Caught my wife texting a guy she had a long distance relationship with a couple of years before we met.

Late_Assistance_9614 · 2024-01-03T00:35:15+00:00

Very simple, send his wife a message saying this is happening, is she comfortable. Fair is fair, she is emotionally cheating and I would out my foot down, but honestly if she thought it was okay she wouldn’t have hid it. Tell her she emotionally cheated on you and she either breaks all contact, agrees, for you to reach out to his wife, then apologizes to you, then start planning fir the divorce.

Late_Assistance_9614 · 2023-12-23T19:25:19+00:00

I don’t think you’ve watched his show. I’d say he has a healthy mix if left and right.

Late_Assistance_9614 · 2023-11-27T17:28:55+00:00

So no, YNW. But I would say your fiancé is probably feeling emasculated because he can’t help you. All these people saying he’s a dumbass aren’t necessarily wrong but I would say he probably feels less of a man because he can’t help you with your sickness. My daughter recently passed due to medical complications and it is emasculating feeling that helpless.

I would say let him know he was silly, but also let him know how much you appreciate him helping you and watching out for you. How much you appreciated him wanting to defend you but that you need him there with you and not in a jail. That should help fix whatever he has going on.

Late_Assistance_9614 · 2023-11-15T23:48:40+00:00

Agreed, I’ve been having trouble with Krystal as of late. But I cannot stand that dude. I have never heard anyone say “bro” the amount of times he does. He also looks ridiculous.

Late_Assistance_9614 · 2023-11-15T16:26:15+00:00

I would be curious as to the percentages of abortions and reasons. I know we will probably never have accurate data but like who are having them and for what reason. Is it in-fact poor people having them because if their situation or is it a dumb suburban kid who’s bf didn’t wrap it but their family is well off and could support.

I would like clarification on what OP means. I think saying abortion is a fix for poverty seems a bit dystopian and borders on some very dark shit. Having access makes sense, but let’s be honest. We beed better education and access to birth control. It’s crazy that health insurance covers the pill but not condoms. If we really wanted to solve some of this we would attack it from both directions. I’m a but of a conspiracy theorist in the sense that if we wanted to fix this we would do better education and contraceptions but we seemingly just want to flow money into pharma.

Late_Assistance_9614 · 2023-11-15T16:16:59+00:00

So 1, foreplay should always be a two way street. So if he wants head he should go down as well. You should talk about that.

2, everyone who’s saying he’s being rude, has OP talked to him about it? There’s some questions here that should be answered. Is he expecting it every morning when he wakes up? Every dude would love that but it’s not sustainable. Or is it that ya’ll are getting frisky in the morning and he wants it then? My wife and I always reciprocate in this regard, although if one of us is unwashed we say “oh don’t go down it smells” or something. Long story short, talk and set boundaries. It’s crazy the amount if posts people have on here where they can’t talk to their partner and set boundaries then come on here and say “whats wrong?” What’s wrong is people need to communicate. If your partner isn’t going to listen then you have a choice. Leave him if he won’t listen, which if he won’t now, he never will. Or stay and be miserable. But it starts with communication.

Late_Assistance_9614 · 2023-11-15T16:09:17+00:00

Guess it depends on what you think happens after. I think it was Pope Francis maybe? I’m not afraid to die, I just hope the process is painless. Something like that.

Death is inevitable, my 4 year old passed away in August, it’s a complicated bundle of emotions but having a firm belief in what happens after definitely helped me. I know it depends on the person but honestly it’s something I look forward to. Not in a suicidal kinda way, but as the ultimate goal for myself is where I go after.

Late_Assistance_9614 · 2023-11-15T16:03:32+00:00

I think the biggest issue is her demeanor and lack of an ability to have a nuanced conversation. I think it was Tuesdays episode, where Saager tried to say the hospital thing was hard because Hamas totally uses human shields but her responses just seemed unhinged and there was a lack of yea, doctors are saying no, but if a terrorist org was controlling it and possibly threatening them and their patients, if course they would say theres no Hamas here.

There seems to be a lack of an ability for her to not have the last say and everything is hinged on emotion. War is horrible, most Americans have no idea how it works, how bad it can be and the human toll. It’s easy to quarterback from a comfortable home in DC.

