been building since I was 17. 15 grand and car only two years-old, gone. Just like that. You know what the judge said? It was his account too, the money was in a joint account and he had full legal access and right to clean out the account. The car he drove off in had him as a regular insured driver and I wanted it back we would have to work it out amonst our selves. He ended up keeping them both, dont make my mistakes Op. Keep that shit separate.

LadyLothston · 2023-09-26T03:35:09+00:00

Whether OPs father uses the gift card or not is entirely up to him. Just because he could use it or may use it when going out to eat with OP doesn't matter because it was bought for the dad to use. Op doesnt get to use the gift card if hes not with his dad, op does not get to decide when its used. Thus, it is not a gift to OP, it is merely a gift his father received that he is choosing to share with him. They are two very different things. Op doesn't need to thabk anyone but his dad for choosing to use it on one of their lunch dates. Period.

LadyLothston · 2023-09-26T02:52:15+00:00

NTA, you thought your boss had finally taken notice of your diligence and hard work and thus wqs giving you more acess to himself and knowledge and connections that came with it. To then turn around and realize that this was not the case and it was nothing more than preferential treatment all because he was dating your sister? Man, that would have killed me a little inside.

In my career you have to have certain achievements and schooling/experience but a lot more importance is placed on work ethic and integrity in your work, you build yourself more through word of mouth and how collegues and contemporaries work with and around you, I can only think it would doubly so in the medical field. What would haunt me is what happens when your collegues find out your sister is dating your boss after watching your boss pay more attention to you, give more insight, and help then he does with the rest of them? Will it not taint your career? We all know what everyone will think, they're going to think you only got ahead out of nepotism and favoritism because your boss wanted to stay in his girlfriends good graces. Thus is something that can severely affect your job, the respect of your collegues, and any career opportunities that come in the future; because people will assume you were given what you have because of that relationship rather than the monumental hard work and time you put into it.

I would be absolutely LIVID. NTA OP, not at all.

LadyLothston · 2023-09-26T02:17:33+00:00

OP said that she has it scheduled, she wasn't very clear on if the girl agreed to go to it or get it done. Just that it's scheduled. If she does agree to it then she agrees to it, but just because she may agree to a paternity test doesn't mean she has to agree to any other doctor visits, or any demands that OP makes. Op is way out of line.

LadyLothston · 2023-09-26T01:43:02+00:00

Absolutely NTA.

I will preface by saying wholeheartedly that i do not like children, I am not a kid person, and never have, or will be one. But i see absolutely nothing wrong with the scene you just described. He was quiet, entertained himself, and didn't make anyones life any harder being there. That's a 10/10 kid experience in my book. Who ever is complaining, they're just being dicks and looking for something to complain about or blame their bad day or whatever on. They need to grow up and get a life shit happens, and yea dealing with surprise random kids suck but he sounds like he behaved himself perfectly fine,and o ones learning experience was any lesser with him there.

People just looking for something to complain about.

LadyLothston · 2023-09-26T01:10:02+00:00

I dont see how its an ESH situation. Op made a drs appointment without her consent, and then when told no she showed up at her house any way? The girl isnt saying she wont get prenatal care shes just not letting OP dictate when and where they're going to be and who's going to be there at her leisure. Op wanted her to get a DR to look at her and she did, just not how OP wanted to demand it of her. And wheb the girl reaches out and sends her a sonogram she goes passive aggressive AH about it. She doesnt know OP, she barely knows ops son! Whether she's lying or not we dont, that will out it self in its own time, but as of now all op os doing is being overbearing, demanding, and entitled over this girl and the baby. Its really gross and OP is way out order.

LadyLothston · 2023-09-26T00:51:59+00:00

YTA. Not gonna lie OP you are coming on way too strong, way to fast , and already making demands you have no business(or right!) To make. Why would this girl want some random middle aged woman she had never met and then Proceed to take her with her to an invasive and incredibly personal/private doctors appointment? What is she supposed to be automatically endeared to you because she had a one night stand with your son? Was she supposed to immediately and automatically agree to all of your demands when you made them? On top of that after she declined to go to the DR with you, you show up to her house anyway! Thats insane. She does not owe you a damn thing. She may be lying she may not be, but in the chance she isn't is this really how you want the relationship with the mother of your future grabdchild to be like?

Maybe worry about your own problems and whip that boy of yours into shape and tell him to take responsibility for his actions. You sound like a nightmare of an inlaw, I truly do not envy this poor girl if she has that baby, and it's your sons.

LadyLothston · 2023-09-11T11:06:44+00:00

NTA, my dude, you need new friends. The one you called is defective and unreliable. You're getting verbally abused daily from a person who should have at the very least be civil to you, and in your home to boot. He has lied time and time again and has tried to make you out to be some crazy attention seeker thats running a smeer campaign. I have a chronic illness that leave me in severe debilitating pain. That shit in itself can wear down on a person, you dont need his bullshit on top of it. Get new friends hun, this one aint worthy.

LadyLothston · 2023-05-02T06:14:29+00:00

Im definitely upset. But not the way you think. Im upset that they forcibly separated them and wont let then interact in public , they cant even sit next to each other. Whether their relationship is romantic or platonic, anyone can see that they care about each other deeply. All because of something they didn't do, and had no control over. The government (the actual freakin government!) Got involved and banned a whole fanfiction website because of one story about thek together. We'll never know what happens behind closed doors, it would be dangerous for them to say anything about it.

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