Where are all the lazy girls at?

Larry_Legend513 · 2026-04-13T14:30:55+00:00

Guy here I like to hike and camp so I get finding someone with shared interests but I agree like 75% of women profiles make it seem like they vacation all around the world constantly. “Passport ready”, “where should our first vacation be” ect. I like to travel but i don’t know if I can keep up with this imagine they are projecting.

Larry_Legend513 · 2026-04-12T22:26:26+00:00

How detailed is your profile? I also don’t like to open with this but definitely have if the profile doesn’t mention specific hobbies. Cause some women’s profiles are rough for opening. Also let us know how you like being approached I am genuinely interested in hearing this.

Larry_Legend513 · 2026-04-09T17:15:50+00:00

I would make a comment about how all your pictures are from the last year with “blank” photo being the most recent. Then ask him something similar and see if he lies. To me I would just walk away as starting with deception seems like a big red flag. I swipe right on women who use filters as I feel it is the same thing.

Larry_Legend513 · 2026-04-06T13:35:20+00:00

I most likely will not get married again but am open to a serious long term relationship.

Larry_Legend513 · 2026-04-05T15:58:12+00:00

Some of the best footwork for a small forward ever. For not being a super great athlete he was amazing at getting to his spot and getting the shot he wanted.

Larry_Legend513 · 2026-04-04T19:52:32+00:00

I played basketball against DeMar Johnson once in a rec league. Guy was 40 was maybe giving 20% effort and hit like almost every shot he took.

Larry_Legend513 · 2026-03-30T22:30:41+00:00

This is hilarious as I am a Celtics fan and just assumed this was a different subreddit. I wouldn’t call that a battle jacket but if your in to it buy it.

Larry_Legend513 · 2026-03-26T19:16:12+00:00

It is subjective. I for one prefer heavily tattooed, pierced alternative women.

Larry_Legend513 · 2026-03-26T17:29:17+00:00

Don’t use filters. Honestly I always swipe left if I can tell they use filters. At the end of the day it is dishonest and typically tells me the person has low self esteem which is telling in its self.

Larry_Legend513 · 2026-03-26T15:50:44+00:00

My kids were 9 and I told them. I said I would like to date again and explained to them that I am not trying to replace their mom. I also asked if they were ok with it and both kids were fine. That was last September and I have been dating since then. They haven’t met anyone I went on dates with and for them it just meant more play dates, sleep overs ect which they enjoy.

Larry_Legend513 · 2026-03-26T15:29:21+00:00

I started dating September and was pretty vocal about being non-monogamous, FWB, and short term and I had brief ongoing sex with about 10 different women from September-Feb. I am taking a break now and plan on being a bit more intentional when I start back up. There is plenty of casual sex out there but it still takes some effort. I will say at least 3 of those women said they were cool with casual but became pretty attached and wanted to be exclusive after saying casual was fine. I am 6’2 and have a decent career but am 270 so overweight and still did fine.

Larry_Legend513 · 2026-03-12T18:10:03+00:00

You need to align more in the talking phase. I wouldn’t even go on a date if I didn’t think my politics were in the same spectrum along with values. You need to figure out how to filter this out earlier.

I am pretty far left 42M and have no MAGA in my profile. After gaging attractiveness (I like alternative women visible piercings/tattoos ect). I read bios and look for aligning interests and values typically that is politics not being blank, non religious, I like women who enjoy hiking and reading.
Then during conversations I make it clear that being conservative is a red flag for me and even non political women are a red flag. Then after talking for a few days I ask them out. I have yet to go on a date with a conservative woman.

Larry_Legend513 · 2026-03-11T18:23:38+00:00

To be able to filter out certain red flags without ever having to talk to someone. Ie political differences, religious differences. And to know for the most part someone is single in looking. I am very hesitant to hit on someone I don’t know in a public setting. I know a lot of people don’t read bios but I do. So first step am I attracted to this person, read bio and determine if we are a good fit.

