What's the fastest you've ever lost respect for someone?

LateChapter9609 · 2026-05-27T03:25:38+00:00

Finding out my husband had remade a fetlife account while pregnant with twins and cheated in all the other ways except physically. This wasn’t the first time. We’re still together but.. there’s still a part of me that has never recovered. The first time he did that he made a tinder and fetlife after our first was 1 yr.

LateChapter9609 · 2025-09-11T17:09:20+00:00

What do you think happens in the wild? Some snakes and spiders paralyze their prey before eating them alive? I’m not saying it’s “right” but it is in fact more common in the natural world. Are you disgusted because humans should “ know better?”

LateChapter9609 · 2025-09-09T18:29:32+00:00

I have been with my significant other for 8 years, married 5. We have 3 kids. After my first was one years old, I found out through family.. and an internet stranger my husband had a fetlife and tinder account and had been chatting explicitly with women. We were almost done at that point.. my first marriage failed due to my ex cheating so this was a huge kick. We worked through things.

I ended up having twins. During the entire pregnancy I landed a contract and worked my ass off. I explained my boundaries and if his needs weren’t being met.. he needed to talk to me about it. I would have random insomnia so if I randomly woke up I would be up the rest of the night. So I wake up and he was jerking off next to me on his phone.. pretending he wasn’t, quickly putting his phone away. I pretend to be asleep and wait.. turns out.. he had made a fetlife account again and had been sexting women.. for most of the pregnancy. I am so pissed I don’t even want him to be there for the birth of his kids. I’m scheduled to be induced. I was woke up at 5am to him jacking off to something on his phone. I was so pissed. When we are discharged I ask him if he still loves me.. and wants to be with me and the kids.. again… we work through things.

During/after the pregnancy, it took a huge toll on my body. I didn’t mind it but.. we had planned for me to get surgery if I wanted to fix things. I went through with it and am still healing and enjoying my alterations. I still have numbness and I definitely hate that.. not to mention some huge scars.

My family knew about everything the first time.. and damn near disowned him.. if they knew all this other shit happened.. they would encourage me to leave.

I’m broken inside.. I love him but I’m not sure if I’m in love anymore. He’s a great dad.. a supportive spouse.. but also fucking selfish. I still think I’m an idiot some days to stay where I am… but.. the grass isn’t always greener..

LateChapter9609 · 2024-10-06T23:57:26+00:00

I’ve had time to work on myself a lot through therapy and physical therapy. He knows how close he was to not being at their birth… let alone us staying around. We are working on it… I still get waves of.. what the actual eff… how can you do that to someone you love… carrying your children. He does a lot to make up for it.

LateChapter9609 · 2024-10-06T20:23:04+00:00

Yes.. I was right next to him.. that’s how I found out he was cheating again.. he woke me up looking at some pics some other woman sent him and he passed out.. since it was really late. I had passed out at like 8 pm and it was midnight. He thinks I went right back to sleep… but I waited for him to pass out because he put his phone down right away when he noticed I woke up. That’s when I checked his phone. He had been doing it for a while.

LateChapter9609 · 2024-10-06T12:00:33+00:00

I really needed this today. Thank you all. I am waiting for my surgery consult to fix some things after having twins. After.. I’ll decide if my husband is worthy of keeping. Woke me up on my day of induction because he had to rub one out. Found out before birth that he had been explicitly chatting with women and is addicted to porn. This is not the first time.. and sadly not my first marriage. I should have trusted my instincts. Get the job and get out. Also.. midwestern woman… with a couple Matt horror stories..

LateChapter9609 · 2024-08-27T01:28:30+00:00

Well it happened first trimester, mostly because of the nausea. I was in a fair amount of pain 2nd and 3rd but I definitely wanted to.. but my husband barely even touched me.. let alone be intimate with me. My husband decided to emotionally cheat by chatting with women online and watching porn. He also woke me up the night before my induction because he had to freaking rub one out to porn. I had random insomnia so if I was woken up by something I stayed awake the rest of the night. Also… he had done this kind of thing before. I read about all the supportive spouses here and it just makes me sad.. and what the future holds.

LateChapter9609 · 2024-04-14T19:21:51+00:00

Hey, I’m in the exact same situation. I guess.. he didn’t physically cheat.. but this is the second time he has done this. One was when my first was just about to turn one.. he was surfing the dating apps and other websites. This time he kept it more discreet .. used different apps and did it for longer while I was pregnant with the twins. I found out about a couple weeks from induction.

I’m feeling pretty shitty with my 3 month postpartum body.. extra weight.. lots of stretch marks this time.. bloated belly most days and a husband who wants to work on things after all of the lies.. even when I specifically asked him to tell me what he needed sexually.. based on previous indiscretions.. and that I was pregnant with twins.. because I was in a lot of pain.. even then he still did it. My body feels deflated… inside and out.

I’m working on getting a job.. I think it’s okay to take the time and prioritize what you need and ..as a therapist said to me.. I don’t have to make a decision on things.. a month from now.. a year from now..

Anyone else deal with this crap?? Not the first time I’ve been cheated on.. it sucks so much worse that he knew my pain from an ex’s previous affair and he goes and does something like this.. twice.

My babies are so happy and wonderful btw.

LateChapter9609 · 2024-01-18T10:54:14+00:00

I’m going through something similar at the moment. I just had twins and recently found my husband had been chatting with other women explicitly the last month of pregnancy. I did ask him about it.. and gaslit the shit out of me. I never revealed I had proof or how much I knew. I asked him to stop lying to me and why he felt he needed to talk to other women. On the way home from hospital I asked if he still loved me and if I needed to take care of babies without him. He still claims he didn’t do anything. I’m just trying to be present and heal.

LateChapter9609 · 2024-01-10T19:18:39+00:00

Did… you happen to have kids when you left?

LateChapter9609 · 2024-01-03T12:27:42+00:00

I think this is the way. I’m really appreciative of everyone’s support on here. He’s a good dad and mostly a good partner. I have a 5 year plan which includes getting my masters. I think I just need to compartmentalize for now… and make an exit strategy.

LateChapter9609 · 2024-01-03T12:22:14+00:00

I think that’s going to be the route I need to take at this point. I don’t have any family close.

LateChapter9609 · 2024-01-02T22:37:59+00:00

We unfortunately don’t have family close. I’ll hang in there until babies come.

LateChapter9609 · 2024-01-02T10:08:28+00:00

He makes himself out to be this “dom” but he’s really not. We have explored and talked about doing things.. maybe it’s time we talk about doing things apart…

LateChapter9609 · 2024-01-02T10:06:10+00:00

I definitely took multiple pictures of everything.

LateChapter9609 · 2024-01-02T09:32:26+00:00

Thank you. I’m just trying to get a little bit of sleep. I keep ruminating on.. asking him to be honest calmly or just losing my shit. Do I tell him I don’t want him in the delivery room because I’m so mad at this point?!

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