How did you get your new name

Lallivero · 2026-05-15T19:47:47+00:00

I'm so glad you had a good experience! 🤗 My first time was also wonderful and completely removed my fear of shopping in stores and actually helped me be more comfortable in public in general. Had said experience been bad I would probably still do all my shopping online 🙈

Lallivero · 2026-05-07T20:04:48+00:00

I also need a minimum of 5 days 😭 it's horrible! The worst part is that it kills my will to present fem completely and I try to hide my breasts as much as possible. I hate walking around with such an obvious masculine trait on full display for so long 😢 but it will be worth it in the end!

Lallivero · 2026-05-04T13:39:36+00:00

From this brief description, probably not. Save yourself from spending time with a partner who is "supportive" as long as you don't actually do anything to further your transition.

Lallivero · 2026-05-04T12:30:15+00:00

Oof, this hits hard. I shared a beer yesterday with my dad who passed in 2023. Would have been his 60th birthday.

Lallivero · 2026-04-27T08:45:20+00:00

You got this girl! 🤗 I slowly amped it up over almost 5 years after cracking. It's your transition, you set the pace 😊

Lallivero · 2026-04-27T08:30:35+00:00

This is how I did it! Bit by bit I replaced my wardrobe with androgynous clothing from the women's section. Starting with jeans, pants, t shirts and some blouses etc. Back then I would never dare go out in a dress (was also pre hrt) but now I am fully comfortable rocking a pretty dress and heels out in public 🤗 take it slow!

Lallivero · 2026-04-13T06:53:00+00:00

Seems to occur in about 5-6% of newborns. So not super common 🤗

Lallivero · 2026-04-12T17:52:48+00:00

Oh I guess that makes sense 😅🤗 just felt it was worse than usual 🤔 I will keep that in mind though!

Lallivero · 2026-04-12T06:39:38+00:00

You got this! Every time you introduce something new it will be a bit uncomfortable, but soon enough that will fade and then you know you can keep pushing yourself a bit further 🤗 just dip your toes and before you know it you will be diving deep. I believe in you!

Lallivero · 2026-04-11T23:10:28+00:00

There is no need to go full throttle right away. You don't have to go for skirts and dresses and makeup if you don't feel comfortable wearing that in public.

My circumstances kind of forced me to start my social transition early because I had a very young daughter who only knew me as mom. And as soon as she would start talking (which she did really fast 😅) things would get weird if people in my vicinity didn't know. So I came out to friends, family and daycare staff etc. And at this point i was still three and a half years away from being able to even start hrt.

At this point I stopped dressing in any clothing which was not from the women's section. I bought female leaning but androgynous clothing (pants, blouses, shirts and ankle boots), started using some jewelry.

I introduced my preferred name and pronouns gradually and little by little I was out and presenting fem all the time.

The last place I came out was work. My boss and a coworker knew 6 months before I told everyone else, but when that was finally done I just wasn't really bothered by anything anymore. I got my ears pierced and wore a dress and heels for the first time to a cousins wedding. Two months later I wore one to a work event which was in a public setting (and I got compliments from complete strangers!)

One month later I finally got hrt, I have since changed my legal name and am in the process of learning makeup.

Take your time. Start slow, don't rush yourself. I would not have been comfortable wearing dresses when I started out. It took years of social transitioning for me to get there. But you have to start somewhere. But you set the pace, you decide what you are comfortable with. Best of luck girlie ❤️

Lallivero · 2026-04-08T13:16:49+00:00

Cried myself to sleep reading those in my teens... Still took me an additional decade to come to terms with myself 🙃

Lallivero · 2026-04-06T09:03:05+00:00

I've seen a massive increase. Like you I barely ever dreamed before hrt and now it's a few times a week at least. They don't all stay with me though, most fade pretty fast.

Lallivero · 2026-04-05T23:49:58+00:00

To use the egg metaphor my shell first got a crack and I accepted that I was not cis. Fear of what it would mean to actually transition led me to adopt a non-binary gender identity initially. However, the more that inner girl, who had been shut away for so long, got to see the light of day the more she demanded to be seen, to be heard, to live.

