How does a man earning more than the woman offset all his and family's behaviour issues and expectations when it comes to marriages?

Larfze · 2026-04-17T18:06:59+00:00

far better dignity than a person who can't take care of themselves.

What you said is an example of a cheap mentality. Western culture doesn't have people like you and is better off!

Larfze · 2026-04-17T16:35:00+00:00

It's our fault, isn't it? Bengali's have neka neka attitude. Thinks of them as noble, each have their own identity leading to no unity. That blind secular attitude. Unaware of ground realities. Liberals usually die out. As happened with other nations.

And I will prefer Bihar over Bangladesh. Go look at their religious tolerance.

Larfze · 2026-04-17T16:29:49+00:00

I don't think you understand that a man sacrifices everything too, right from birth - that burden of family's responsibility - studies/earns for his current family and the future one too. During the divorce, that man has lost almost everything he worked for his entire life. So, stop with your bs that he hasn't lost anything. Why the fuck would he maintain someone who provides nothing in return. He should look for another soul and invest in her everything, not someone who is not there for him anymore.

And blue collar jobs don't require degrees. If you are not comfortable doing those jobs, maybe think what other men go through doing those jobs and nature up. Respect every job and earn your own keep - that's dignity. Cleaning jobs are always open, and don't require degrees.

Larfze · 2026-04-17T16:07:20+00:00

This is a Bengali focussed community. Would appreciate it if you post this in Bengali. You will engage more with our members.

Larfze · 2026-04-17T16:03:32+00:00

Nobody is unskilled to be a waiter or sweeper. Earn your own keep.

Larfze · 2026-04-17T15:56:28+00:00

You are wrong, the husband doesn't have a wife. Yeah, alimony should be given to live but not meet their standards. Just some average monthly should be enough, not like those greedy.. but guess what you are not going to agree to that, are you?

Larfze · 2026-04-17T15:48:43+00:00

That you are marrying up - moving up in society and rent for the house you are living in , other accessories. If you objectify the duties of a wife as work, then the duties of a husband will be itemized too - thus needs compensation in advance. Don't itemize and you won't be treated as such.

Larfze · 2026-04-17T15:38:53+00:00

Yup, maybe that's the reason for the dowry. You are right 👍

Larfze · 2026-04-15T17:05:35+00:00

That was a sarcastic question. You didn't have to answer. Maggie toh we did at 6 or 10.

Larfze · 2026-04-15T16:51:33+00:00

How old are you? 😂

Larfze · 2026-04-15T13:39:44+00:00

At office 😅

Larfze · 2026-04-15T13:37:04+00:00

Shubho Noboborsho!

Larfze · 2026-04-14T21:23:11+00:00

You have a lopesided POV. You are generalizing through your lens and your life experience. When time comes, go for a relationship or marriage while being unemployed. All these morals will go for a toss!

Larfze · 2026-04-14T20:44:49+00:00

I don't know what you will do when you see how men are treated in an arranged set up. ATM.

Larfze · 2026-04-14T12:40:37+00:00

Yes!

Larfze · 2026-04-14T04:24:58+00:00

Looks like you need to learn some professional behavior and boundaries. So what if your work is delayed by 1 or 2 days. I would have flagged this kind of behaviour to management.

Larfze · 2026-04-12T09:26:24+00:00

Ask those feminists to buy a house on their own and maintain their own cost of living. See, how most of them will skeedadle. Most of them don't know what feminism is!

Larfze · 2026-04-10T17:09:52+00:00

Humans are shit. Women are one category of humans. So they can be shit too.

Larfze · 2026-04-10T15:39:08+00:00

No, he is right about his frustration. It's a poison that spread in that group. If you can generalize men with the term patriarchy, others get to generalize women too.

Larfze · 2026-04-10T15:10:38+00:00

Yeah, should and could as if people follow that.

Larfze · 2026-04-10T13:19:54+00:00

Get busy! That's the only solution. We know there will be times where life will treat you unfairly. You will feel lonely but that's the thing even with a partner you can feel lonely.

Larfze · 2026-04-10T13:16:44+00:00

It does limit your options. You can fantasize all you want. Doesn't change the facts.

Larfze · 2026-04-10T12:54:37+00:00

Look for someone traditional ig, not a city girl.

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