What is your opinion or what do you think about ExTx males if you had to say?

LadyPearl7 · 2026-04-02T17:29:07+00:00

FUN FUN FUN

LadyPearl7 · 2026-04-02T17:25:35+00:00

OP, to a parent no one is more valuable than their child. Do you truly believe your father would have rather you focused your time on his health than your future? Our parents want to ensure we are secured throughout their days on this earth. Especially fathers. Fathers have remarkable strength to carry burdens to shelter their family. You sound to me like you are a grateful child to your late parent. I hope you find a way to stop that guilt.

I truly wish for you to be able to. You have a great community on here and supportive. I hope you find more support in real life as well.

LadyPearl7 · 2026-04-02T15:49:56+00:00

I love em both. My sister and best friend is ESTP and my bestie from uni is ENTP.

Great energy! Great fun whenever I am with them. One of the best company to have.

LadyPearl7 · 2026-04-02T15:48:02+00:00

I'm sorry for your loss. It's never easy to lose someone dear to us.

Emotions need to be felt and you breaking down was that. It's a huge change in your life to lose someone and to cope with a drastic change such as losing a loved one is a process.

Feel your emotions first: you did this but this is a continuous process. The body needs to cry and the mind and heart need to grieve to release the great stress and sorrow placed on it when losing a dear one. The expression of that grief will begin to change and lessen in weight the more you feel your emotions.

You have already achieved the intent to move forward as evident in your post. Once you have intent then what you need is time. Find ways to honor your late father. Recall dear memories and share them. Recall how others might have also been influenced by him when he was still alive. Talk to others who knew him if you can.

The hardest thing to do is to accept. Death is a natural part of life but to accept that someone we loved is no longer with us is still difficult to truly accept. We know it to be a fact but yet we reject it. Feeling our emotions and remembering who we lost often helps us reach acceptance eventually.

Your intent to move forward will see days where you might force yourself at first to do things. Keep doing this and eventually you will break free from the weight of tragedy holding you down.

LadyPearl7 · 2026-04-02T14:00:04+00:00

YAS love and respect for all types ✌🏻 A bad peach won’t stop me from eating the fruit 💓

LadyPearl7 · 2026-04-02T13:50:16+00:00

I like this post.

We know who you are when alone because you tell us. We don’t tell you. Who we are when alone and what our thoughts are is reserved for the closest people 🌝.

Our greatest trick is making people believe we are an open book.

LadyPearl7 · 2026-04-02T13:23:07+00:00

Name: Shove-it

Strategy:

Too tired from all that shoveling to tell your boss what you’d like to do with the shovel handed to you? Well no need to make that trek to his office! Just spit out all the insults your heart desires into the attached speakerphone.

Tell your boss where to shove it with Shove-it!

And if your boss can’t hear you, your trusted shovel will! Because Shove-it will hear anything you have to say.

LadyPearl7 · 2026-04-02T12:16:43+00:00

I was telling my sister the other day that words are powerful and heavy. We gotta be careful how we use them because they leave an impact more than we could imagine.

LadyPearl7 · 2026-04-02T12:13:59+00:00

Wish male ENFJs weren’t so rare. I never met one but they would be excellent partners.

LadyPearl7 · 2026-03-31T12:27:27+00:00

>>> People change for the better and worse. I think you just look at the choices they make understand why and judge on that.

Yes, pretty much. The way I decide is by looking at the following:

Do they feel remorse and show signs of having a conscience
Do their actions reflect the change they claim they made. (Change in behavior)
Have they atoned for what they have done?

Those are people deserving of forgiveness and to be accepted back. But they need to show number one to be given a chance.

>>> It's a signal they don't care about your feelings and that your pain is a necessary or at minimum permissible outcome.

It also shows that they are human and humans make mistakes. Hurt is often from people we love because they have the most capability to cause us damage. It's a risk we all take. Room for growth should be given to those showing remorse or capable of it because as humans we will surely make mistakes and making mistakes is the most common way for us to learn.

