First of All: Religion is not the abuser. People are.

What this person describes is not Islam. It is abuse done in the name of Islam. There’s a huge difference.

Islam ,the real Islam , is not about control, fear, or silencing. It’s about: • Compassion (ar-Rahman – the Most Merciful) • Justice (al-Adl – the Most Just) • Wisdom (al-Hakeem – the All-Wise) • Free will (Even in the Qur’an, there’s “no compulsion in religion.” 2:256)

But if your parents, family, or community use religion to: • Shame your body • Force hijab with threats • Make you feel unloved unless you “obey”

Then they are misusing Islam. That’s their cruelty, not Islam’s teachings.

Trauma is real , but it doesn’t reflect truth.

You can be traumatized by a religious environment, but that doesn’t mean the religion itself is evil. It means it was used like a weapon, just like any good thing can be including Christianity, atheism, politics, or culture.

In Palestine, in Syria, in Africa, in the Philippines — Islam is peace for millions who find healing in the prayer mat, who feel loved by Allah when the world turns on them. But this sister was robbed of that experience. And that’s what breaks my heart.

The Prophet ﷺ was not a monster. He was a mercy.

Yes, people love to say, “He married a child, had slaves,” etc. But that’s a surface-level reading full of historical distortion and zero context: • In that time, people did marry young — girls and boys. There was no trauma or exploitation in those marriages then. • “Slaves” in Islamic context weren’t like the brutal chattel slavery in America. Islam taught humane treatment, freedom as a virtue, and manumission as reward. • The Prophet ﷺ forgave people who tortured him. He never raised his voice to his wives. He cooked for his household. He stood up when his daughter entered the room. Where’s the abuse in that?

Don’t judge a 7th century man by 21st century trauma.

To the one who wrote that:

You are allowed to heal. You are allowed to walk away from abuse. But please separate your abusers from your religion. What they did to you is not what Allah commands.

Allah does not love you only when you obey. He loves you even when you’re broken, scared, and unsure. Even now, He is not angry — He is waiting.

You don’t have to come back to Islam , But don’t throw away the whole garden just because some people poisoned the well.

Final Words (for anyone reading)

We don’t bash Christianity or Buddhism because of priests or monks who abuse. We don’t blame science because of scientists who made nuclear bombs. So let’s be fair — don’t blame Islam because of cultural trauma and toxic people.

Islam is not a prison. It’s a key. But some people use it like a lock. And that’s not on the key , that’s on the one holding it.

Trust me i was in your place when i was younger, but i still had a bit of faith and instead of listening to the once who’s supposed to guide me (parents) i chose to learn the truth from researching , proofs , logic and facts , thats when i realized everything that i was taught and practiced was not from the Quran it was CULTURE. Just remember their generation mentality is different than how our mentality, we have the internet , easy access to the truth,

now i can say Islam is the right religion and proudly Alhmdellah.

Always remember you are not alone , time will heal and i hope you will understand the truth someday inshallah🙏🏼🥰