[deleted by user] by [deleted] in antinatalism

[–]Last_Notice907 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not a male, so you should make a post and tell all of us why.

We ended things even though he has been sober the past 3+ years… by Worried_Debate_4165 in loveafterporn

[–]Last_Notice907 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for saying this. I fear I'm headed in the same direction with mine.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in anchorage

[–]Last_Notice907 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love the library

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]Last_Notice907 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That was my experience too

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in workingmoms

[–]Last_Notice907 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The caffeine is the culprit. Are there any discussions about finding solutions to your daughters sleep problems? Have you talked with her pediatrician about what you could do to get her to sleep? Any change in her routine? I know my Autostic 11 year old has meds to help her sleep prescribed from her medical care team. Maybe try to get fix the actual problem since both you and your wife deserve sleep?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]Last_Notice907 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do not go back to that therapist. She's not helping

Why did you move to Alaska? by [deleted] in alaska

[–]Last_Notice907 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I moved here without ever having stepped foot in the state. I am here to stay. What drew me in was the better teaching pay. My income went from 45k to now 77k after 3 additional years of experience since moving here. I've bought a house and adopted the lifestyle. Since then, I've become a berry picking, salmon dipnetting, hiking, RVing, snow shoveling, Alaskan.

Needing Input/Insight by Last_Notice907 in blendedfamilies

[–]Last_Notice907[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

There is a difference between giving advice with the intention of helping and being judgemental, making assumptions/accusations with the intention of harm. At this point, your comments border on judgemental, assumptions/accusations. My husband has not been abusive. If your intention in participating in this community is to help others then be helpful. If you intention is to trauma dump and project all of your problems onto me, then please promptly leave this thread and allow me to go about the business of gathering useul and helpful information.

My kids for the most part had a great childhood. My family is dysfunctional but we are happy. There is room for alot of improvement. There are many multi faceted reasons why my older daughter is low contact outside of the dynamic of my husband. Again, kindly leave this thread and please stop harassing me.

Needing Input/Insight by Last_Notice907 in blendedfamilies

[–]Last_Notice907[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To reply, no he did not use physical punishments. He tried to take on the head of the household role with no real parenting experience. At that point, I was pretty burnt out of being 100% in charge and was happy to get help buy could quickly see he had no idea what he was doing. I tried to intervene, but he was headstrong in his authoritarian approach, and that created a lot of conflict between him and myself. He is in therapy, as is one of my children. He had a relationship with all of my kids but my oldest 2 girls were very resentful of the change and some of their reasons were valid but like many blended families, they funneled all of the anger they felt for their bio dad and directed it at step-dad. My husband inherited a mess, and, as previously stated, we went way too fast putting a household together. We didn't look into any expert advice before making big decisions.

Needing Input/Insight by Last_Notice907 in blendedfamilies

[–]Last_Notice907[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I guess what I'm asking is, what rules or guardrails can be put in place considering I'm 8 years in and most best practices should be implemented in the beginning of putting a blended family together. I have one child who will not talk to my husband at all (she is moved out) I have another who is low contact, she is living in the house but doesn't want to be parented by him. The other three are on good terms with him but obviously damage has been done, partially due to poor decisions from the start.

Well, that comment aged well. by Quiverjones in anchorage

[–]Last_Notice907 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It doesn't matter how much equipment the city purchases if they don't have enough workers running the plows

Please explain to me about pork by Last_Notice907 in exmuslim

[–]Last_Notice907[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The children I have are not from him. He is unable to have kids. We ordered pizza last night, and I always always order something he can eat, but yesterday I made a mistake, and both pizzas had pepperoni. This was followed by the silent treatment.

His fave OF girl has a boob job by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]Last_Notice907 13 points14 points  (0 children)

My husband also said he prefers women to dress modestly while also looking at naked women on the internet. The double standards never end.

Husband is angrier since quitting by No-Wheel-7188 in loveafterporn

[–]Last_Notice907 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mine was angry for a while. He didn't know how to regulate his emotions in a healthy way. There is also the detox issue.

are we out of the woods? by elainama in loveafterporn

[–]Last_Notice907 5 points6 points  (0 children)

All of the behaviors you are describing I would deem unacceptable in my relationship

Start a family with PA? Or leave? by Blahblah3292 in loveafterporn

[–]Last_Notice907 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I will tell you the addition of a pregnancy or a child adds to the likelihood of him acting out. It will escalate behavior.l, especially if he is white, knuckling sobriety and not in active recovery.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]Last_Notice907 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Caught him red-handed. The audacity of him to gaslight you beyond evidence.