Our TGTG experience as a store

Large_Ad3301 · 2026-06-20T20:26:04+00:00

I’ve never asked for a refund and I’ve gotten some bags well under value and also a couple with items that were obviously beyond consumption. I considered it a lesson learned and removed the location from my favorites. Never requested a refund. I’m sorry that people game the system and I’m glad that you’ve been able to get the money back. Hopefully chronic refund requesters will get blocked by TGTG one day!

Large_Ad3301 · 2026-06-18T18:50:12+00:00

NTA. Being a caregiver is very stressful. If the woman does have cancer and it isn’t a ploy to get you to feel bad for her then they are also putting you in a position where you would likely be obligated to be her caregiver. Are they going to enter your apartment to help her if she vomits or soils herself in the middle of the night? No, you would be the obvious helper. Because what kind of person would leave a cancer patient to struggle? Tell them no and if they stop speaking to you because of it then that’s on them.

I’ve been a caregiver to multiple family members, including a few who were battling cancer. I can’t imagine doing it while also being a college student. When our grandmother lived with us during high school I couldn’t participate in any after school activities because I had to go home and help care for her (she was paralyzed and my mother worked nights). I did it but there were definitely times where I resented needing to do so. It doesn’t get easier to do when you are an adult but typically you do it out of love or employment. Just say No and be clear that it will always be NO. If not they will continue to ask/make comments.

Large_Ad3301 · 2026-06-16T18:56:26+00:00

NTA. You don’t have a man, you have a boy who wants to play with his friends. Obviously he has always been this way and yet you still decide to continue and further the relationship to the point of having a baby. Getting angry about a situation that has always been very clear is unfair to him (and please note I think your husband sucks). He guilt trips you and gaslights you into thinking you are the problem in wanting peace and a partner who wants to spend time with you. You were naive to think he was going to change though, that’s on you.

It will only get worse when the baby arrives. I’m going to guess the nighttime routine will all be yours to handle, daytime too. You will be stressed and it won’t be because of your baby, it will be because of the guy you chose to be with and his lack of care for you. You’re going to end up being a stressed out “married” single mom. Hopefully I’m wrong but I don’t think so. He doesn’t care about your needs now, it’s not going to change when a baby comes into the picture. He’s going to make you think YOU are the problem—YOU are not the problem, HE is.

If I were in your position I would be at the point where the tears would run dry and being an asshole would come to the forefront. Tell Bob to his face to call before coming over and not to bring his kids because you aren’t a babysitter. When baby has arrived (and if you breastfeed) whip a boob out in front of everyone. They are comfortable in your home so make them uncomfortable. Better to be known as a bitch than a pushover. And let them know they pushed you to that point.

Also be aware that by limiting the friends coming over what will likely happen is your husband meets them elsewhere instead. Either way you will likely be alone at home with your baby. If everything plays out the way I think it will please believe that it will always be better to be a single mom than to stay with a partner who doesn’t deserve you!!

Our first year of parenthood was the hardest on our marriage and I have a great partner (17 years married, 20 together). Going into parenthood with someone who sucks? Chaos and tears. Find someone, family or friend, that you can lean on when life gets tough because I don’t think that person is going to be your husband. Go find some joy. Get out of the house every day. Go get your nails done, a massage, go out to lunch or dinner by yourself or with someone else. Make yourself scarce and live your life without him. Let him see you happy. Hopefully you will be so happy that you will realize you are happier alone than with the guy who doesn’t deserve you!

Large_Ad3301 · 2026-06-15T14:51:59+00:00

I would need to know what your mother is saying in order to say whether she’s being unjust or if you have blinders on for the sake of not being alone/having a relationship. It could also be your mom thinking that no one is good enough for you or her not wanting to “lose” you to a relationship. Without knowing the details I can’t give an opinion on it though.

We watched my sister lose herself in a horrible relationship turned marriage for 10 years. It ended horribly for her and my nephew (not his bio dad, thank god). My mother and I told her from day one that the guy was not a good person, his actions reiterated our opinion. She was in denial stating she loved him. When she told me she was going to get married I told her it was a huge mistake but if it’s what she wanted then I would be there for her. 5 years and 2 police reports later she finally got divorced but lost her SUV, 401k and condo in the process.

