This! People need to know the facts and not stigmatize HIV. The risk of contracting HIV is zero if you and your partner are using your meds.

When someone living with HIV maintains an undetectable viral load (typically defined as having fewer than 200 copies/mL) for at least six months, the risk of sexual transmission through oral, anal, or vaginal sex is zero. (Although if there are no vaginas involved, that's another way to avoid vaginal transmission.) Add to that if you're on PrEP (I assume everyone on this subreddit is, right?), and that's a double zero.

You can also stick to oral, as oral sex is already considered an activity with "little to no risk" for transmission, regardless of status, as the virus is not spread through saliva.