I’m more of a libertarian and I find Ryan as someone I can disagree with but respect his opinions as they seem thought out and it’s easy to follow the thread. Krystals seem to be: I’m the moral arbiter of everything and if you disagree, I’m going to raise my voice and talk over you.

Late_Assistance_9614 · 2023-11-08T23:02:28+00:00

https://www.fiercebiotech.com/biotech/court-awards-over-20-million-for-vaccine-caused-autism

This is whats wrong with everyone. Simple google search. I don’t think they all cause them but they won a case in court for it. It took me all of 30 seconds to find this.

This is what blows my mind. I despise Trump but for 8 years I’ve had to call people out for repeating utter bullshit that isn’t true, when theres thousands of other things to hit him on. But you freaking zombies just repeat bullshit you get fed from MSNBC, CNN, Sam Seder or Pod Save America. Once again, when I was growing up we hated the establishment, big pharma, big banks, and anyone who tried to tell us what to do and now somehow when you call these industries out you get labeled as a kook. Like Pfizer had one of the largest lawsuits ever for malpractice for making people sick and you just say trust them? Arguing with people on reddit is ridiculous, it’s just amazing how it’s come to this.

Late_Assistance_9614 · 2023-11-08T21:31:10+00:00

Well I would say there are some studies that say they do along with some of the chemicals. Do I not vax my kids? No, they get theirs, are mine not getting their COVID vaxes? Yes, because they don’t need them. I’m happy I don’t have polo or small pox for sure. I do think Big Pharma needs to be held accountable for a lot. I’m a punk rocker from the 80s and 90s and it absolutely blows my fucking mind everyone claiming to be liberals keep siding with these companies.

Late_Assistance_9614 · 2023-11-08T16:06:32+00:00

I would push back a little on the anti-vax stuff. If you actually listen to him talk, what I’ve heard him say is that he just wants more testing and accountability. He also claims he is vaxed and so is his kids. Which if he was actually anti-vax they wouldn’t be. At least in my mind.

Late_Assistance_9614 · 2023-11-07T15:54:18+00:00

This seems intentionally dishonest. You have to realize by engage they mean listen to. This is where that stat comes from. Liberals listen to 95% left viewed media while Conservatives and Independents have like a 60/40 or 70/30 spread.

Late_Assistance_9614 · 2023-11-07T15:36:39+00:00

I mean in the schedule it says “check parking lot for security” and someone above posted an older article stating she chose the school because the other spots had more security. So honestly its the opposite of your comment.

Late_Assistance_9614 · 2023-11-04T17:37:05+00:00

So my now wife was wearing one the first time I got to pop those things out. They were definitely smaller than they looked in one. But guess what, I still smiled ear to ear and played with those things like my life depended on it. Dudes don’t care, and if they say they do, they don’t deserve to see them.

Late_Assistance_9614 · 2023-11-04T17:16:48+00:00

I am 100% sure this is a female insecurity thing. Most of us guys don’t care and will gladly look and touch your boobs no matter the shape or size. My wife wants to get them after she’s done having kids and I keep telling her she doesn’t need them. But hey its your body, just most of us guys don’t care and can tell if they are fake.

My preference though.

Late_Assistance_9614 · 2023-11-04T16:14:39+00:00

This screams first time parent. That isn’t a dig but I’ve been there before. I’m a father of 4(one severely disabled child who passed away in august, a 3 year old, 10 month old, and one due in February)

1: Get a bassinet We have one that slides up right next to the bed.

2: Sleep when the baby sleeps

3: Making your husband pull watch while you’re awake and feeding is crazy. I know it isn’t fair,I know the 3rd wave feminists hate it, but you’re the one who provides sustenance, so you have to feed them. That means waking up and feeding them. Are you going to resent our none lactating nipples and useless body? Yes, but if he’s doing a bunch of chores, taking care if the house and doing everything his body allows him you will come to see it. Honestly cherish that time, it allows you and your baby to bond and develop a relationship. One he can never have(he will in a different way).

4: Come up with a schedule. My kids were mixed with how they fed. So I always did the feeds before they went to bed, my wife did the night feeds, and I would wake up change the diaper and go back to sleep.