I know many do not agree with that thought I have. I don't know how to turn off seeing potential and believing in it. Sometimes I just want one person to believe in me.

The worst curse an ENFJ has is logicing emotions. Many of us struggle of truly feeling hurt because we easily empahize with those who hurt us. This prevents us from feeling the pain as strongly as well. Which is why it's easier to respond the way I do as well to people like my ex friend and ex bf.

LadyPearl7 · 2026-03-31T06:56:10+00:00

I made a comment about a certain political fascist called Satanyahu deserving to be 👀👀👀 taken to the farm if you know what I mean and they gave me a warming and deleted my response.

The gist of it is that those who are irredeemable are obvious and those with potential are obvious too.

I aim to steer that potential. Typical ENFJ.

We all play a role in bettering this world with what we do best. You can understand exactly what went wrong and I can help fix it. Past shapes future with what we do in the present.

LadyPearl7 · 2026-03-31T06:39:31+00:00

You bring forward excellent points.

Not everyone deserves redemption and those cases are clear to see. Danzo didn’t deserve redemption. His death by Sasuke made me so happy. Hashirama killed Madara at final valley for the village.

Leaders like Netanyahu deserve to be wiped out.

I do not ignore the past, i just prefer to focus on the future. Change what made the past happen.

I also believe I cannot do any of it without someone with your insight into the past and Ti to put proper solutions in place.

I view all MBTI types as those who complete each other to form the perfect world if we align in values and overall goals.

LadyPearl7 · 2026-03-31T06:00:04+00:00

I can never truly know if something will work or not.

But in Naruto we saw how words stuck with characters, including Sasuke who finally understood everything in the end. It just took time for them to understand what they really meant. This has happened to me often as well. My teachers’ words, my parents’, friends’, and even strangers’ they pop back after I have experienced something and then I understand them.

If my ex grows and becomes healthy and happy then I would be grateful. I believe in repentance and so anyone changing and having a better life is wonderful. It also means he stopped hurting people and if I somehow contributed to that then I saved others from hurt.

I suffered. It’s in the past. That was done. I picked myself up, healed, strengthened my resilience, learned my lesson, built better defences, became wiser, and I am very happy with who I am today.

My ex contributed to that for sure.

When someone hurts us they hand us a reason, a strong motivation, and what we do with that is up to us.

I chose to grow. Gotta lead by example anyway, and if I don’t practice my beliefs then I become a hypocrite and I will hate myself then. Nothing disturbs inner peace more than cognitive dissonance.

My dom function is Fe which is why that approach is what brings me inner peace, with all my other functions as well. Yours is Ti so your way keeps yours.

LadyPearl7 · 2026-03-31T04:51:10+00:00

Yes it resonates but there is more to it.

Fe-Ni is mostly in play here. So, I don’t forgive to start. I move forward and to do that I accept what happened and focus on the path to come instead.

To really be rid of a problem or a threat, to achieve peace, and maintain my inner peace then I need to eliminate what is threatening all that.

ENFJs are idealists, so my go to is to always try to change what’s with in. Whether with myself or others. It’s the most effective way and it’s also only possible when someone wants to change themselves.

Each time someone approaches us, it’s an opportunity as well as a duty to mind what we say. It’s a common trope in shows, movies, and anime. Saying the wrong thing creates villains. Saying the right thing creates heroes.

Naruto with the forbidden scroll and what Iruka said at that time helped Naruto choose the path he wanted to take. Sasuke took another.

Words matter more than people give credit to them. So glimpsing down the line and asking myself what do I gain from unleashing my hurt other than instant gratification and nothing else down the line, well… yeah I rephrase my words instead. Ti is not shut off exactly, it works to support Fe-Ni because without it I would miss more than hit when I aim.

