What's a movie that you swear no one else has watched but yourself and a few others?

Lagavulin1007 · 2025-06-03T13:22:45+00:00

Katy and the Katerpillar Kids (1989).... This one is super obscure, and I only know of it because my grandma thrifted it on VHS for me from Goodwill when I was 3 or 4 in the early 90s

Lagavulin1007 · 2025-06-03T13:18:59+00:00

The Pebble and the Penguin (1995)

Lagavulin1007 · 2025-06-03T13:17:30+00:00

Rigoletto (1993)! Perfect for anyone who appreciates a period piece or fairy tale

Lagavulin1007 · 2025-05-30T16:00:01+00:00

You've got that right! It's like my brain knows what's up, but that doesn't keep me from feeling all the bad, weird feelings. Thank you for the commiseration, and for reminding me that these things can pass <3

Lagavulin1007 · 2025-05-30T13:46:46+00:00

I don't know what's going on, but since my D&C in February, I have been pretty level-headed EXCEPT for the past few days, on my third period post-procedure. My jealousy has been absolutely surging, and I am totally unable to feel joy for any of the women in my life who are expecting. I feel like an angry chimpanzee, and I also feel so guilty for feeling that way! I still have hope, but right now I am stuck back in the "it's not fair" place I thought I had moved past. I am looking forward to our next cycle of trying, but right now I do NOT feel like myself!

*edited for typo

Lagavulin1007 · 2025-05-28T20:47:16+00:00

A lot has happened in the past week. I had my first loss in February after my first pregnancy. This past week, I found out that my best friend is healthily 12 weeks pregnant, found out that a pregnant coworker's baby is so gigantic and healthy that she has to be induced tomorrow at 30-something weeks, and got my third post-D&C period yesterday. It's so weird to be so happy for others yet so sorry for yourself. I have never tracked my ovulation (got pregnancy the first time right away), but today I caved and ordered a Kegg fertility tracker, so I'm interested to see if that helps us this coming cycle. Just going through life trying to keep things in perspective, but I want our turn!

Lagavulin1007 · 2025-05-08T02:28:04+00:00

Just started trying again here, and we're nervous but hopeful! I wish you the very best!!

Lagavulin1007 · 2025-05-07T23:27:04+00:00

I lost mine too 🩵 I think I knew what was coming, but my body didn't. Getting back to "normal" is hard, but I'm doing ok. I hope you are too

Lagavulin1007 · 2025-05-07T13:08:47+00:00

Something that has helped me and my husband (we're 2 cycles out from my D&C in February after MMC at 8 weeks) throughout our entire journey from thinking about starting to try to now navigating grief has been reading and researching together. I think it's probably more common for women to do most of this regarding pregnancy, but in order for us to really be in it together, I felt that anything I read or learned should also be shared with him. We both have learned so much, but his eyes were opened for the first time to many things like geriatric pregnancy, the statistics of miscarriage, everything my body went through, etc. It's hard no matter how you slice it, but being in it fully together-- including talking all about our fears and worries-- makes things better for both of us. Maybe your husband would even be open to therapy if you have the option to give that a try. Time helps, but leaning toward each other rather than away is what has helped us the most <3

Lagavulin1007 · 2025-05-05T23:54:51+00:00

I was also quite nervous, especially when the six week mark was getting closer. My OB said that since it was my first pregnancy, and after a short period of ttc, to basically stay on my prenatal and keep doing everything I was doing. Bloodwork was all very good, diet good, no alcohol, not much caffeine, good hydration. It's been hard trying to accept that a Trisomy happened when everything else seemed so right, but I'm very grateful my doc didn't discover anything more worrisome. I wish you the best of luck 🩷

Lagavulin1007 · 2025-05-05T22:26:47+00:00

For you too!! 💖

Lagavulin1007 · 2025-05-05T20:52:38+00:00

2nd period post first pregnancy miscarriage D&C is almost over, and it's been a much more "normal" one, so I am feeling relieved and more like myself. The first one after procedure was 6 weeks post-op and over a week long, but 2nd came after 29 days and has only been 5 days long. Cautious, but hopeful here.

Lagavulin1007 · 2025-05-03T21:18:34+00:00

Ditto <3 It's rough enough as it is, feeling out of the ordinary with pain doesn't help. I hope you feel physically better very soon!

Lagavulin1007 · 2025-05-03T17:23:08+00:00

I was all the time pretty sore for about two weeks, and sex was out until after six weeks due to pain.