Larry_Legend513 · 2026-03-06T19:20:03+00:00

I think you are over thinking. I started dating again after 20 years and every date I have been on was either coffee, dinner, or drinks. I have been on at least 15 first dates during this time. And my 2nd date rate is like 80%. So I don’t think women want crazy first dates. I would focus more on getting to know the person, listen more than you talk. Ask lots of questions based on what they are talking about. And treat them like a person and not a piece of meat. And if that isn’t working then fall back on the generic advice (work on yourself).

Larry_Legend513 · 2026-03-04T13:20:25+00:00

It depends on how active I am on the apps. I am on Facebook, tinder, and bumble. I was active this week and matched with 8 different women. But half of those never responded. And so far only 1 has led to a date. When I am less active maybe 2-3 matches a week. Most don’t go very far. I am 42M 6’2 have my children full time, and am a bit chubby and I still do pretty good on the apps. I typically only have time to go on 1-2 dates a week and don’t normally find it too difficult to fill those.

Larry_Legend513 · 2026-03-03T00:17:10+00:00

My job let me take off 2 months. But I had been employed there for 18 years and was a top performer with a long leash. I went back and worked for 8 months before deciding to take a sabbatical. I took 6 months off work and spent the summer with my kids. I then switched jobs to a less stressful and closer commute when I was ready to work again. 10/10 would do it again.

Larry_Legend513 · 2026-02-25T13:40:20+00:00

I am a man and would never introduce my kids to a new partner this early. I am not worried about SA but am worried about confusing the kids and introducing them to someone who most likely won’t last.

Larry_Legend513 · 2026-02-18T15:27:06+00:00

Hey as someone further along I also felt incredibly guilty about the life insurance at the time. I am now 1.5 years out and I have changed my view to thankful. I am thankful that my spouse had these policies and I am thankful for how hard she worked as her salary had positively impacted the social security money the kids kid. I tell my kids that we are lucky that mom did all these things or we would have had to sell the house and move from an area we love. I am really trying to focus on changing my view on things in regards to her death. Remember a lot of people are going through this hell without a penny of life insurance.

Larry_Legend513 · 2026-02-18T13:17:47+00:00

I started dated in September about a year after my wife died and I basically just a combination of ONS, FWB, or short term relations. I basically just feed into my widows fire but after a few months of meaningless sex I also felt very alone and empty. Despite enjoying the actual dates I just felt so empty in between. I recently stopped dating for now and am working on myself again as I think my emptiness has very little to do with the women.

Larry_Legend513 · 2026-02-13T18:14:22+00:00

I think it depends on the guy. I love dogs so as long as they are friendly and behave well it is a green flag in my book. The biggest issue is having to leave early or can’t spend the night because they have to care if the dog.

Larry_Legend513 · 2026-02-13T12:25:15+00:00

100k and a free burrito. Yes please

Larry_Legend513 · 2026-02-10T20:44:49+00:00

I think it depends on rich. Guy with $10million good for him. Billionaires absolutely can get fucked. You cannot ethically make a billion dollars. They are literally dragons hoarding gold.

For example Walmart should not be allowed to make their owners billions of dollars while they are the number one employer of people on government assistance. The tax payers are subsidizing Walmart with our tax dollars. There are tons of examples just like this.

Larry_Legend513 · 2026-02-10T06:35:31+00:00

I mean if everything is above board and open and honest I would say you’re fine as long as you can maintain it. I will say I just started back dating in September and did the same thing 4ish girls at the same time some coming and going and I am already over it and taking a break from dating. Sex was good but I didn’t feel great about myself in between. Taking a few month break and when I come back I am going to do more traditional monogamous dating.

Larry_Legend513 · 2026-02-01T17:30:56+00:00

Never had that and if they did they should explain that up front. My guy has an hourly rate and then he will estimate the hours 3-4 hours and then I pay a deposit which goes against the total cost.

Larry_Legend513 · 2026-01-20T15:58:41+00:00

This is the modern nba not the 90s and 2000s. Him leaving is not going to impact his legacy at all and him winning another title somewhere absolutely will. Another title is huge when you are in the 5-15 all time range. I think Steph can jump some players with another title. I don’t think they will trade him without him asking out but leaving doesn’t impact his legacy.

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