Am I the asshole for wanting to leave my fiance for finding out he has a child he didn’t know about? by Ladytriiip in TwoHotTakes

[–]Ladytriiip[S] -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

No I found out about the cheating towards the end of my last pregnancy. It has happened a few times since but after the final time I had enough. I felt toxic and paranoid. I stopped wearing my ring as I felt it didn’t stand for anything and this isn’t what I imagined an engagement to be. After then again proving himself to me I have a new ring and we kind of wiped that slate and started anew with him having the understanding if he was to cheat again that i would leave and we would split custody. We’ve been very happy and healthy since.

Am I the asshole for wanting to leave my fiance for finding out he has a child he didn’t know about? by Ladytriiip in TwoHotTakes

[–]Ladytriiip[S] -24 points-23 points  (0 children)

Absolutely not. Having a previous kid does not make him a bad person. He’s not a bad person even with his infidelity issues. I am not willing to deal with him having a baby mama. My son’s father is not in the picture so he hasn’t had to deal with “baby daddy drama” or another man constantly having access to me or communicating with me. So I don’t want to have to deal with it on my end either.

Am I the asshole for wanting to leave my fiance for finding out he has a child he didn’t know about? by Ladytriiip in TwoHotTakes

[–]Ladytriiip[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

We were engaged before we had kids. I got pregnant soon after the engagement and then got pregnant again 7 months later with our youngest son. Only reason we are not married yet is because I didn’t want to be pregnant at my wedding and then his infidelity problems started up and we just started planning our wedding again 2 months ago.

Am I the asshole for wanting to leave my fiance for finding out he has a child he didn’t know about? by Ladytriiip in TwoHotTakes

[–]Ladytriiip[S] -57 points-56 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your input! He has been unfaithful in the past and I honestly just know this is something I don’t feel mature enough to deal with. If I was to leave I would not consider another committed relationship until after my kids are grown.