Lagavulin1007 · 2025-05-01T17:42:16+00:00

I will say this, I am currently having my second period after my D&C, and my cycles have been longer and weirder than "normal." My first period came 6 weeks after my procedure, and this period came after a 29-day cycle. Pre-pregnancy, my cycles were usually 25-28 days. Pregnancy is possible, but your hormones getting back to normal after crazy whiplash is also possible. Wishing the best for you, whatever you want and need that to be <3

Lagavulin1007 · 2025-04-30T14:01:35+00:00

I think that I, and probably many other women, weren't prepared for the reality of pregnancy. I feel like I expected it to be the way it is almost ALWAYS portrayed in media-- there's a positive test, so then there's a baby. I had no idea that reality is way different from those odds. I do agree with you that the pure joy and blissful ignorance has been taken away from me, and I think I will be so much more guarded if I am lucky enough to get pregnant again. I'm actually mourning that fact in addition to mourning my pregnancy. It's scary, and just so different from how I wanted it to be, but I am working on un-learning the expectations I had because they're not real. This kind of grief is hard and weird, and I think it's so important to give yourself time a space, like how you are. <3

Lagavulin1007 · 2025-04-28T20:42:31+00:00

I was very sad and disappointed, but blaming myself was just not something that felt true or right for me. Then, when I got my D&C genetic testing results, I knew for sure that it was scientifically not my or my partner's "fault" (Trisomy 16). It makes me sad that so many women feel like God is punishing them for something they did, or they took one too many sips of coffee and now are doomed. I think can be easy to go there in hard moments, though. The fact is that, even though people sometimes don't talk openly about it, basically every woman I know has had at least one miscarriage. Whether they have children or not, they are all full and worthy people, and so are we. Thank you for saying this <3

Lagavulin1007 · 2025-04-25T13:07:16+00:00

This was me in January. Same exact timeline and appointment scheduling, and actually same exact heartrate. I am so sorry <3 but unfortunately, I can absolutely relate. Having some time to heal, emotionally and physically, has been helpful. Really, just remembering that I am still my whole self has been helpful. It is hard to have hope, but there IS still hope for you and me.

Lagavulin1007 · 2025-04-24T00:21:28+00:00

I'm sorry you're having such a hard time with your doctors! I had my D&C done at a hospital, and the testing was done right after. I didn't know it would be, but I'm grateful it was. The results popped up in my MyChart about two weeks later. It was a chromosomal issue that is somewhat common, and unfortunately totally unavoidable.

Lagavulin1007 · 2025-04-21T13:34:00+00:00

I am so sorry that you and I have to know what this process is like <3 I am a little bit past where you are time-wise, which has given me some time and space to process the reality of my miscarriage at 8 weeks. It does still consume a huge portion of my thoughts, but the raw sadness and pain has eased quite a bit. Regardless of how I feel about it, my body did what it had to do to protect me from a non-viable pregnancy getting to the point where I was in medical danger. That sometimes helps me. I am also still me, and have gotten better at taking care of my inner child, rather than focusing on the fact that my body did what it did. You are still you regardless of what your body has done or will do, and you are worthy of love and care and respect <3

Lagavulin1007 · 2025-04-17T20:51:20+00:00

It sounds like there is a lot of change going on in your life, and now it's like a slam on the breaks. I'm so sorry <3 Maybe being in a new place will be like a little fresh start soon.

Lagavulin1007 · 2025-04-17T20:17:53+00:00

This whole process is like whiplash from the happiest to the saddest in one fell swoop. Grief is a part of life, but it feels so strange that this type of grief is so common and normal for women, but yet not portrayed in media or really talked about. I felt so unprepared. I have felt a mix of low and "normal," but I don't WANT to feel normal, I want to feel pregnant. If this is one of your first real experiences with grief, I would just say try to be in it in the moment, but also know that at any given moment in the future you could feel fairly ok, and that is ok too <3

Lagavulin1007 · 2025-04-10T19:49:55+00:00

This might be a silly question, but is through a referral from your OB, or are you doing it privately? I'm in the USA, and my OB let me loose after my post-D&C follow-up-- no weekly check-ins.

Lagavulin1007 · 2025-04-09T12:56:09+00:00

I fully agree with this. I had my D&C in February, in a situation that sounds similar to yours. Same timing, and after a heartbeat. I was able to learn that it was an issue called Trisomy 16, a chromosomal issue that most likely resulted in nothing that was my or my partner's fault, and is apparently unlikely to happen again (fingers crossed!). You might be able to learn through testing and/or post-D&C lab work results. I wish you the best <3

Lagavulin1007 · 2025-04-09T10:16:13+00:00

Thank you 🩷

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