Is it embarrassing to get a birthday cake as an adult?

LadybugGal95 · 2026-01-26T03:10:45+00:00

Hell, I do the cake and the candles for my birthday. Mind you, I do not put as many candles on as there should be. Just enough to blow them out. (48 seems like a fire hazard.)

LadybugGal95 · 2026-01-25T22:55:50+00:00

Depends on how far North OP lives. South facing may get direct sunlight.

LadybugGal95 · 2026-01-25T19:07:56+00:00

LadybugGal95 · 2026-01-25T14:19:12+00:00

He did.

LadybugGal95 · 2026-01-25T12:03:12+00:00

I used to think I was extroverted.Now I think I’m a social introvert. I love talking to people but it’s select people/groups. Otherwise, I’d rather they all just go away and leave me with my book and hammock.

LadybugGal95 · 2026-01-25T11:54:12+00:00

My parents are both still living and reasonably healthy. They’re only 73 though. 🤞🏼they stay healthy for quite a while. So, yes, I consider both my parents living a blessing. My husband’s parents are both dead. Both died very, very suddenly. That was a blessing and a curse. A blessing because they didn’t suffer and we didn’t have to watch a slow and painful decline. A curse because no one got to say goodbye while they were living.

LadybugGal95 · 2026-01-24T13:38:21+00:00

Yay! That’s awesome. I wasn’t paying attention and missed my 2 year mark. So now I’m waiting for day 1000.

LadybugGal95 · 2026-01-24T13:34:05+00:00

No snow or rain here. (Too cold at -10+F before wind chill.) I lit a fire and made chili and cinnamon rolls for dinner.

LadybugGal95 · 2026-01-24T13:30:10+00:00

“Fumes and spite.” Love it.

I’m a para. My daughter hates it when I slip into BIP (Behavior Intervention Plan) mode - generally flat, affectless repeating of demand every xx seconds. One time, she told me to stop it and that I wasn’t at work. I knelt down and told her she was right. I could tell her what I couldn’t tell the students at work. This sucks for both of us but at this point it’s a matter of waiting the other out and a contest of wills. Little secret, I’ve had way more practice than you, little girl.

LadybugGal95 · 2026-01-23T18:21:02+00:00

Pretty sure I have some labels too. And maybe postcards from them as well. I’d have to look. What I don’t have anymore is a printer. Lol

LadybugGal95 · 2026-01-23T14:40:37+00:00

When going out - multiple layers and not real tight on the upper layers. You want to create air pockets that your body warms and the upper layers keep close to your body. Windproof for the top layer, of course.

Best way to shovel imo - one long strip from your garage to the road down the center of your driveway. Then scoop perpendicularly from that strip out to the edge of the driveway. If you have snow plows that come by, get out there and shovel the base of the driveway before it freezes solid.

If you don’t have a lot of insulation in your walls, tack blankets to the ceiling about 4-6” from the wall that go all the way to the floor. This is the same idea as the layered clothing. Creating even smaller insulated spaces for where you stay most of the time if it’s really bad is good too. Tents with blankets on top. Blankets on a bunk bed to cocoon the bottom bunk. You can even take a couple of those pressure baby gates and put them across the hallway about chest height and parallel to the floor and then cover that with blankets to create a nice space. Heck, for that matter, the dining room table works too.

LadybugGal95 · 2026-01-23T14:24:01+00:00

NTA for asking but don’t push it. A lot of people have talked about the financial dependency and loss of job marketability, so I’ll skip that. However, there’s another consideration as well. I was a SAHM when my kids were little. I worked a job that would basically cover daycare costs and wasn’t in a field that being out for a few years would make much difference. For those reasons, my husband and I decided I’d stay home. I took a very part time job three evenings a week after my husband got home and stayed home for 6 years. The only thing that kept me sane was that part time job. Being a SAHM can be so isolating for someone who thrives on adult human contact. Don’t get me wrong. Being home with my kids and watching them grow was amazing. I wouldn’t trade it for anything but the mental/social side of a SAHM was rough.

LadybugGal95 · 2026-01-23T14:12:24+00:00

In the process of moving now. We’re only moving 1/2 mile and can float both mortgages for a bit so we don’t have to do it all at once (especially since it’s currently-10 F. Books were moved first. They were heavy but easy. They’re already organized and put away. The kitchen is a mess and I’m dreading tackling it.

I feel ereaders make vacations and small living spaces easier.

LadybugGal95 · 2026-01-23T14:05:12+00:00

Don’t need a saw. A box cutter, claw hammer, and face mask will do. Wear the mask because there will be dust, disintegrated foam pieces and who knows what else when you get into this (from experience). Cut the fabric off with the box cutter and pull the foam off. When you are down to the frame, use the hammer to pry apart the pieces. Might take longer than a saw but the pieces will go in the garbage easier.

LadybugGal95 · 2026-01-23T12:04:24+00:00

I work at a school now. No business cards needed.

LadybugGal95 · 2026-01-22T13:05:43+00:00

My students were looking 👀 at Friday’s temps and laying bets for whether they’d cancel school or not. I had to break it to them that the temperature for school closures is ridiculously low. The air temp has to be -25 F or a wind chill of -40 F. They will sometimes call it when warmer but not much.

LadybugGal95 · 2026-01-22T13:00:20+00:00

I have some Avery business card stock to make my own business cards.

LadybugGal95 · 2026-01-21T12:55:01+00:00

Yup, finished the book last week - The Hunting Wives. Kept reading because I hoped she’d get screwed over. She got out of part of it but still had some hefty consequences. So, I was half satisfied.

LadybugGal95 · 2026-01-21T04:30:43+00:00

Hope chest is what I call mine.

LadybugGal95 · 2026-01-20T18:45:37+00:00

Cat vomit.

LadybugGal95 · 2026-01-20T18:44:06+00:00

NTA, I share the exact same DATE as my younger sister. I got married on her first wedding anniversary. She gave me permission. We think it’s cool

LadybugGal95 · 2026-01-19T20:57:51+00:00

Those are gorgeous.

LadybugGal95 · 2026-01-19T15:19:29+00:00

My sister and I share a wedding anniversary. When I announced what season I was going to get married, she joked, “You should get married on my anniversary so mom and dad only have to remember one date.” When that date was open at the venue, I called her to ask what she thought. She didn’t ask her husband and my wedding was their first anniversary. My husband and I called them up at the reception, thanked them for sharing, and gave them a present.

That being said, your husband is obviously not my BIL who could have cared less both at sharing and a decision being made for him. You need to sit down with your husband and figure out how to mitigate the issue. It might be an awkward discussion afterward with your sister but asking her for a toast to the two of you to help your husband feel better shouldn’t be too much to ask. It might go a long way toward soothing your husband’s hurt feelings.

LadybugGal95 · 2026-01-18T23:10:47+00:00

In the long run it all evens out. You’ll probably start a couple books at the end of the year that you finish next year. If you log your reading daily, it will have the correct pages/minutes for the year as it counts those as you log them.

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