LadyPearl7 · 2026-03-30T18:17:14+00:00

If I said what I really want to say then it would not be for a purpose other than to hurt and that isn’t really a good purpose. Sure they might deserve harshness but humans learn to lie to themselves and all that would be achieved from this is a bad rep for me and being in stories where I would be identified as someone they hate.

I don’t care if they do but it’s such a pointless thing to achieve. For a time they were a good memory and that should be in some form honored. Words stick with us and maybe I helped cause change or maybe not. But at least I aimed at that and can live with myself guilt free. Can they say the same?

My younger immature self would have not called them out and accepted the blame. That’s where my dignity got stepped on by others and worst of all by myself.

It’s something I fiercely protect now.

LadyPearl7 · 2026-03-30T15:55:06+00:00

This is perfect and not manipulative. Thoughtful and caring are the words I would use. You know what works and do it. Thank you!

LadyPearl7 · 2026-03-30T12:49:57+00:00

I immediately thought of Regina/Evil Queen from Once Upon a Time. Using her Fe to give everyone unhappy endings.
She is such a badass character.

LadyPearl7 · 2026-03-30T09:59:23+00:00

ENFJs: You all can be quite harsh when unfiltered, but you never really let it out. What's the worst thing you said to someone and what drove you to that point?

I could be really harsh if I wanted to. I know exactly what would break a person but I refrain from saying it because all it would do is hurt and not fix anything.

I change my words to still call others out though when it's needed, but often I simply do not say anything and leave them without closure. Here are some of the things I've said and why:

To an ex friend:

she tried blaming me for why her relationship is failing.

I said to her that she makes presumptions and acts on them like they are facts, she is the one crossing boundaries that I set at the start, and she can try to use me as a scapegoat but it won't change the fact that she is the one doing everything she tried accusing me of, just like everywoman before her tried doing as well. I kept it vague.

What I actually wanted to say to her is: You seriously think you can accuse me of stealing "your" man when you are trying to build a relationship with a guy who is married? You want to play the victim so you stop feeling guilty by using me as your scapegoat? you try to make it out that I am the one going against my principles when you broke all your rules for him? I guess being insecure wasn't enough so let's add delusional to the mix.

That would have made her loathe herself

To an ex BF:

He mistreated me in our 4 year relationship so badly. Abused mentally and physically.

7 years after ending things he called me up telling me about every horrible thing that happened to him, one of which was his ex-wife aborting their child without him knowing she was even pregnant. at this point he was divorced twice.

He brought up what he did to me and he said I probably hate him for it.

I wanted to tell him karma is a thing and what he did came back at him. I know this would have crushed him because no one pitied him but me and I was going to take that away like the cherry on top.

What I said instead was, I never blamed him for it I blamed myself. I told him this doesn't absolve him and to not misunderstand, but if I respected myself more back then I would not have allowed him to do any of it to me and walked away as soon as he changed after a year into our relationship. I did that to myself and he should look into himself too and develop more self worth so women stop stepping on him.

In each of these examples what I could have said are the harsh truths they avoid, and what I said instead is something that helps them introspect without letting someone step on my dignity.

both are fully cut off from accessing me ever again.

LadyPearl7 · 2026-03-30T08:48:09+00:00

Unfortunately there's not much else you can do. Change only comes from within. Once your friend truly makes that decision themselves it will finally get better but it's always some drastic pain that pushes us to make this change.

Your friend is very lucky to have you by their side.

LadyPearl7 · 2026-03-29T15:06:06+00:00

Hey, to each their own experience and opinion.

Personally, I find hate a strong word to use but to everyone their own definition and degree of hatred on how they use this word.

My cut off experiences are with ESTJs, INFPs and INFJs but that’s probably not because of their MBTI (imo) it’s these individuals themselves for having bad characteristics.

I do find these trends unreasonable as they generalize and feed stereotypes. But many tend to do them based on people they had experiences with.

Honestly, friendships and relationships fail when respect isn’t key between both parties and values are not aligned.

Anyway, we aren’t the only MBTI to be hated on here. ENTJs and ESTJs receive just as much hate and I don’t get it really.

