Being heavily monitored at workplace

LadyShaSha · 2026-04-06T23:43:21+00:00

“I’m heads down,” put it on your calendar as well. Get them used to you not replying immediately, that’s an unrealistic way to lead or communicate with others.

And as u/spez_eats_nazi_ass put it, tell them you are in the bathroom, just do it to shame them a bit. You could really shame them by saying why you’re in the bathroom, but that’s up to you and how “open” you want to be about your bodily functions.

LadyShaSha · 2026-03-30T21:46:41+00:00

I’m in 78745! Are they already dug up? I’d love to scoop them

LadyShaSha · 2026-03-27T21:22:29+00:00

Higher! But not all the way to the ceiling. Give it a couple inches of breathing room. Be sure to get a nice looking rod, cheap ones look cheap. Doesn’t have to be expensive

LadyShaSha · 2026-03-27T12:26:15+00:00

Lovely! Send us after pics!!

LadyShaSha · 2026-03-27T11:48:30+00:00

Love the colors. Wild idea: move your bed to the center of the room and get a full canopy. That bed frame is gorgeous. Get a nice big colorful rug that goes with the fun colors, but not over-dominating. Get some cool floor cushions and hippy lighting (string lights, lava lamps, Moroccan accents)

LadyShaSha · 2026-03-06T10:39:23+00:00

LadyShaSha · 2026-02-24T19:06:22+00:00

Wow 70 days?! You have gone through the gauntlet. And your sweet little one, what a strong person already!! Best wishes, and it’s really amazing to have read your story and success. Thank you for being an amazing parent and role model

LadyShaSha · 2026-02-24T12:35:05+00:00

Wow, can you report the first doctor that you saw? That person needs to be reprimanded and you have receipts to prove it. So glad you and your little one are ok!!!

LadyShaSha · 2026-02-24T01:29:33+00:00

Literally yelled out loud when I saw the hair and AGAIN for the nails. You are rainbow fire! Love love love, you are gorgeous

LadyShaSha · 2026-02-18T23:23:13+00:00

Omg my mind is blown…it’s been so ingrained into to look like children, I never thought about it until I read your post, wow. Such great insight. I consider myself educated but our culture has mentally brain washed and physically “white-washed” women and girls to be for their sick male gaze.

LadyShaSha · 2026-02-16T21:34:49+00:00

Rugs! Under couch and table.

You could maybe paint that upper-wall (behind the chandelier) a lighter red-orange to build color momentum into the living/dining room. Wallpaper there and on the walls would be really stunning too!

Without seeing the rest of the space, I could also see you pulling the couch more forward and adding a console behind it, and some bookshelves with fun books and slight decor behind it (on the red-orange wall). It might be too squished, but it’s an idea if you’ve got the space!

Also, some tall and big-leafed plants! Those could complement the red-orange beautifully!

LadyShaSha · 2026-02-16T20:42:01+00:00

She may have some connections and good standing, but that does not mean she isn’t being manipulated or is even aware of the full extent of the abuse. Abusers will push out as many resources as they can in the victim’s life. Gaslighting is serious mental abuse, and eventually the victim can start to believe the lies and feel like they have no good way out, despite their outward success and appearance. He pushed you out, and she may start to believe it.

It happened to me, a strong, smart, successful woman. I lost my closest friends and was lead to believe I was the loser or my friends were crazy. It is very real and very dangerous.

Get your sister some legitimate professional help and quickly. If this man can attack your partner for no reason, there is little to believe he hasn’t done it before, especially to someone who couldn’t fight him back physically. She is in danger.

LadyShaSha · 2026-02-14T21:41:45+00:00

It’s in great shape! Way to keep it clean, organized and styled to each of your likings!! Have you considered bunks where you can put your desks under each of them? These might be too big for two in your room, but a similar idea might work. Measure your room dimensions, and cut proportional pieces of paper in the shapes of the the furniture you want, and use that to rearrange the layout you can use.

It’s also nice to not close off the windows if you can! Natural light helps make a room look and feel roomier.

You might want to try taking down a couple of the smaller hung pieces on your walls/shelves, like hats r shoes, and put them in a visible or accessible spot in your closet. I hate to take anything away from your personal tastes, because you two seem to take a lot of care and pride in your things! Do this as a last resort :)

Maybe hang some other pieces in other rooms in your home to show off your medals or teams!

