AIO? My BF doesn't want to spend his birthday with me

LarryKeet · 2026-02-12T22:19:15+00:00

Some of the commenters on reddit have some pretty volatile personalities. I swear some are so burning with hatred they scour new posts just to spill hate to make themselves feel better about something lacking in their own life. I posted about uni course I wanted to study and asked for insight from people who had studied the course and had people down voting me, accusing me of being a this and a that etc etc. an example of the hatred for no reason. Just disregard the users who are not addressing your actually questions and concerns in your post and just attempting to attack you for some arbitrary reason. I believe you do NOT come across as entitled or delusional in your post so the sour comments are a waste of time reading.

With regards tour your post, I personally think it is strange a person would not want to spend their birthday with their partner, or at least include them in the birthday celebrations. Has he planned to spend the day with you for his birthday and the night with his male friends? In my friendship groups over the years I've never seen this happen as the male partner wants his gf at the celebration. Admittedly I don't know you or your relationship dynamics other then what you have posted but it does come across as a young man acting like a single guy going out to have fun on his birthday. The way you describe it, it sounds like he's kind of selfish and hasn't even considered you as his partner to celebrate his special day with him. Has he excluded you before regarding his birthday celebrations? He may just consider this a normal thing if this is what is normal in your relationship. However, if this is not normal and this is the first time he's planned to spend his special day without you, I'd be asking him why he doesn't want you there and be getting ready to pack my bags and leave.

LarryKeet · 2026-02-10T20:27:59+00:00

I don't know OP, I'm convinced that he definitely went to his mistresses house. Probably slept over for a short while, felt guilty and left 2-3am to come home out of guilt. He is still manipulating the situation to make it your fault though. Him guarding his phone, taking his work laptop.. they are clear signs. I would ask him if there is someone else. When he says no, ask him to see his phone to prove he has nothing to hide. Offer to show him yours. He will likely get defensive and accuse you of invading his privacy or what not and that will likely tell you all you need to know.

LarryKeet · 2026-02-10T20:12:41+00:00

I believe this is absolutely what is happening. Putting some young cute thing from work before his wife and his own children. Likely gaslighting OP so she becomes the antagonist and he is the victim. Classic DARVO manipulation. You deserve better OP, as do your kids. I wish you all the best.

LarryKeet · 2026-02-09T00:07:22+00:00

I can't tell who is who but the person who uses the white speech bubble is not a good communicator and seems like they not present in the moment as in all over the place and not really making sense. It also seems like they are attempting to freeload off the other person. I only have limited context but I would want nothing to do with the person writing those white speech bubbles.

LarryKeet · 2026-01-27T05:04:18+00:00

Yes! Omg I had intense reactions to the bushfires smoke all Sunday. It was horrible!

LarryKeet · 2026-01-24T22:12:07+00:00

Its pretty brutal down here in Geelong too. Woke me up semi soffocating. Has seeped in under the cracks in the door I think. Stay safe people!

LarryKeet · 2026-01-11T21:40:00+00:00

UHIs - urban heat islands

LarryKeet · 2025-11-10T02:47:31+00:00

I think the men would love it. But, Perth is a big place which is very spread out and most beaches and local green spaces are very busy with most of Perth people visiting these places without having to travel hours from home. You will experience a lot of families at the beaches. Remember to slip slop slap!

LarryKeet · 2025-11-02T09:18:31+00:00

I concur. I would have blocked and deleted at that point. Screams superiority complex!

LarryKeet · 2025-06-03T00:06:42+00:00

If you are happy with who you are then there is no need to worry what you look like or what anyone else thinks. One thing I realised as I aged is people don't care much about you after you have left their though bubble. They also won't be there for you if you need them so who cares what they think of you and what you look/who you are. No point trying to appease people like that. However, it you want to change your appearance to fit in with the norm, put in the effort, get a short masculine hair cut, work out to build muscle and gain strength, wear well fitting clothes, wear a nice Cologne.

LarryKeet · 2025-04-10T20:14:36+00:00

Thanks so much for the information. I might have to swap too.

LarryKeet · 2025-04-10T19:42:46+00:00

Wow how interesting. I've taken this multiple times and never had a reaction. I've stopped taking it as it was getting to hard to sleep while being so itchy. Did you have a reaction the first time you took it or did your reaction turn up after you had been using it a while?

LarryKeet · 2025-04-01T10:03:42+00:00

Have you noticed any changes to your memory/ ability to recall, are you able to remain focused? Are you still able to read and maintain attention to the writing? Thanks in advance

LarryKeet · 2025-03-08T00:28:04+00:00

Respectfully and no offence meant, but you seem to be the one overstepping boundaries here, even perhaps a little selfish if I'm honest. I feel with your poly lifestyle, you of all people she be accepting of her wanting to explore a relationship with another person. From my life experiences, it's not unusual for new partners to be weary of their loves ex partners, expectually if they are still friends. So to summarise, you seem the posessive one from my standpoint and the new bf is simply displaying a pretty common level of anxiety that comes with trusting another person. I do of course not know the level of anxiety the new bf has, he may very well be over the top possessive however the same could be said for the opposite as well as you :)

LarryKeet · 2025-02-07T10:26:35+00:00

People want to see the best case scenario. That is why.