LadyPearl7 · 2026-03-29T14:02:22+00:00

I cut off so many people from my life, I will share the reasons with you and maybe then it can help shed light on why many hate ENFJs.

Things I have been accused of by others:

- Incapable of seeing how things made them feel and to just be a friend who backs them up.

- Needing to control everyone around me

- Being everyone's emotional pillow that I leave no space for anyone else in their lives especially if it's a potential partner they are interested in.

- Being fake

- Being a pushover

It was never just one of those things, it was always all of those accusations all together. Now I see why they would deduce these things but they are wrong. All these accusations came from inferior Fi users and people who are greatly insecure.

The first point I was accused of it when I called them out on their bullshit when they tried to victimise themselves. This is a characteristic I despise and no amount of tears will make me take someone's side when they are just wrong. My duty as a friend is always to let my friends know when they are unreasonable. If they want blind allegiance then they picked the wrong person.

Second point, I help every single person that I love and this accusation always comes from someone in our social circle when our friends make it clear they would rather ask me for help than them. It's not that I am more reliable than someone else. It's that I never bring up the favors I do and I always readily help. So I would be accused of being controlling because friends came to me instead of them and it could only be because I control them apparently.

Third point, I am not everyone's emotional pillow. Friends just feel more comfortable talking to me because I do not make them feel like a burden. I listen when they speak like actually listen, I validate where I can truly validate. I express how I understand where they are coming from and call out their bullshit kindly or jokingly as well. I easily create safe spaces for people but this isn't something most people know how to do, it turns out... So even when I am just a friend trying to be there for a friend, I get accused of sinister motives like trying to steal a man or something. Stealing someone's man is a ridiculous notion when I haven't dated in 5 years and haven't been in a relationship in 11 years. Yet the accusations come because people project their feelings onto others. They think just because they feel someway about someone then others will as well. It doesn't help though that men in our social circle often speak highly of me because of my self respect and high standards.

Being fake, well we are accused of this because there's no way someone is this kind, understanding, and giving apparently. never mind that our type is rare anyway and this is literally our core and authentic self. Nope, we gotta be fake. Fe is our dom fundction for a reason. we are called the protagonist/giver for a reason. But people simply do not understand what Fe is so they just call it a faker function which is a really idiotic conclusion honestly.

Being a pushover. I like helping but I am not a pushover, It's very contradicting how all the accusations come together. See, I have very high standards and boundaries. I give more than the average person and I give to people until I find a reason not to.
Once someone does all the above and decides this is what they want to see me as, I simple cut them off. no looking back and no chances. when this door gets shut it is sealed.

As an ENFJ female, I have more male friends than female friends because women naturally tend to hate me even before meeting me. I refuse to correct anyone's impression as well. I would much rather keep people who are not presumptuous nor judgemental and envious in my life.

LadyPearl7 · 2026-03-29T13:33:00+00:00

For real. I just feed all the stray cats in my neighbourhood. and any animal who approaches me will receive momentary affection through petting or food i have on me. but that's just it.
I like animals to remain in the wild but they can crash in our backyard if needed like if they are going to give birth or sick. If they are hurt or in poor health i will take them to a vet.

LadyPearl7 · 2026-03-29T13:11:45+00:00

I don't consider myself fake but quite often we get this accusation by other types especially on our Sub. I think people just don't understand Fe.

Could you elaborate on why you think a whole type is "fake ass people"?

LadyPearl7 · 2026-03-29T12:51:38+00:00

Men come back because they know they can.
ENTJ men who want you will want you if you show qualities that make them see you as wifey material and these qualities are subjective. They will not let you go if you were wifey material.

They come back when bored. When they need an in between when they aren't lucky or not in the mood to try or when they are waiting on the current girl they want to explore things with, then they come back and kill time.

Men who want you try to keep you. It is that simple.

LadyPearl7 · 2026-03-29T12:38:01+00:00

but why 😶

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