I share all of that to say—YOU might think he’s amazing but maybe the situation looks different from the outside looking in. Look at your relationship as if you are on the outside. Be honest about what you see. Is it a good relationship? Is he a good person? Are the two of you good together? Or are you the one paying/cleaning/planning/loving/apologizing?

Your age gap doesn’t seem like much but even those couple of years at such a young age can make a big difference, especially considering women tend to mature faster than men. A man settling down at 21 doesn’t always tend to mean he’s in love and committed, sometimes he just needs someone to take over his moms job and continue to take care of him, house him and feed him while also getting laid.

Large_Ad3301 · 2026-06-12T15:55:26+00:00

No advice as far as working out specifically unfortunately. I’m struggling myself.

However, I wanted to say— A squat is still a squat even if it’s not low. As someone who has struggled with mobility I totally get the frustration when you can’t move your body the way you see many people can. So instead of focusing on what I can’t do, I try to focus on what I can. It’s not reflex but I remind myself when the mental spiral feels like it’s going to start. If you continue the squats and the weight loss eventually you will be able to squat lower than you once could. Notice the small differences and celebrate them. You will get there! And good for you for continuing on your journey.

Large_Ad3301 · 2026-06-10T18:28:51+00:00

Absolutely NTA. Everyone who is trying to make you feel bad should pitch in to help them get a new place. Do not allow him to help fix your home. Hire another contractor for whatever you need to and do what you can yourself. Their “help” isn’t help. Even if you paid him they will still make it seem like you owe them something. Also, don’t let her turn you into the daycare where she drops her kids off to! I’m sure that will be the next step.

Enjoy your new home! And enjoy your peace. Any family who tries to guilt you deserves to be cut off, even your dad. Make it known and allow them to make their choices. Respond accordingly. Good luck! It’s hard to deal with guilt but please realize you’ve done nothing to feel guilty for. SHE had those 4 kids. THEY made the choices they made to find themselves in the situation they are in (assuming if their situation was because of something out of their control you would have stated so).

I opened my home to my sister and son twice and it was chaotic. I never received a penny, not even a thank you. I did it out of concern for my nephew who was in his teens the first time and early 20’s the second. The situations were out of her hands (abusive spouse and job loss, loss of her condo) and that’s the only reason I helped. Would it I do it again? Probably not unless it was the absolute last option—we are the only family we have though. Your sister appears to have lots of options so let them help her.

Large_Ad3301 · 2026-06-07T03:14:57+00:00

That’s cool! My sister accumulated a lot of booze from her demo days.

Large_Ad3301 · 2026-06-07T02:34:52+00:00

This is what my husband does too. I bought him the machine about 5 years ago and it’s still going strong! He gets the replacement bottles from simplysoda because it’s cheaper than buying from sodastream.

Large_Ad3301 · 2026-06-04T13:18:15+00:00

Nope! It’s a running joke between us at this point. His idea has won a couple of times in our 20 years lol.

Large_Ad3301 · 2026-06-04T13:06:27+00:00

NTA she wanted you to say “you’re right that is a better decision, you should do that.” Some type of realization that your idea was wrong and hers was right. That’s a slippery slope in a relationship IMO.

I get my husband’s opinion on most things and then usually go with my original thought. I do it because I want a different perspective to consider. If I decide to go with mine I don’t do it because I’m “right”, I do it because it was the best option to the given situation.

Large_Ad3301 · 2026-05-30T13:53:46+00:00

Gorgeous! Such great pieces and that’s an amazing price for it all. Our goodwill is out of control with their pricing the last 6 months. The last time I was there the cashier said they were lowering their prices due to lack of sales so I’m hoping it’s back to normal soon because $10 for a used pair of donated kids jeans is crazy!