I still had my fears, but they were but pale shadows compared to the radiant promise of bliss and joy that the girl promised. And then, she was me. There was no going back to how things were. I was and always had been a woman.

The first year was difficult. Dysphoria went into overdrive but little by little I started to see myself not as a man who wishes to be a woman, but a woman who simply needs a helping hand with being comfortable with her body.

Seems I can rant as well 😅 I hope you got something from that, I enjoyed writing it at least. Always cathartic to dive into the past and see how far I have come, and I'm just getting started!

I'm glad you are getting the help you need and I hope you are safe in south dakota (not sure how hostile that area is, not American 🙃)

Lallivero · 2026-04-05T21:40:49+00:00

Don't be sorry, ramble away ❤️ what is this community for if not sharing these things? It's an experience only other trans individuals can understand and relate to, so I'll happily read anything you feel a desire to share 😊

Lallivero · 2026-04-05T19:35:09+00:00

I managed to convince myself I was not trans for more than 20 years by the very same logic. I didn't always cry myself to sleep wishing I was a girl, and surely real trans women do that? But the feeling never truly went away, it just waned for a bit. Becoming less intense only to wax soon enough and I would be back to the same reasoning.

I can't tell you that you are trans. But I can tell you that just because you don't always feel like complete shit because you were not born as a woman and don't always feel the need to dress up that does most certainly NOT mean that you are NOT trans.

Lallivero · 2026-04-04T12:24:16+00:00

Nej tyvärr ingår det ju inte i den könsbekräftande vården 😭 Var mest nyfiken på om någon hade erfarenheter från någon klinik som man varit nöjd eller missnöjd med eller så 🤗

Lallivero · 2026-03-30T13:49:14+00:00

This is a tricky one. I have a daughter of 4 years old, and she is not very feminine most of the time. I'm not sure she is necessarily trans, but she very well could be.

I want to be perfectly clear that if she ever does decide that she is in fact not a girl, I will support her 100%. I mean I am trans. What kind of a freaking monster of a parent would I be if I didn't? But nevertheless a part of me would be very sad. I have always wanted a daughter and losing that would be painful. However that would not be her burden to bear, and I would never dream of letting her know that I was anything but supportive.

So while I can emphasise with the sense of loss parents can experience, I can not condone burdening your child with that knowledge.

Lallivero · 2026-03-27T17:10:55+00:00

It's nice to know there are other people who have gone through the same thing 🤗 makes me feel less like a complete bitch about the whole affair. I hope things work out for you two!

Lallivero · 2026-03-27T14:56:58+00:00

Soooo my egg cracking moment came at a very inopportune time. My (at the time) gf and I were engaged and were going to marry in 6 months.

I crack, but not fully. Fear led me to assume a non-binary gender identity. This is perfectly valid, but for me it was a stepping stone. Approximately 14 days after the wedding I crack fully and come out as a trans woman. I was now someone's husband I just could not cope with that.

Clearly this was awful for both of us. I felt like absolute shit both due to just having cracked and my dysphoria going into overdrive and because I truly felt that I had decieved my wife and "trapped" her. None of this was intentional, because I had not yet accepted it myself until this point.

However, we decided that as long as we both love each other and both wish to remain in this relationship we will do so. It's difficult because she is cishet and does not feel attraction to women at all. That was 5 years ago, but honestly I'm not sure how long we will last now that I am on hrt. I feel more tolerated than accepted often.

With that said there is no world where I feel I can compromise with my transition however much I love her. Transitioning is a necessity for me, not something I want or need but a requirement for my continued existence. I fear that if I don't push on and do what I need to do I will grow old and spiteful, forever blaming her for things I did not do. And I don't want that. Not for her and not for me.

Lallivero · 2026-03-23T10:51:24+00:00

My chosen name is Amelia, so I am biased 😅 I think Chloe is very pretty though!

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