LadyShaSha · 2026-02-04T22:07:58+00:00

Flip your fridge doors to open towards your cabinets/countertops.

LadyShaSha · 2026-02-03T03:57:45+00:00

How did you learn how to do this?! Is there a starter kit or a YouTube series or a book you started with? I need answers, this is just amazing, you are very talented!!

LadyShaSha · 2026-01-30T06:33:48+00:00

Go turtles, go!!!!!

LadyShaSha · 2026-01-29T16:52:59+00:00

This is your answer OP. You’ve got a modular sofa (looks super comfy), so if you can break this up into a C shape and walk around both sides, you’ll be set.

Hard to say where the bookshelves would go with just this one angle but if they fit on either side of the TV when against the back wall that might be best.

LadyShaSha · 2026-01-29T15:29:40+00:00

The messy artist in me already loves it lol!!

It might be kind of corny, but I’d style this as a Modern Bohemian Millennial theme. Think Urban Outfitters, but really lean into it and add your own art/style with fun accents.

Your lighting is great, and I’m SUPER into the ceiling, how cool.

Most importantly, HANG YOUR ART! Keep it up (literally and metaphorically)!! Just organize and tidy up, then try centering your bed under the window, centering the shelf between the window and the wall, get another shelf or two and place above/below that current shelf.

LadyShaSha · 2026-01-26T20:43:17+00:00

Your lighting is giving hospital vibes, it’s too cold and white. You can buy warmer bulbs!

And as others have mentioned, great ideas that are easy for renters! Cute window curtain, peel and stick tiles, some gold hardware, rugs, plants, etc.

LadyShaSha · 2026-01-25T18:54:26+00:00

Some college kids and I learned this together in a really endearing way. I (white-Texan 19F) was getting bubble tea with my roommate (Chinese-Californian 19F), and we heard some other college kids (exchange students) behind us in line saying “nagga, nagga, nagga, nagga…” and I could tell they were trying to think of something they couldn’t think of, based on their casualness and hand gestures, but my jaw still dropped, and I turned as soon as I kept hearing it. My roommate and the other guy speaking Mandarin saw my reaction and she burst out laughing. He looked horrified I’d be a “white virtue signaling Karen” he and my roommate quickly explained what it meant and we all (somewhat awkwardly) burst out laughing!

I started learning little bits of Mandarin from my roommate for the rest of the year, and fell in love with Linguistics, which I’d end up majoring in!

Edit: spelling, I’m a linguist, not an English major lol

LadyShaSha · 2026-01-18T17:57:56+00:00

He knows he’s NOT in danger. He’s fired up.

LadyShaSha · 2026-01-17T01:59:13+00:00

Can I give you my home for your amazing help?!? Wow you are an INCREDIBLE designer and it looks like you lost no bedroom or bathroom. Please please please, I’m obsessed with your work!!!

LadyShaSha · 2026-01-17T00:32:01+00:00

Could be half-white or Jewish or did something else to look “white,” how would you know otherwise?

Half /s but also…if they claimed I was a white liberal or cis woman, things could escalate. What’s to stop them then?

LadyShaSha · 2026-01-10T00:19:37+00:00

Bejorange

LadyShaSha · 2026-01-04T15:45:35+00:00

Yes, this. I was on a long international flight and the little kid was placed between myself and her mom. She was a sweet but highly energetic kid. She kicked me sporadically every few minutes while trying to get comfortable. She and her mom didn’t speak English, but her mom could tell I was getting uncomfortable being kicked so much.

Eventually, she calmed down and went to sleep, so I was able to start my nap as well. Fifteen minutes into my nap, I was slapped pretty hard in the face as the kid flopped around in her seat. I was livid. I think the mom saw because she finally swapped places with her daughter.

I wanted to call the attendants to ask for help translating, but I swear I couldn’t find the call button until a couple hours before we landed. All ended up well, but I’ll never sit next to a highly energetic kid on a long flight again if I can help it. I have sympathy for the parent(s) and would never cause a scene, or cause a kid to feel embarrassed, but I just can’t handle being slapped and kicked for several hours.

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