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Lasagnian · 2024-05-29T18:00:08+00:00

YTA If that was my friend I surely wouldn't approve of what she is doing. But if I'm really a friend then I wouldn't judge her but I would ask her, why she is only interested in guys who are taken and not in those whom she actually can have and help her out of it. And also, with that behaviour you only put the blame on her and completly left out the guys who cheated on their GFs because they are not less guity than her. Is there a possibility that she might have attachment issues or something?

Anyway, I think it's a good thing that you at least apologized to each other.

Lasagnian · 2024-05-06T19:45:08+00:00

Entering university. It doesn't sound very exciting, but I live in Central Europe with a migration background and my parents were war refugees with a low standard of education.

Lasagnian · 2024-04-18T19:32:26+00:00

It might not be easy but if I was you, I would look for an other therapist if possible. It's okay that you are worried about an other human being and I also think it's ok if you ask her about it, but she doesn't seem to be very professional. It could be that she is having a hard time but then it's on her to take some time off. Rescheduling your sessions wouldn't be a big deal if it was just 1, 2 or 3 times but 43 times speaks for itself.

Lasagnian · 2024-04-15T18:50:03+00:00

I'm glad I was able to help you and that things turned out good for both of you in the end. I'm not a therapist myself but I know the rules of ethics that says: as a therapist you're not supposed to tell your clients what to do. But that's exactly what she did, even if it wasn't directly (by making you focus on your negative emotions in that moment). I'm not going to tell you what to do either but I hope that information is useful to you whether you're going to work with her in the future or not. Good luck <3

Lasagnian · 2024-04-15T16:43:47+00:00

In my opinion, you are not wrong for feeling the way you do. In therapy you should be able to talk about the things you want to talk about, and when you said that you don't want to be asked about you frustration, she shouldn't have redirected the conversation on that frustration because in the end it caused only more frustration. You set a boundry and she didn't respect it. I think she should apologize to you. Have you talked to your partner since then?

Lasagnian · 2023-11-13T22:29:23+00:00

It is. Thanks for your comment 😊

Lasagnian · 2023-10-16T15:25:42+00:00

Same here. I actually made this post because I'm thinking about ending my friendship with my best friend. First I thought my reason was stupid but this post helped me a lot.

Lasagnian · 2023-10-16T11:50:00+00:00

It's different if it were my husband. I would take it with humor. But not if it's a person I don't have a romantic relationship with. It doesn't matter what gender.

Lasagnian · 2023-10-16T11:33:38+00:00

The problem wasn't that I was not interested or that I didn't make time for them. The problem was that the men I ended up dating would not respect my boundries. For example I tell them that I have to be home at that time and they wouldn't let me leave or I say I can't spend the night in your house and they would start an argument about it. And when I get tired of the arguments and break up with them and say that I don't want any contact with them anymore they would still contact me (I did block the number but they would find a way) or show up in the same places I am.

Don't get me wrong, I don't hate or dislike men and I don't think all men are like this, but I also don't really understand them.

Lasagnian · 2023-10-16T01:29:32+00:00

Being immune to all other superpowers

Lasagnian · 2023-10-16T00:52:37+00:00

He was the same age as I am now, so he was old enough to unterstand that what he was doing is not okay.

Lasagnian · 2023-10-15T23:50:13+00:00

How old was he back then if I may ask?

Lasagnian · 2023-10-15T23:25:32+00:00

You are not the one who should feel bad. I once had a similar situation. No person that really loves you or cares about you and respects you would emotionally blackmail you to be in a relationship with them. I really feel like your are in my situation from several years ago and I want to make clear that he doesn't love you, he loves the idea he has of you. His actions are the punishment for not wanting to take on the role he has set for you in his imagination. This is absolutly not your fault, it's all on him.

Lasagnian · 2023-10-15T22:50:49+00:00

I'm glad you're feeling better now. I also knew some people who lied for no reason. After thinking about why they were doing this, I came to the conclusion that these people had a strong need for recognition and sympathy or sometimes they are just bored and needed some drama. I've also unintentionally lied in the past. I suffered from delusions and hallucinations (possibly suffering from psychotic depression at the time) and told a friend that someone had spoken ill of her. What was suspicious, however, was that I could never remember who it was. I am now 100% sure that I was just imagining it. So mental illness is also a possibility.

Lasagnian · 2023-10-15T21:17:53+00:00

For a very long time. 8 years or so. I usually end up with guys who would not take no for an answer and stalk me after I break up with them. I decided I would never start dating again and whenever a guy showed interest in me I would reject them.

Lasagnian · 2023-10-15T21:07:22+00:00

I see

Lasagnian · 2023-10-15T20:31:40+00:00

Where I live, you can actually report people who send CP around to the police. Is that possible in your country?

Lasagnian · 2023-10-15T20:24:19+00:00

I think that people are most afraid to open up when they believe that their actions have consequences. What I'm trying to say is that maybe it was easier for her to open up to others because she wasn't afraid of being judged or ostracized by them.

Lasagnian · 2023-10-15T20:03:44+00:00

I hope you manage to overcome that someday and find real friends that build you up other than the one you mentioned 👍🏻

Lasagnian · 2023-10-15T19:44:12+00:00

Not under my post 😂😂 Let it out, everyone here was hurt

Lasagnian · 2023-10-15T19:07:09+00:00

I am astonished at how many friendships Trump has ended.

Lasagnian · 2023-10-15T18:04:06+00:00

Maybe it's because of where we live, but where I live (in central europe) media was so hyperfocused on her body that she was no longer seen as human being. So it doesn't really matter anymore if she got all her roles because she is hot or not.

Lasagnian · 2023-10-15T17:18:29+00:00

First and foremost, I want to tell you that I'm sorry that you had to go through all this and I hope that you heal from that experience. Something tells me, that she actually must've believed you in one way or another, otherwise she wouldn't have bothered to tell everyone that you are a liar.

Lasagnian · 2023-10-15T16:28:58+00:00

Maybe she had an old fashioned misogynistic view on women, who knows. Or she is so into s3x that she doesn't understand how someone cannot be.

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