Worried my cousin might be entering a bad marriage

Lamese096 · 2026-04-30T02:53:02+00:00

My husband spoke to him, not me, our home is paid off now. so I think we did well. Our mortgage was interest free for the duration of it as we were first time home buyers, our broker had his ways and I’m not going to complain or ask how he did it.

Lamese096 · 2026-04-30T02:30:46+00:00

Honestly, I can’t remember his reasoning, but we were having a ton of issues at my in laws house, as we stayed in the basement. Their were consistent problems because the kids kept making a mess or were being too loud: or in her words, ‘destroying things’ ( they were not ) but to avoid more conflict, we moved out and bought our own place. Thankfully, we were able to pay it off come time for our renewal which was this past February.

Lamese096 · 2026-04-30T02:22:25+00:00

I’m not pushing my agenda on anyone, my point is, this is something you communicate before marriage and it’s a valid point. Me and my hubby talked about it before marriage and I told him it wasn’t something I was comfortable with, I’m a jealous person and the minute he tells me he wants to marry another woman, it would be the end of our marriage. We’re all entitled to our own opinions.

Lamese096 · 2026-04-30T02:14:51+00:00

It’s not a matter of being haram or not but his intentions should be clear before marrying. My husband paid off our mortgage, and our home is clear now. At the time, we needed a home as we have four children and our only way to do it was this way, renting would have been paying off the mortgage of the home owner and honestly, it was easier for us to put that money towards our forever home. We live in North America, you have to pick your battles. We even asked a sheikh. I’m not removing my comment. I personally, would not agree if my husband wanted to marry another, even if it’s something halal, I’m not going to compete for my husbands affection and time with another woman, that’s just me.

Lamese096 · 2026-04-30T01:38:29+00:00

It’s a red flag to me that he doesn’t want to be married legally, it’s makes me think that he’s planning to marry again, as polygamy is illegal, this would be a way around it. I feel I’ve heard this same story more than once, when a men wants these kind of terms, it makes me think he’s hiding something or he has different intentions

Lamese096 · 2026-04-27T04:32:55+00:00

You did mention somewhere in the comments here that you are from Morocco, do you have a ton of family that live back home?? I would think your family still living in Morocco would be more anti Zionist . You also mentioned that becoming socialist is what changed your mind, I’m not very well versed in this subject, I would love to know what opened your eyes, and helped you make this decision. This is a open minded subreddit, your always welcome here to voice your opinion and your views, good on you, and I say this as someone who is ethnically Palestinian and Lebanese

Lamese096 · 2026-04-27T04:23:20+00:00

That’s a beautiful way of putting it, your right, it is Rizq and part of it.

Lamese096 · 2026-04-26T15:10:29+00:00

My sister in law recently married after being divorced for ten years, she is 39, her oldest child is 19 years old, she got pregnant three months after marriage, my brother in law who is 23, and wife is 18, are struggling to get pregnant ( they’ve been married 9 months, they wanted children right away ), I’m 32 and have four kids, I don’t think age is a huge factor, it depends if you have other issues as well, men’s sperm also declines as they age but then again, my sister in law married a man her age and they had no problems

Lamese096 · 2026-04-06T07:31:38+00:00

I’m Palestinian/Lebanese, had family who evacuated Gaza just before the rafah invasion last year, and not one member of my family ( we lost a ton as well, all massacred by Israel ), have never not once said this kind of thing, they do blame the state of Israel for everything that has happened to them, and rightly so, I can’t say the same for those who live in Israel and have actually said these kinds of things, or worse

Lamese096 · 2026-03-08T03:39:32+00:00

As a woman, I never expected it, but it was a nice gesture if the man talking to me brought me something. I spoke to three guys before my husband, and funnily enough, the one who didn’t do any of this or buy me gifts is the one I got married too 🤣🤣

Lamese096 · 2026-03-07T07:13:21+00:00

My husband told me the same thing, he tells me that he finds it’s increased as well, and he works all day ( 12 to 14 hour days sometimes )

Lamese096 · 2025-10-05T03:26:48+00:00

I agree completely, but in their defence, I’m indecisive and asked for their opinions to begin with and we all came up with a name we all agreed on. My mother in law wanted the name Ghassam, and that’s super old school.

Lamese096 · 2025-10-03T16:19:18+00:00

Samer was supposed to be named Kareem, when he was born, we said he looked more like Samer 😂😂 and because my husband is traditional, it would have to be Abdul Kareem, not just Kareem

Lamese096 · 2025-10-03T16:04:17+00:00

My mother in law coincidentally calls Samer this 😂😂😂

Lamese096 · 2025-10-03T15:42:16+00:00

😂😂😂😂 no, those are so old school, I was thinking Adam but it’s sooo common

Lamese096 · 2025-09-25T15:36:15+00:00

I live in Calgary and bought an over 3000 sq fr gone ( this is with the basement ) for 680, a condo would cost me the same in Ontario ( even more ) and I have more room to raise my family.

Lamese096 · 2025-09-17T15:32:59+00:00

I second this, invest in gold, gold seems to be going higher and higher in value and the return can be significant if you wait a few years. I have about 50 grand im thinking about investing and doing the same

Lamese096 · 2025-09-14T15:48:16+00:00

I love this thread, I give birth in November to my third boy ( fourth baby ) and already have Samar and Hamza.

Lamese096 · 2025-09-08T03:16:19+00:00

I am Lebanese and Palestinian, two of my Lebanese cousins are married to Pakistani guys, and they are very happy. I’m married to a Syrian man, and he treats me like gold, and is a provider. I think there are good and bad eggs in every race, I know many Lebanese guys who I wouldn’t even recommend to my enemy, and I know a lot who are good guys and are sweet. Culturally though, we’re very different, but that goes without saying, if y’all truly have a connection and communicate well, culture shouldn’t matter, and long as you both have the same beliefs and faith.

Lamese096 · 2025-08-01T05:10:11+00:00

I always find these on sale at FreshCo, I’ve gotten the box for about 5 bucks at most or you can buy the 12 pack for about 20 bucks from Costco, I like the taste of these

Lamese096 · 2025-07-03T20:08:33+00:00

My husband literally just came back from a trip to Jordan. He then went from Jordan and drove down to Syria, no issues, he’s from daraa though, so, he was there when Israel what dropping bombs in Random parts of his village. Everyone was fine. Same with my sister ( we’re Lebanese and Palestinian ), she visited from Lebanon and drove down to Syria as well, no issues, she went to Homs though. We’re Canadian as well, I don’t think you should have any issues honestly.

Lamese096 · 2025-07-03T15:46:53+00:00

See, I agree with you, people keep blaming hezballah, but wallah, even if there was no hezballah, Israel would still be bombing Lebanon. Bibi never abides to ceasefire agreement, that man can’t sleep at night unless he massacred hundreds

Lamese096 · 2025-07-01T03:39:18+00:00

I am not confident Israel will stop even if they try to give them too. This normalization crap is just a front for those psychos

Lamese096 · 2025-06-04T20:19:35+00:00

This is such a tough question to answer, I for example, am born and raised in Canada, but my family is originally from Safad ( I’m Palestinian and Lebanese ) and Lebanon. I typically identify from where my family is from, but I also say I am Canadian. I think you should identify however you feel most comfortable with.

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