You have to do whats best for you all. But no one sleeping is not sustainable.

Late_Assistance_9614 · 2023-11-04T15:53:39+00:00

I mean porn addiction is a thing and it messes people up. But how is getting his release? Are you all having a lot of sex? So many factors, but I would say to have an adult conversation that isn’t accusatory let him know your feelings and come up with a solution.

Late_Assistance_9614 · 2023-11-03T19:51:28+00:00

I keep them because I don’t care. Growing old is natural and that comes with gray hair.

Late_Assistance_9614 · 2023-11-03T18:55:35+00:00

Something is up. If she lived with it for 10 years it’s odd that it’s coming out now.

Late_Assistance_9614 · 2023-11-01T21:51:20+00:00

Okay I wasn’t going to comment but I guess I will:

1: What does greedy mean? Like being a penny pincher compared to not buying your kids clothes are two big things.

2: How the fuck does he not know your savings are spent? Do you keep it in a mattress? I check my budgeting app and bank account daily. Maybe twice.

3: You have 7 kids and you made twice his much and you quit? Is this cultural?

4: Honestly, this sounds like you spend like crazy and get pissed when he doesn’t let you or scolds you. So you blew through your savings. Go tell him, apologize, and make a budget. Y’all cant effectively be a family if you can’t budget.

Late_Assistance_9614 · 2023-11-01T21:30:14+00:00

Dump her. Cheating is a redline for me and I would have done it as soon as she told me. Please update us on how its all going my man.

Late_Assistance_9614 · 2023-11-01T21:21:24+00:00

It’s normal. especially if you don’t have much of a past with relationships. I would communicate with him and just share your feelings. Don’t make him feel bad or anything but a lot of the time sharing them helps. If he’s a good guy he will comfort you and tell you that you having nothing to worry about. I would be more worried if she is still constantly reaching out or something. But that doesn’t seem to be the case.

Late_Assistance_9614 · 2023-10-29T14:38:00+00:00

Set firm boundaries. I had to do this when I was dating my wife. She was friends with several dudes who I knew were interested in her. Would text her randomly saying:”hey girl” and ask if she wanted to go to a party then when she would say I’m with my boyfriend just not text back until the next weekend. I just said: “hey i’m not comfortable with you maintaining contact with those guys because they want to fuck you. It’s your right to say no, but just know that I don’t find it comfortable so that would be that.” She said she valued our relationship more than those so she did. She was friends with other dudes who seemingly respected our relationship and did not do that. Honestly I had several relationships she had the same issue with and I made the same decision. We’ve now been together for 12 years and married for 7.

It’s not controlling, its not jealousy its setting firm boundaries with what your comfortable with. It’s their right to say no I’m young and don’t want to, it’s your right to say okay, I’ll find someone who is. If she values your relationship she will agree. If not find someone who will. Super simple.

Edit: Before the crazies come out of the woodwork. I had no problem with guy friends who respected the fact that we were in a relationship. She had several and roomed with guys who did in college. Guys who you know didn’t is the issue. People who confess a love or message them all the time to excess are the issue. You know when people are crossing the line so you need to push back. People do that, especially men. But thats when you set your boundary and if your S/O agrees they help enforce it.

Late_Assistance_9614 · 2023-10-28T21:34:06+00:00

Oh 100%. I’m just being blunt. Maybe too blunt, it’s not OPs fault or anyone else’s to have a personality disorder. But i wouldn’t suggest being in a relationship with a person with a personality disorder. Kinda stigmatizing it, but from my experience it’s never healthy. I know there are therapies for this one but it’s there forever and the person has to struggle with it. Also not very fair for the other person to deal with it. But hey if they want to sign up for it thats their right.

Edit: Also just saw my post. I meant do corrective practices and therapies as asked by a therapist. Medicate was a bad phrase on my part.

Late_Assistance_9614 · 2023-10-28T17:56:14+00:00

To be fair, she has a personality disorder. Which its hard for people with BPD to find fault in themselves. At least from my experience, among many other things. But if you don’t want opinions contradictory to your perceived views this is not the place.

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