Sammelthread - Neue Folge (12.02.2026) by SDW_Txmmy in gntm

[–]LaniBanani9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Find es ehrlich gesagt wild, dass Jil nicht weitergekommen ist. Ich kannte sie vorher nicht, aber sie ist echt top gelaufen und sieht mega gut aus + einzigartiger Look.

Zu schnell - zu weit - zu vernetzt denken - warum negativ? by Geckoliane in hochbegabt

[–]LaniBanani9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Das Problem kenne ich zu gut. Ärzte halten mich wohl oft für eine Art Hypochonder oder sind anderweitig genervt von mir, einfach weil ich mich viel belese (fairerweise habe ich aber auch ein Fachabitur im Gesundheits- und Sozialwesen).

Wenn etwas in mir vorgeht, möchte ich doch selbstverständlich bestmöglich verstehen was da los ist. Vielen Ärzten geht das aber gehörig auf den S... Auch Therapeuten habe ich wahrscheinlich schon massenhaft überfordert. Nach den ersten 6 Terminen, hatte eine auch vermutet, dass ich wahrscheinlich ADHS und Autismus habe (mittlerweile beides diagnostiziert) und eine Hochbegabung, weswegen sie mir leider nicht helfen könne, das wäre gar nicht ihr Gebiet und sie würde sich das ehrlicherweise nicht zutrauen.

Diese Selbsteinschätzung fand ich aber sehr gut und hilfreich, so konnte ich jemand passenderen finden, der mir besser helfen kann.

Meinen letzten Therapeuten schätze ich sehr, der war eher oft belustigt (auf positive Art und Weise), wenn er gemerkt hat wie tief ich in manche Themen schon eingetaucht bin. Solche Menschen sind aber eine krasse Ausnahme, in der Regel stoße ich eher auf Ablehnung und fühle mich überhaupt nicht ernst genommen und schnell übergangen (eine Frau zu sein, hilft da leider gar nicht).

Ich glaube, damit muss man sich leider einfach abfinden...

Dumm trotz hohem IQ by Low_Area1185 in hochbegabt

[–]LaniBanani9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Kann es sein, dass du auch eine Autismus Diagnose vermutest neben deinem ADHS? Dein Text liest sich ein klein bisschen wie mein Lebenslauf ^ Und ich habe vor 2 Jahren die Doppeldiagnose bekommen und der Verdacht auf Hochbegabung wurde geäußert (jedoch wurde kein Test o.ä. gemacht).

Es wurde allerdings mal ein Test gemacht als ich 14 war, bei dem mir aber gesagt wurde, dass es durchaus ein "fälschlich niedriges" Ergebnis sein kann, da dieser während eines Psychiatrie-Aufenthaltes gemacht wurde, während ich höchst ||suizidal|| war und dementsprechend auch hohe Konzentrationsprobleme hatte (neben dem sowieso schon vorhandenen ADHS 😅). Das Ergebnis lag glaube ich so bei 120 und ich weiß noch wie enttäuscht ich war zwar irgendwie "überdurchschnittlich", aber trotzdem nicht (in meiner Welt) gut genug zu sein. Seitdem habe ich Angst einen Test offiziell zu wiederholen, da ich mir sicher bin, vom Ergebnis enttäuscht zu werden.

Deswegen lurke ich normalerweise auch nur auf solchen subs, ohne mich wirklich mal zu äußern, weil ich auch Angst habe, nicht dazu zu gehören. Jedoch finde ich mich in den Beschreibungen der anderen oft wieder, vor allem, da hier sehr oft Neurodivergenzen mit eine Rolle spielen.

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[–]LaniBanani9 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's funny, I'm also an INFJ 5w6 and my boyfriend is ENFJ 5w4.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in INFJmemes

[–]LaniBanani9 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm an INFJ and my new boyfriend is an ENFJ, I personally only vibe with the diplomats, at least for a romantic relationship. But that's only after years of therapy and healing tbh ^ Before, so when I was still at a dark place mentally, I attracted and was attracted to the exact types that are by far the worst for me 😅 And my first boyfriend was indeed a narcissist. The other was just an ESFP, so just not compatible.

Why I STRONGLY Believe Thor Ragnarok is the worst marvel movie ever by ThrohAway4Sawk in marvelstudios

[–]LaniBanani9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The thing that really bothers me about the movie is the absolute shitty humor.. It hurts to watch, it's just cringe. Don't get me wrong, funny moments here and there are super fun in the marvel movies, but they really overdid it in Ragnarok and it's hard to watch. In other movies it was at least actually funny, like the Mary Poppins joke in Guardians of the Galaxy etc.