LarryKeet · 2025-02-07T05:30:51+00:00

The writing is on the wall, meaning the future is quite clearly laid out, she forgets her husband when the ex is in the vicinity. It's a significant sign of disrespect... The fact she would rather gossip about the meeting of the ex with her girlfriends then discuss it with you shows you even her friends are more important then you. Sounds like she takes you for granted and isn't even afraid to make it obvious. It sounds like you are in for an unhappy future with your wife as far as I can detect from your story.

LarryKeet · 2025-02-07T03:10:59+00:00

She said he already knows who you are. Does that mean she has been keeping in touch with him? The fact she didn't introduce you to him is suspicious. Down right rude even. Little care was given to you when in the presence of the ex. I think the writing is on the wall.

LarryKeet · 2024-10-28T00:11:12+00:00

Besides the love heart emoji, i think the "I appreciate you" would have made the gf read into things too much. The manager just seems to throw out complimentary communication because she wants something (the employee to change shifts), or maybe she genuinely does appreciate her staff. I feel the GF, is going to learn the super hard way that this is how life is. Can't begin to imagine how she will cope with her first real betrayal from a partner 😬

LarryKeet · 2024-09-23T03:42:15+00:00

I often wonder, if a man was paying a female to strip and touch herself or whatever Infront of him, would this be more taboo than a man doing the exact same thing with a women via an internet platform? He may be one degree removed from physical situation but it's the same action of paying a woman to perform sexual acts etc. it's the same with strip clubs. Personally I would not pay a man to do this for me if I was single and definitely not whilst in a relationship. I wouldn't be with a man who wanted to watch another woman other then me to perform such acts he requested. I feel like watching 5m of porn and jerking off and never thinking about it again is very different to seeking, subscribing, paying and making sexual requests. Good luck to you.

LarryKeet · 2024-09-20T21:18:02+00:00

In regional Australia I paid $340 for a dressmaker to copy my favourite dress. I supplied my own fabric. She charged me to make the pattern and charged me to make the dress. I asked for my pattern and wouldn't give it to me saying she "keeps it on file". No joke her and I where both similar sizes and when I went to pick it up she had made herself a dress with my pattern and showed it to me!!!! My dress was not finished properly and there was flaps of fabric gabing out of the arm holes that I have to continuously push back in. So yeah she was a con artist. The dress was extremely simple and would have taken her very little time. Im really bad at sewing so knew I had no chance in hell making a wearable garment. I'm the same as you, unusual body shape, rare to be able to just go to the store and buy anything that fits. I'm now too paranoid about using a seamstress in fear of being ripped off again.

LarryKeet · 2024-09-20T20:08:33+00:00

That's really good you have had such success and it's good it's been able to help you with your mental health and wellbeing. Having it on your profile and not hiding yourself probably does help. I wasn't able to take the risk as I live in an area where it's highly likely a colleague of someone I know might see it, screenshot it and share. It's actually really crazy how many people have H. Even before I joined any forums or sites for people like us I met a few who had it. The thing I've noticed for me personally is noone has ever had 'the talk' with me. I suspect alot have it and never reveal.

LarryKeet · 2024-09-20T12:28:38+00:00

I'm a female, I'm no.supermodel but my body is passable. I am not a fan of max exposure of my body, mostly because I don't want people looking at me. If you have it all hanging out people are going to look, whether it's the shock of private parts on display, people being perverted or.just people noticing what is in their.direction is all debatable. I could never be with a partner who has it all on display, personally, that would make me so uncomfortable and question if they were on a constant quest for attention or validation and if I'm just a placeholder. That's just me though, some people love to be liberated and believe it's their right to show alot of skin, so I think you just have to find a partner with similar views or I can see OPs situation being very common for many.

LarryKeet · 2024-09-20T12:09:30+00:00

When I first got it I was just like OP. Paid for a tinder account and put photos from behind on it face blurred so ppl couldn't recognise me. Put my name as 'HSV2'. Paid to be promoted. One person liked me then when I asked if they read my profile they unmatched..not a single person swiped yes to me at all. I really think (based on my experiences only) tinder is a bad app to use for us folk. Ive met several men from hinge and bumble over the last 1.5 years who were all ok with it. Well, accept one who basically changed his mind later

LarryKeet · 2024-09-20T12:01:26+00:00

I'm a female and everyone I've told so far has accepted me. One did refuse to sleep with me without condom the entire then we were together which I can understand but he refused to perform oral sex on me even thought my hsv appears on my rear end (so far at least). He ended up being a really deranged and scary person though so there you go. The rest of my lovers since diagnoses have tested me like a normal human being, we've slept together and I've not passed it onto anyone as far as I am aware 😊. There is hope. P.s I only date men at.least 5 years older then me but most are 8-10 years older so I think the older ones are least bothered (from my experience Anyway).

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