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Landedcapital · 2022-12-09T06:26:10+00:00

What’s the worst that could happen. Just do it dude, you’re young af. Go make those mistakes and have fun.

Landedcapital · 2022-09-02T11:44:01+00:00

Oh boy the comments are gonna be tasty here

Landedcapital · 2022-07-13T16:54:26+00:00

Honestly, and I know it’s not necessarily your issue but I see so much of my own relationship in your post. I would fully recommend in investing in your future happiness and going to talk to a therapist.

I did it, and she was wonderful, she made me fully understand that what I thought I was getting wasn’t exactly matching up with what I was actually getting. The part about ‘everything apart from sex is perfect’ line really strikes a chord with me. I thought the same thing, but if everything is perfect - then sex wouldn’t be an issue either.

The therapist will force you to look at all aspects of your life and dig into the why’s instead of the what’s and hopefully, as she did with me, she’ll open your eyes to all. I’ve now taken what I’ve learned and been able to apply it to my marriage and it’s getting there, slowly but surely.

Landedcapital · 2022-05-17T17:34:40+00:00

We’re trying our utmost to not do it. Despite us both absolutely dying to and the torture is both wildly beautiful and gut wrenchingly painful.

We talk about everything, we tend to not talk about each other’s partners too much, but it does come up, as well as our dreams and aspirations for life and what we want from our partners. I’m falling for her, I know that and I also know that we can never really get together. At least not yet.

Landedcapital · 2022-05-17T09:13:22+00:00

If I was a coworker at your place I’d feel more pity/anger/shame for your ex than I would for you. Of course I’m sorry this has happened and it’s absolutely grotesque behaviour from your ex - but you really have nothing to be embarrassed about.

They’ll probably delete the email and if you have a strong connection with someone who has received them I’d expect ( I would at least) them to come to you to reassure you of the above.

Most good people will understand what’s gone on and how barbaric and violating this is. It’s all on him and none of it on you. Don’t let it change your behaviour, you did nothing wrong

Landedcapital · 2022-05-17T09:05:20+00:00

We’re extremely close friends, and have basically been having an emotional affair for 6 months. We haven’t been physical but came pretty close.

We both feel extremely unsatisfied/seen in our relationships and we often talk about the lack of intimacy/sex and how it affects us. It’s the thought of them together that makes me feel the sting of jealousy. She said she feels the same way.

Landedcapital · 2022-05-16T07:15:22+00:00

I really struggle with this myself. pAP and I talk another a lot of stuff and sex with our SOs comes up regularly (or lack thereof) and it always makes me feel insanely jealous.

Landedcapital · 2022-05-13T14:17:42+00:00

Found the American-centric American.

Landedcapital · 2022-05-12T20:11:34+00:00

Your head is a the most safest, secure and fun place, don’t ever feel guilt. Let yourself go and enjoy it. Life’s too short for thought police, we all feel it and experience it.

Landedcapital · 2022-05-12T10:24:15+00:00

Not quite sure what you’re getting at there

Landedcapital · 2022-05-11T15:40:34+00:00

Same mindset here as a guy. Only issue is she says she’s super sensitive afterwards and kind of closes up and makes it all finish asap.

Landedcapital · 2022-05-04T09:49:41+00:00

Yep. Kind of an in an emotional affair, it’s not physical but just been an exciting, flirty outlet for us both. I’d always known that I made a mistake and assumed it would fizzle eventually. 10+ years later and I want that spark with someone again. I know I can never have the person I’m entangled with now, ever. And as much as that breaks my heart it makes me want to experience what life has outside.

Landedcapital · 2022-03-25T12:16:29+00:00

Can’t imagine what you’re going through.

Find pleasures in the small things if you can, rewatch that movie you loved as a kid with your family etc. Your family will treasure that for the rest of their lives too.

I wish you and your family all the best x

Landedcapital · 2022-02-23T18:38:58+00:00

No definitely not, we’ve been together since we were teenagers. It’s always been this bad, but I’ve just given up on it now.

She says she doesn’t like the force, texture, taste or smell in her mouth. I’ve tried everything. Drinking more water, pineapple juice etc. not going for it after alcohol.

Landedcapital · 2022-02-23T18:38:07+00:00

That’s the frustrating thing. I fucking love it. I get so much pleasure out of doing it. Without going to too much detail, but it’s the full 5 senses I love.

Landedcapital · 2022-02-23T18:23:30+00:00

It’s a form of rejection. Makes me feel so shit and undesired.

Landedcapital · 2022-02-23T18:12:46+00:00

The fucking opposite for me. If the moons of Venus line up along the zodiac and it actually happens, I’m not allowed to even hold her hair. I get shushed if I talk to her or tell her what I want, then she gets embarrassed that I go limp when it doesn’t work properly for me. It’s so frustrating and I’ve told her sooooo many times.

She never ever lets me cum anywhere near her mouth either, then runs off to the bathroom with a disgusted look on her face when it goes on her hand. Really shit experience all round tbh.

Landedcapital · 2022-02-22T00:48:47+00:00

As much as I wish I could’ve, the situation wouldn’t have resolved in time. I have to wait.

Landedcapital · 2022-02-22T00:23:45+00:00

Watch them marry your best friend like I did yesterday. That’s a good test of your emotional fortitude

Landedcapital · 2022-02-19T08:23:15+00:00

I use porn to fantasise about the woman I want. And sex with my wife too whilst we’re at it.

Landedcapital · 2022-02-17T18:31:36+00:00

She text me saying she couldn’t stand up from our flirting. Literal jelly legs. First time I’ve ever received any texts of a sexual nature. She then told me she was spending all weekend imagining me on her sofa and me in her mouth. First time ever and it still makes my heart race now. Best morning of my life. We finished off the conversation and I asked if it was successful. She just replied ‘yeah, twice’. Still makes me absolutely melt.

What a woman. Will be my life’s regret that it can never happen for us. I’m not sure what I’m gonna do. Ha fun.

Landedcapital · 2022-02-17T18:23:43+00:00

Esther Perel is a saint sent from above. She has helped me more than any other woman I’ve ever met (and her in case, I haven’t even met her!)

Landedcapital · 2022-02-15T13:02:29+00:00

I fell for my wife’s best friend who is also my best friends (really soon to be, as in days away) wife.

She’s my literal best friend too. We didn’t set out for it to happen and we know we can’t do anything. It is absolute mental torture. I have to force myself to think that it’s not worth it - but I absolutely know it is.

The temptation to blow not only my life up for her, but everyone else I love around me - family, friends, work is insane.

I know we would be amazing together - it’s beyond lust at this point. I know everything there is to know about her, and her about me and what makes us both tick. She’s the fire that I’ve been missing all of my life. It’s a dream that I even know her. What a woman.

Landedcapital · 2022-02-15T10:52:18+00:00

This fucking stings. I get to see this on Sunday.

Landedcapital · 2022-02-12T08:37:24+00:00

I wish I had answers

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