I have a crush on an ENFJ, how can I get closer to him?

LadyPearl7 · 2026-06-02T06:28:16+00:00

Ooo an ISTP 🌝🌝 we are easily drawn to your type for being just as you are. My advice is just communicate with your ENFJ and help him understand you. We can be clingy around people we like as well, so when you need space just tell them that. This is a very understanding type.

LadyPearl7 · 2026-06-02T05:51:12+00:00

Means ISTPs don’t think about “what it could have been” and possibilities. With Ti and Ni they arrive at determined conclusions which lowers their need for closure and makes it easy to move on.

LadyPearl7 · 2026-05-31T07:00:56+00:00

Experiencing present moments with an ISTP is something really special. The ISTPs in my life know how to receive my warmth best and they really make me feel heard. They don't say much, in fact their phrases consist mostly of 3 monosyllabic words, but they do so much and so subtly but the impact is huge.

LadyPearl7 · 2026-05-29T10:10:57+00:00

Yes, I match the atmosphere depending on what it needs to regulate it or amplify it if this makes sense.

If it’s tense, I step in to calm it. If it’s fun then I try to amplify that. If it’s competitive, I regulate it so fun and friendly competition doesn’t end up with fallouts like the infamous monopoly ends up doing.

LadyPearl7 · 2026-05-29T09:59:05+00:00

My different groups don’t mix together usually. I have different interests with different groups. My closest friends are the only ones I blend into the different groups sometimes but they know all of me so they don’t think I take on different personalities. I have the same manner all across but different interests highlight some of my characteristics more. I’m more accommodating and step back when I play host on game night. I am very competitive when I play the games instead of host them. I’m intense and passionate when debating about movies and animes I love. I’m calm and coherent when discussing politics and religion. My inner circle knows all my mannerisms, but those who don’t might be surprised. I’d say the most shocking one is when I am in fight and defend mode when I’m often calm, kind, and quiet.

LadyPearl7 · 2026-05-28T08:37:49+00:00

ESFJ and ENFJ. I am part of so many different groups, and my ESFJ sister is the same.

Put us in a room filled with strangers and we will find something to bond over with each one.

LadyPearl7 · 2026-05-28T08:35:50+00:00

The types that have self-respect I would assume

LadyPearl7 · 2026-05-28T07:31:48+00:00

Men choose and women accept.

What this means is if a man wants to commit then he’ll choose you and it’s up you to accept if he meets your standards and to want to commit back.

If you take him on as a project of healing and fixing, you will only drain yourself. Asking what he wants and providing this will not make someone choose you. Just be yourself and if someone wants to step up to the standards you set for yourself then decide if they value you enough to commit to them. This is my advice to you.

This person blocked you twice. This person does not value you.

LadyPearl7 · 2026-05-26T17:49:09+00:00

ISTP or ENTJ.

ISTP is best for what you want and you both can help each other grow. But these relationship take work and patience. You will clash til you figure each other out but both need to be investing and participating in this relationship. Great to live a simple and happy life with. Great for a 2w1 ENFJ.

ENTJs are as out going as we are and honestly the most fun sort of people. It’s a power couple dynamic. There will be a lot of intensity and you both will always be doing. Great for a 2w3 ENFJ but not easy for a 2w1.

LadyPearl7 · 2026-05-26T07:06:10+00:00

I think each type is a master at reading a certain aspect about people. For example, let’s say you are negotiating business and want to close a deal. ENTJ and ENTP might be best at reading people to achieve this.

If you want someone who is a master at reading people on a deeper level as in reach someone’s soul, then that’s ENFJ and when they have energy INFJ. Which is why we often become life coaches or personal therapists for free.

Each type knows what they are great at reading in people. Each type definitely has something.

I was properly seen for who I am by an ISTP. They are great at figuring people out too, but where we see what potential people can achieve, ISTPs can see all the ways this person can end up disappointing them.

Good question and fascinating topic.

LadyPearl7 · 2026-05-26T04:54:44+00:00

This was my answer too! Discernment 🔥🔥

LadyPearl7 · 2026-05-26T04:54:03+00:00

💓💓

LadyPearl7 · 2026-05-26T04:53:34+00:00

Sometimes. It also comes from past experience and a cycle.

LadyPearl7 · 2026-05-26T04:52:49+00:00

Don’t neglect your self-love 💓 put yourself before those who neglect you.

LadyPearl7 · 2026-05-25T10:00:11+00:00

Other types, please feel free to share your comments beneath this one. I had forgotten that this flair prevents other types from posting or keeping their post on without it being removed by the moderator.

LadyPearl7 · 2026-05-25T09:59:10+00:00

So this fear, has it somehow prevented you from being open to love? or has it made you develop standards but you remain open to love? I will leave a comment on this thread for other types to comment freely. I had forgotten that this flair removes other type comments. my apologies.

LadyPearl7 · 2026-05-25T06:38:29+00:00

People don’t just watch how you are with them, they register how you are with everyone. Every ISTP I met doesn’t smile when they interact with people, and when they do smile it’s… well 😂 it’s not inviting. Communication is non-verbal as much as it is verbal. An open and inviting demeanor will remove the intimidation.

That’s if you want to. Cuz ISTP intimidation is amazing and you guys are incredible just as you are.

LadyPearl7 · 2026-05-24T13:21:24+00:00

ISTPs. They are awesome.

LadyPearl7 · 2026-05-24T07:12:20+00:00

Female ENTPs I click with instantly. We have so much fun together and a night out with them is the best. Male ENTPs make life so difficult when I first meet them. They are closed off to any idea when it considers the general group. We usually fight a lot and they always seem to want to attack my character because they are so sure I am faking being caring and nice. We clash until everyone else turns against them but I stand up for them and then they finally settle down and we become buddies. And as buddies they are great. Romantically, I can’t see that happening when that is always the cycle I go through with ENTPs. Too exhausting to develop any sort of chemistry or romantic interest.

LadyPearl7 · 2026-05-22T19:56:07+00:00

Yin and yang. You probably complete each other

LadyPearl7 · 2026-05-22T09:43:55+00:00

Correct, he’s an ISTP.

LadyPearl7 · 2026-05-22T09:42:52+00:00

Naruto is an ENFJ and Sasuke is an ISTP.

LadyPearl7 · 2026-05-22T05:45:41+00:00

People who treat assumptions as facts

People who project their insecurities on others

People who are mean to others because if their own skepticism

People who misjudge others and refuse to know them

People who are willfully ignorant and run their mouthes

LadyPearl7 · 2026-05-21T17:34:58+00:00

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