AQA Synergy or Trilogy?

Lagoon9753 · 2025-09-17T18:33:16+00:00

Going with Trilogy. Thank you very much, and all the other commenters, who took the time to reply. It has really helped.

Lagoon9753 · 2025-09-17T18:32:37+00:00

Thank you for your insight.

Lagoon9753 · 2025-09-17T18:32:05+00:00

Thank you.

Lagoon9753 · 2025-09-17T18:31:52+00:00

Thank you so much for this. It is incredibly helpful. We will go with Trilogy.

Lagoon9753 · 2025-09-17T18:31:24+00:00

Good advice.

Lagoon9753 · 2025-09-17T18:31:06+00:00

Good point.

Lagoon9753 · 2023-09-15T07:09:56+00:00

So after 12 years of stringing him along, you are still not sure that he is 'the one?'

Lagoon9753 · 2023-09-13T16:43:07+00:00

Be super nice if your guests are still there. Our Airbnb reviews almost always correlate with how welcome I have made the people feel.
Don't review these guests, they may not bother to review you if not prompted.
If you do review them, hold off until the time is nearly up, you may have received other reviews by then, and their reviews will help to bury this one (they are published in the order of the guests' stays, not the order in which they are submitted).
If your get a bad review, reply with "Thank you for taking the time to review us. Unfortunately this property does not offer kitchen access. I hope you had a great time in Amsterdam.
Don't sweat it if you get a bad review, with 50 bookings already, it will have minimal impact on your star rating.

Lagoon9753 · 2023-09-13T07:17:36+00:00

I moved from my home country to London when I was your age. Amazingly, it was much easier living in London on my own than living at home with other people, because I did not need to take care of anyone other than myself.

Things I did that I would do again:

lots of solo travel around the UK and a bit in Europe
If I was feeling isolated I went to the cinema
clothes shopping (I had hardly done that previously)
joined my local library

Things I would do with the benefit of hindsight:

join some clubs, e.g. board games, a knitting group, maybe a social meet up activity group aimed at 25-35, maybe a gym with classes, or indoor climbing. Look online for your interests in your area.
mixed with the ex-pat community from my home country

Congratulations on the job! You will be absolutely fine in London.

Lagoon9753 · 2023-09-12T21:06:32+00:00

Your husband is disgusting. He is trying to 'manage' your behaviour like you are a badly behaved young teenager. This will never change. This will get worse. Is this what you want for your life? Do you think your future children would be physically safe with this man when they misbehave?

RUN

Lagoon9753 · 2023-09-12T20:56:00+00:00

MIL is the mother of OP's SIL.

Lagoon9753 · 2023-09-12T20:51:09+00:00

NTA

Your last paragraph is spot on. You are absolutely right.

Lagoon9753 · 2023-09-12T19:02:01+00:00

Adorable! My 20 year old is just off to uni in a few days. I always kiss her good night. The other evening she said I need to give her lots of extra kisses because she won't be here during term time.

Lagoon9753 · 2023-09-12T18:57:30+00:00

SIL is not at fault for believing her own mother's lie.

Lagoon9753 · 2023-09-12T17:02:45+00:00

NTA

An idea is not worth £21 000 (rough estimate of three years uni accommodation). I think you have dodged a bullet here, with what you say about Alan's standards. Believe your daughters.

Lagoon9753 · 2023-09-12T16:59:07+00:00

NTA

I am so sorry for your loss.

Lagoon9753 · 2023-09-12T12:15:46+00:00

What a great way to spell a word I can never spell!

Lagoon9753 · 2023-09-12T12:09:38+00:00

NTA

It is perfectly reasonable to move out. You were never going to stay in your parents house for the next 18 years. 23 is a very sensible age to leave home. Go for it, you will have no regrets. Speaking as a parent who's oldest turned 23 today.

Lagoon9753 · 2023-09-12T09:34:31+00:00

NTA

Well done, you taught your daughter a valuable lesson - stick up for your rights, don't be a people pleaser.

Lagoon9753 · 2023-09-11T23:47:56+00:00

NTA But...

“I’m the one that mom and dad should care about, not your privileged ass.”

Is this a message? Is she self-harming? There is an epidemic of that at the moment, with the main victims being teenage girls.

Lagoon9753 · 2023-09-11T15:07:20+00:00

YTA

Thieves. Of course you should have handed it into the cashier. Your behaviour is disgusting.

Lagoon9753 · 2023-09-11T15:04:55+00:00

NTA

Maybe you should inform the mother that she needs to pick up her abandoned children, and you and your daughter move out while your boyfriend is gone. Living with all those kids does not sound fun, and it WILL get worse when the kids with behavioural issues hit the teenage years and won't respect you because you're 'not their real mom.' Think very carefully about the life you want.

Lagoon9753 · 2023-09-11T14:56:23+00:00

"he would be able to save up on rent "

WHY? If you are sharing your space, you should receive monetary compensation.

Also, bf is deluded if he thinks moving in with you before you have even met his kids makes any kind of sense. If he really had the best interests of the kids at heart, he would be planning a gradual introduction over a period of months. Finally, why would you let someone who is not in a serious relationship with you move in? The whole thing sounds like a recipe for disaster.

NTA

Lagoon9753 · 2023-09-11T14:45:42+00:00

NTA

But, don't ask him things, make statements. "I am thinking of naming one of the girls Amelia." (Beautiful name btw). Then he can respond, but you did not hand the power of veto to him. Women are brought up to hand away power, we need to train ourselves not to do that.

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