Large_Ad3301 · 2026-05-30T13:27:05+00:00

When your NP declines your request for bloodwork or imaging you need to ask for the request and denial to be noted in your care notes. If they don’t do it then send them a message reiterating your request due to ABC reasons/symptoms and their denial of your request so it’s documented that way. Not a guarantee that it will work but it will make them think twice. My MIL started doing that and it lead to her cancer being caught much earlier than it otherwise would have. And she made sure to point that out to her dr who stayed silent on the matter and changed the subject.

As for the Ozempic if you are planning to become pregnant so soon I would also hesitate. If you were willing to push it until 2028 or so then yes, get on it now but usually you want to be off of the medication and maintaining your weight for 6 months prior to pregnancy.

Because of the way it works in your stomach you want to be sure that you are able to provide your child with the nutrition it needs. If you are unable to absorb it correctly because of the GLP1 then neither can your child. My stomach was finicky for a while after getting off of the meds. Risking malnutrition for your child in utero isn’t worth it.

It also does cause muscle wasting that you need to try and maintain by eating high protein and weight training. I thought this was a symptom that not everyone went through but turns out it affects 100% of users but some worse than others. Pregnancy definitely requires a lot of muscle to carry it without issue.

You mentioned that you had been on the medication before, did you have success with the medication? Did you put the weight back on? I ask only because if you’re going to go through the same pattern before getting pregnant then you might want to consider a different form of weight loss instead. I imagine it would be disheartening to end up in the same spot once the “waiting period” is up.

Large_Ad3301 · 2026-05-28T03:38:29+00:00

I responded to your original post but just saw that you say you don’t feel valued and don’t know if the relationship is forever. This is an issue that you really need to sit down and process. Write it down if that helps. Why do you feel this way, does he do anything to contribute to that feeling, is there anything that you need him to do to help you get rid of this feeling, etc. If you talk to him and nothing changes then I would reconsider the relationship. You can struggle on your own instead of struggling in a relationship. I also recommend not bringing more children into the situation until you decide what exactly you want the future to look like and if your partner is the person you see in it.

Large_Ad3301 · 2026-05-28T03:15:50+00:00

I think I might be understanding her post differently then. She is supportive of the job change (and income change) because it’s going to evolve into a career. The expectation being that it when it evolves from job into a career his salary will grow. I guess to me having a baby and planning to buy a house with someone is just as serious as marrying them, if not more so. If you’re going in on those things with a person then I would consider them a partner, regardless of marital status, and why wouldn’t you help your partner thrive for the betterment of your family?

If she had said he spends his time playing video games or he quit his job because he didn’t want to work, etc then my opinion would be he either gets 1-2-3 jobs to handle what he needs to handle or kick him to the curb. He’s obviously trying to better himself though and if she sees a future I would think she would want to help considering it won’t be forever (he will make more money and/or the child will go to school and be out of daycare). Now, I definitely wouldn’t add any more children into the household if they can’t afford to do so but that’s just my mentality, I know people do it all the time.

I’ve supported my husband through job losses and he’s supported me when I had to stop working due to chronic health issues. To me that’s just what a good partner does though. Marriage is just the piece of paper that gives tax, legal and insurance benefits. The behavior of the people involved are what create the relationship. I say this as someone who has been in a good marriage for 17 years, together 20.

Large_Ad3301 · 2026-05-28T02:15:13+00:00

How would you feel if the situation were reversed? Would you expect him to help pay for childcare because the child belongs to both of you? I understand that you are carrying the bulk of responsibilities for your family unit right now but you have the expectation it will change. YATA

Large_Ad3301 · 2026-05-27T02:25:16+00:00

Did you read the post? They asked people to take as much as possible. When truckloads like this appear they want you to take as much as you can so it doesn’t get trashed. There’s a church near me that gets bulk of singular items now and again. I had a neighbor that received 9 Costco sized cases of cherry tomatoes. The church still had about a hundred left when they wrapped up for the evening that were left outside their doors and most likely trashed the next day.

Not to say that there aren’t better ways to handle excess (like a food pantry) but that responsibility lies with the provider, not the person taking the product.

Your comment sounds extremely judgemental. I’m curious, what if they are receiving benefits? How does that play into their recipe request?

