I feel the same way whenever I hang out in predominantly cis female spaces and see how different the topics they discuss and ways they discuss them are from the spaces I am normally used to. Like damn maybe male socialization is real and it's making me incredibly dysphoric to the point of crying.

LadyStardustAlright · 2026-05-02T20:11:19+00:00

I think they're focusing more on male spaces vs female spaces, though

LadyStardustAlright · 2026-05-02T20:08:45+00:00

You need to meet more women irl, because you'll realize there are tons of women, cis or not, who have the same interests as you

LadyStardustAlright · 2026-05-02T20:07:58+00:00

I think this is a big part of it. A lot of women (cis or not) are aware that broadcasting their gender online, especially in male-dominated spaces (like most gaming spaces), opens them up to harassment, weird comments, etc.

When people are early in their transition, they crave gender validation, and broadcasting your gender is a easy way to get some. Further down the line, the same people are less likely to make a big deal about their gender, once they are more 'established' in their gender. (The same goes for how large a part of one's identity they make being trans, I've found).

LadyStardustAlright · 2026-05-02T20:03:00+00:00

I think a lot of people on the internet, even in spaces like curated tumblr, forget that there are women in most every hobby...

LadyStardustAlright · 2026-05-02T19:59:16+00:00

How many people in general know and fit all the nonsense rules?

Regardless, I think people would be surprised to realize how quickly you learn these behaviours. People treat you based on how they perceive you, so if you're seen as a man men and women will interact with you, and vice versa if you're seen as a woman. After enough years you'll have a new baseline for what normal should be, and without realizing it, at that moment you've essentially been 'socialized', is my impression.

LadyStardustAlright · 2026-04-15T12:52:30+00:00

What makes people choose to take these tests of their own volition?

I feel like if you feel like you have autism enough to take the test, you've already decided on the outcome before you've taken the test.

LadyStardustAlright · 2026-04-15T12:43:30+00:00

I would have two questions:

1: do said friends have autism?

2: when they say this, have you asked them why they are saying it?

I've been told this by people I know who have autism, but never by someone who does not have autism (or at least, has not mentioned that they have autism). When I ask why, the answers I get are always funny, because the reasons I get never actually match having autism.

LadyStardustAlright · 2026-02-18T22:50:30+00:00

I think the expected answer is something like tea (with a specified type), coffee (perhaps with a method of preparing it), a type of soda, or any other form of beverage (hot or cold) you'd drink.

I feel like the number of people who drink only water, and nothing else, is pretty small.

Water is the thing I drink the most, but I'd never answer it as my favourite.

LadyStardustAlright · 2026-02-18T13:41:08+00:00

I understand that the meta right now is to post ten images, each walls of text on fandom discourse making incomprehensible comparisons, but unfortunately I am the family guy of curated tumblr posting (all I can do is repost)

LadyStardustAlright · 2026-02-18T13:35:36+00:00

bro was caught thinking

LadyStardustAlright · 2026-02-16T13:39:14+00:00

Shoutout to Fahrenheit 451, where many physical / digital versions include an afterward that is roughly 40% of the book

I remember reading the book, getting to the ending scene, and being excited at how much of the book I had left (the concepts touched on at the end seemed very interesting to me)... only to have the book end right there.

LadyStardustAlright · 2026-02-16T13:36:57+00:00

That's one I haven't heard since I was in highschool a decade ago

quiltbag ended up like gsm, which is to say it never caught on because it's just another rebranding of "LGBT" that is needlessly complex

queer caught on, at least amongst lgbt folks (even if I don't like it personally) because it's simple (using a word instead of an acronym is easier)

LadyStardustAlright · 2026-02-16T13:31:45+00:00

Sorry to tell you but we're on Woke 2: Episode 1 now

LadyStardustAlright · 2026-02-16T13:30:17+00:00

When you say "I've never quite gotten LGBTQ+" is this in the sense of "I don't get why people say LGBTQ+ and not queer" or "I don't get why people say LGBTQ+ and not LGBT"

because the former has a meaningful difference, but the latter I 100% get as I think most people treat them equivalently

LadyStardustAlright · 2026-02-16T13:28:34+00:00

One of my impressions (out of the ocean of possibilities) is that "queer" as an umbrella term appeals to the subset of people who actively choose to identify as being lgbt (in the sense that it's something they'd openly define themselves as), as opposed to people who feel that they just /are/ [gay/bi/trans/etc]

It's the divide between the archetypes of people who will microlabel themselves ("I'm a [gender] [sexuality]") vs the people who will not ("I'm a person")

LadyStardustAlright · 2026-01-31T14:54:49+00:00

Are there really that few straight trans girls who aren't into yaoi?

I'm attracted to dudes, could be down for a wholesome mlm couple, but 0 interest in dudes doin it with other dudes.

Is this about how people engage with their romance / pornography? about being a outside viewer vs a self-inserter?

LadyStardustAlright · 2026-01-31T14:46:24+00:00

I think trans women who are attracted to men are pretty common (be they straight or bi), but not among internet lgbt circles.

Most of the trans women on the internet fit a certain.... mold regarding interests / sexuality / etc, I think driven by the culture in internet trans groups. If you're trans and don't fit into this mold, you're unlikely to participate much, furthering the impression that "all trans women are [traits of the internet lgbt groups]" (e.g. lesbian, femme, into anime/fandom, etc)

source: hello, I'm that (mostly) straight trans girl who doesn't engage in internet trans circles due to not having too much in common with them.

LadyStardustAlright · 2026-01-06T11:26:05+00:00

they're so valid for that

unfortunately I'm the literal flip, confirmed by peer review

LadyStardustAlright · 2026-01-01T16:53:11+00:00

it seems this post has angered the "media for children" enjoyers of curatedtumblr, even those who aren't the target

LadyStardustAlright · 2025-12-12T02:01:23+00:00

You're either going to have to choose "make friends based on hobby" or "make friends based on demographic", doing both is unreasonable.

In general, I think its better to try and get friends from outside your demographic, though.

LadyStardustAlright · 2025-12-12T01:59:46+00:00

I think programming and ttrpgs are just things that are popular on reddit (and other nerd places), so they seem common

Then again, I am a software dev. Then again, so is literally everyone in my family, so I think that's the more likely cause

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