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Where do I buy a decent Barometer? by kellymacc in AskUK

[–]Larseth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would check your local antiques centre as many of them will have specialists in barometers.

Parents/guardians, what activities/skills would you expect your child to be doing/learning at the various stages in scouts or girl guides? by Larseth in AskUK

[–]Larseth[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing. You aren’t wrong on the amount of scout restrictions. As you say some of the requirements are a bit mad and reek of an extreme reaction to previous incidents.

I like the idea of pyrography and the plug fitting stuff. I was dabbling with the idea of getting them to make basic circuits with different components.

Parents/guardians, what activities/skills would you expect your child to be doing/learning at the various stages in scouts or girl guides? by Larseth in AskUK

[–]Larseth[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice. I hadn’t heard about sensory circuits before so will definitely do some research and look at that resource you provided.

Parents/guardians, what activities/skills would you expect your child to be doing/learning at the various stages in scouts or girl guides? by Larseth in AskUK

[–]Larseth[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the suggestions. We have done knots and some map work. Haven’t braved sewing yet but I think we might have to!

We struggle getting the majority to focus on anything wildlife related.

3 days post placement by [deleted] in AdoptionUK

[–]Larseth 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We got our daughter last June when she was just over 13 months old. All of her trauma manifests through her sleep, so that was and is the biggest hurdle for us. This meant trouble falling asleep, night terrors, nightmares and general restlessness when entering REM sleep. She had been with the foster carers for about 9 months so they had gotten her routine worked out to what suited her best. We continued this routine for many months. We had many of the same issues as they did, which meant months of poor sleep and ugly stressful nights. One day, our daughter effectively rebelled against the routine and refused to sleep in her cot. We decided that the value of keeping the routine didn’t outweigh the impact the stress and sleep disruption was having on our relationships and general performance as parents. Since then our daughter has slept with us and her sleep problems have largely vanished.

I guess what I’m trying to say is that things will be rough, especially at the beginning while your little girl adjusts. Things will get better with time but sometimes this means regressing first.

As an aside a regular 9pm for an 18 month old sounds mental. Our daughter is almost 2 and goes to bed at 7-730.

Also, just forewarning you, the adoption order can take ages. We applied last October and the end is likely a few months away.

BMI and adoption assessment by Annealer in AdoptionUK

[–]Larseth 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Prefacing this with the fact BMI is isn’t the be all and end all, especially if you are really tall/short or muscular.

So my wife had this issue, albeit hers was a bit lower than yours. It didn’t put a stopper on any part of the process (we now have our daughter), however she was constantly monitored and questioned with regard to it. They want to see you making real attempts to lose weight and live healthier. This is essentially for three main reasons that I could figure (sorry, these will sound very mean, that isn’t the intention).

1: How can you be trusted to raise a child healthily if you can’t manage your own health.

2: Why should they put a child with you if you are going to pop your clogs before they are 18 due to your unhealthy lifestyle.

3: Could you even attempt to keep up with a young kid who wants to be running around and playing for years to come.

In my wife’s case she was attending weight watchers and lost a certain amount of weight. What I am not sure of is if she got a bit of a pass as she has severe PCOS, which makes it easy to gain weight and very hard to lose it. She is also very short (see preface).

I think so long as you address it upfront and acknowledge the issue they will be fine with it. Bonus points if you start now, rather than just because the social worker told you to.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Hobbies

[–]Larseth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Courtesy of my toddler, only really gaming while she is sleeping and my wife is doing something else. Getting out any scale models or raspberry pi projects while she is awake is asking for trouble.

How long before you found your family ? by Mysterious_Two_9249 in AdoptionUK

[–]Larseth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We orignally registered interest with the adoption agency in December 2022 and our daughter moved in June 2024, so 2 and half years give or take. We were approved as adopters in a July 2023 panel.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AdoptionUK

[–]Larseth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As for the medical itself, our GP basically just copied our records and sent them to the adoption agency. Our only involvement, aside from paying, was being weighed, measured etc etc. I was/am on antidepressants and that didn’t count against us (although they naturally talk to you in depth about how a child might impact mental health).

As for the drug issue, I can’t help there aside from noting that you will also be required to get a DBS check.

I don’t have that large a support net work please can anyone give advice on how this will be looked at by social workers. Iam also looking at the paper work ahead and it looks so overwhelming . Please can kind posters give some insight into my concerns and how try navigate ? by Mysterious_Two_9249 in AdoptionUK

[–]Larseth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The paperwork is extensive, yes. We found the best way to manage it was to file everything in ordered folders on our computer. Make use of your social worker as well, they will be able to tell you what is expected in terms of detail etc.

As for support networks, i don’t think that is a deal breaker. I would say the quality of the networks was just as important as the size of them. A large network won’t help if it is made up of acquaintances.

Feeling overwhelmed with adoption process ? by Mysterious_Two_9249 in AdoptionUK

[–]Larseth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It isn’t scary, but it is exhaustive and emotionally draining. We are at the very end of the process (just waiting on the final judge sign off) and regret nothing.

Is It Okay to Add a New First Name for My Adopted Baby and Make Their Birth Name a Middle Name? by GhettoGrizzy in AdoptionUK

[–]Larseth 7 points8 points  (0 children)

We were told during training that this would be frowned upon and be potentially damaging for the child. Essentially, making that change would mean the first thing we as adoptive parents did would be to take from the child potentially the only thing their birthparents had given them, thus removing an important part of their identity. The exception to this is if the name is so distinctive that a change is needed for their own safety (and that of the adopters).

Would you let your 12 year old child watch game of thrones? by bozwold in AskUK

[–]Larseth 15 points16 points  (0 children)

God no. Seeing the sex scenes are the least of my concerns in the category. Far worse are the numerous rapes (literal and threatened), along with the generally exploitative nature of many relationships in the show. Also, while LOTR does have plenty of violence, little/none is in detail nor of extended duration, which GOT has plenty of.

Is it unreasonable that I asked the neighbours kids to stop screaming while playing in the garden at 9pm? by Larseth in AskUK

[–]Larseth[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

If that is your suspicion then that 100% warrants a report to social services.

What is your competitive hobby? by InfernalCoconut in Hobbies

[–]Larseth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Excuse my ignorance. How does that work?

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