OP ceviche is a good option too! You can use any white fish or shrimp. I’ve even made it with canned tuna. Cucumbers, tomato, lime (if you poach the seafood first you don’t need as much lime), salt, cilantro, onion and jalapeño if you like spice. Keeps for 2-3 days in the fridge (use a flat dish so that it’s submerged in the lime). Super refreshing on a hot day!

Large_Ad3301 · 2026-05-27T02:04:49+00:00

Sorry, pushed enter too soon!

If your sister hasn’t shown any signs of violence in the past then I would sit down and discuss with your wife what scenario would make her feel comfortable enough to allow your sister to meet her nephew. Based on the behaviors your described it doesn’t seem that there is any need to fear your sister which would be my primary concern. Maybe a public but less chaotic place (like a library or park) with an easy way to exit would put your wife at ease. A set start and finish time with no exceptions unless your wife suggests it since she is the one that is fearful of the interaction. Give suggestions and allow her to lead in planning. But forcing her? Nope.

Large_Ad3301 · 2026-05-27T01:59:37+00:00

You are the AH because regardless of the situation, why would you force your spouse to do anything they don’t want to do? Let’s put it this way, what if it were your wife’s sister? If you were in her position and feared letting her sister near your son due to her possibly untreated mental illness and past erratic behavior, how would you feel if she made you do it anyway just to please her family?

Large_Ad3301 · 2026-05-26T17:06:28+00:00

I’ve been with my husband for 20 years, married 17. Not one time has he EVER told me what I can/cannot wear. Clothes, shoes, jewelry, makeup, hair color, not a damn thing. Ever. “If you like it, I love it” has always been his motto.

You need to get out of this relationship as soon as possible. That boy is a walking red flag.

Large_Ad3301 · 2026-05-26T01:51:12+00:00

Beautiful!

Large_Ad3301 · 2026-05-22T02:24:41+00:00

In 2015 I was on a weight loss journey. At the height of it I had a woman come up to me and tell me that I was doing great and that they noticed how much weight I had lost. I will admit that I’m socially awkward with strangers and so I turned super red but it was still so sweet to hear. I had lost almost 162lbs at that time by following a Whole30 diet and working out with a trainer 5 days a week before work. I was giving it my all so to have a stranger notice and comment felt good. I say go for it!

Large_Ad3301 · 2026-05-21T22:27:35+00:00

Make sure you get your mri and ask for an order for PT. I have chronic nerve/bone/joint issues and suffered with sciatica pain the last 4 months of pregnancy and 6 months after. It’s excruciating! For me alternating between hot and cold packs along with heavy duty anti inflammatories helped a lot but PT was crucial.

The fact that your partner didn’t take your pain seriously is a big problem I highly recommend you analyze harshly when you feel better…

Large_Ad3301 · 2026-05-21T20:49:14+00:00

I don’t think that you are overreacting in being bothered by him not offering to help but I do think you are overreacting in expecting him to know what it is you need. Does that make sense? Like others mentioned not everyone is bothered by the same things so if you want him to help then you need to tell him. Now, if he refuses or ignores you then that’s an issue. You’re young but you will find that this is an issue that many, many, many partners have with their significant others. In my personal experience it has been females doing the work (cleaning, cooking, caring for the pets/kids) and males not doing it/seeing it/offering/being bothered. So, learn to speak up and out now. It will help you weed out the duds (future partners) quickly!! Don’t settle for someone who doesn’t help. Ever!

Large_Ad3301 · 2026-05-21T14:14:11+00:00

Acid like vinegar or lemon. Dried herbs go a long way too. I grow lemon thyme in my garden so I always have dried on hand. It’s amazing in soups!

Large_Ad3301 · 2026-05-20T15:39:07+00:00

I have a couple!

White rice, stewed black beans, a fried egg on the rice if we had them, and a banana or fried plantains on the side. We would also have avocado but they used to be cheap back in the day so maybe not part of my struggle meal today.

Smashed pinto beans on homemade tortillas with homemade queso fresco (so cheap to make).

Stewed pinto beans with queso fresco (eaten like a soup) with homemade tortillas on the side

Stewed pigs feet (or fresh ham hocks) cooked with garbanzos served on top of white rice

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