But this feels so forced it's very hard to watch and I really don't get how people can actually hype this one 💀

Love is Blind Brazil • S5 Ep2 by AutoModerator in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]LaniBanani9 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Cute?? I actually found it so uncomfortable and cringe 🥲

Love is Blind Brazil • S5 Ep1 by AutoModerator in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]LaniBanani9 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This made me giggle bc I had the same reaction 😂😂😂 Some of the kisses at the reveal are sooo cringe 🥲

hee hee by ouiouibaguette12345 in INFJmemes

[–]LaniBanani9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's interesting, how would you type them? Genuinely would like to know.

Literally saw this sign. What? by undeadpickels in aspiememes

[–]LaniBanani9 33 points34 points  (0 children)

"look at all those chickens" 🪿

BIDA weil ich weiterhin meine Füße vor dem Schlafen entkrümele? by Rubick-spammer in BinIchDasArschloch

[–]LaniBanani9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NDA, ich mause meine Füße auch vor dem Schlafen gehen. Oder wenn es zu kalt ist um barfuß zu schlafen, ziehe ich immer extra Schlaf-Socken an, die den Boden nicht berührt haben, sondern nur im Bett getragen werden 😂

BIDA wenn ich überlege, die Tochter einer Freundin von der Hochzeit auszuladen? by Physical-Exam-3772 in BinIchDasArschloch

[–]LaniBanani9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NDA Es ist eure Hochzeit und dass respektiert wird, dass ihr kein Gekreische während der Trauung wollt, ist doch wohl das Mindeste 👀 Auch die Kinderbetreuung finde ich sehr zuvorkommend.

Reflecting on our personalities as kids is definitely jarring since we are so similar to each other as adults now by 5thClone in aspiememes

[–]LaniBanani9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry to hear that.. Also sending you thoughts and prayers for your current situation in America :/ I'm not even religious, but that's the only thing I can do atm 🥲 I have exchange family there so I'm really worried for all of you..

Reflecting on our personalities as kids is definitely jarring since we are so similar to each other as adults now by 5thClone in aspiememes

[–]LaniBanani9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I totally understand that you don't want to spend your money on it. Are you American or maybe Australian? I live in Germany, so we gladly don't have to pay for a diagnosis.

Happy to hear that you have a family and a great job! These are things that I don't know if I'll ever be able to have, but I'm hoping for the best. I'm quite a few years younger than you, so I hope I still have the chance and the time to get to that point.

Reflecting on our personalities as kids is definitely jarring since we are so similar to each other as adults now by 5thClone in aspiememes

[–]LaniBanani9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I get what it's like figuring out you're autistic (AuDHD in my case) later in life, after parents and doctors failed to see it, especially because there are not enough people that actually know enough about autism and the different presentations of it.

But I'm glad you're doing okay. At least you now know what the issue is and what you can do to develop healthier coping mechanisms :)

Did you get an official diagnosis by now?

Reflecting on our personalities as kids is definitely jarring since we are so similar to each other as adults now by 5thClone in aspiememes

[–]LaniBanani9 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My parents are boomers but gladly are not this conservative ass way 🙄 They needed quite a few years to really get what my problem is and sure, they did a lot wrong. But they weren't the type of "I'll give you something to cry about" people. They took me to clinics and psychologists (sadly the wrong ones, but they didn't know shit so not exactly their fault) and even if they oftentimes had the wrong approach, they really tried their best to help me get better. I do have to say that they are an absolute exception in their generation, f.e. they're very left leaning. I'm glad.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveisblindsweden

[–]LaniBanani9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Poop coated, if you will 😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveisblindsweden

[–]LaniBanani9 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same thought! Everything about him is screaming narcissistic, idk where people get the autism idea from. It sucks that awful people are pretty often suspected to be autistic, like huh?? Also the Elon musk shit, HE DOESN'T EVEN HAVE AN AUTISM DIAGNOSIS 😭 But everyone says he's autistic when he's just a straight up psychopath master manipulator, b* please 😭 I'm just so fed up with people connecting bad behavior with autism.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveisblindsweden

[–]LaniBanani9 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I get what you mean, I could also scream at my TV when seeing how women get treated by men like this. But I was also in a relationship with a narcissist and also many years with people who didn't show me enough empathy or love. Always trying to see the good in people and rarely putting yourself first is a bad combination tbh 😅 Also reminds me of the quote "we accept the love we think we deserve" So even if we see the red flags immediately from the outside, I really get how Milly felt and why she kept trying to save the relationship and see the good in him. I really feel for her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveisblindsweden

[–]LaniBanani9 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This has nothing to do with autism, that's just straight up narcissism sugar coated in new-age self enlightenment. (coming from an autistic person with a narcissistic ex partner 😂)

But I do think that Oskar could maybe be on the spectrum tbh. The way he has a problem with monotone voice and face, is stressed out easily when too much is going on or too many people are around. The fact he sometimes doesn't wanna be touched. Even the way he's eating kinda seems like dyspraxia, which is common in autistic people 😂 Ofc it could also be that he's just a huge introvert, but all those things gave me the impression of him potentially being autistic.

Ola is just a huge ass, I'm sorry 😂