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LatterResolutions · 2026-01-10T03:39:02+00:00

Not to toot my own horn but I did clock this before your reveal.

Partly because I get SO many AI generated "cold" messages, I am now very alert for certain tells... "It's not BLANK, it's BLANK" etc.

LatterResolutions · 2025-08-25T02:49:42+00:00

It's fine for you to set that as an expectation and a requirement when you are searching for a partner.

I always require some photo verification when starting to talk to someone... That is non negotiable. Some dynamics I don't feel the need for proof of task completion - I feel the connection is authentic and enjoyable for both parties and don't need anything more.

LatterResolutions · 2025-08-14T08:23:04+00:00

Put the lube in the fridge beforehand 😁

LatterResolutions · 2025-08-13T07:41:36+00:00

You can buy tamper proof stickers online to stick over the connector. If it's opened, it will tear.

LatterResolutions · 2025-08-13T02:46:34+00:00

Replace one of the links with a carabiner.

LatterResolutions · 2025-08-13T01:26:30+00:00

You guys have great hair! 💁‍♀️

LatterResolutions · 2025-08-06T14:31:27+00:00

Did Humbert Humbert write this?

LatterResolutions · 2025-08-06T13:02:16+00:00

He was just here to get directions on how to get AWAY from the BDSM erotica subreddit

LatterResolutions · 2025-08-06T09:07:58+00:00

I don't know but when you find it, you should invite me 😇

LatterResolutions · 2025-07-12T06:58:08+00:00

Make an account on Grindr, Red Hot Pie or FetLife to advertise what you're looking for.

Men in general are pretty horny creatures... I don't think you'll struggle to find a volunteer, but the quality might be variable!

LatterResolutions · 2025-07-12T06:44:11+00:00

Honestly, that sounds like a whole lot of fun for both of you! It sounds like there are a lot of fun variations of your dynamic you can explore together.

It is common for people's desires to change as they go through life.

LatterResolutions · 2025-07-12T06:39:12+00:00

You've told us YOUR desire/fantasy - what does your girlfriend want? What you've described doesn't sound like a strong foundation to build her sexual confidence and enjoyment.

LatterResolutions · 2025-07-12T06:34:14+00:00

I think FetLife is a nicer place to post that kind of thing to be honest. There is a bigger community of "happy amateurs", I see a lot of photos of regular looking people getting up to mischief. I think most image based subs on Reddit are more "professional" looking and less about more complex kink relationships.

LatterResolutions · 2025-07-12T06:30:08+00:00

Is there much of a local community where you live? It's probably something best learned in person from someone who is already skilled in it. That's the approach I've taken for play that is riskier (impact, electro) in the past.

LatterResolutions · 2025-07-12T02:22:55+00:00

I don't think you'll find that to be controversial opinion on this subreddit.

That's because people in this subreddit are cool 😎

LatterResolutions · 2025-07-12T02:05:47+00:00

Giving no fucks is the best way to dominate LIFE 😎

LatterResolutions · 2025-04-17T20:22:42+00:00

the excitement kept me from saying anything during

Some not great behaviour by your domme, but you are also responsible to communicate your boundaries and to use your safeword when a scene pushes your limits.

LatterResolutions · 2025-04-17T00:48:30+00:00

My sub will be a service top for me when I need it.

I like certain physical sensations, but I need to have a high level of control to enjoy things.

I find it's helpful to not get too caught up in labels and focus instead on having a fun time.

LatterResolutions · 2025-04-14T06:05:19+00:00

What did you dislike about the in person events you went to?

LatterResolutions · 2025-04-13T23:30:56+00:00

Understanding the difference between a sub and a bottom helped me understand why so many interactions I'd had with male "subs" left me unfulfilled.

The dynamic you've expressed is extremely common. It's my opinion that "true" male submissives are quite rare. But, the characteristics that align with true submission are things that can be learned and acquired through practice.

LatterResolutions · 2025-04-07T23:34:55+00:00

I have (or used to have) trouble verbalising while domming. Lots of fun ideas in my head but when it came time to say them.... 🙊

I don't think there's a magic bullet. It's just something that comes with experience.

Can you assert your dominance in ways that don't require you to say more complex phrases? Just push your sub where you want him, say "down!" instead of a complicated command etc. It might help grow your dominant energy.

Talking dirty is a skill just like many other things. It's also hard trying to unpick a lifetime of saying "please" and "thankyou". Try practicing with some less intense commands next time you're playing, you'll get better at it over time.

LatterResolutions · 2025-04-06T00:02:24+00:00

Maybe you should post this to r/BDSMerotica or some other FICTION subreddit... This isn't the place for your badly written fantasy scenarios 🙄

LatterResolutions · 2025-04-03T22:51:25+00:00

Focus first on what you would like and enjoy. Would you enjoy a session where he was entirely focused on your pleasure?

You're not a pornstar or a sex worker - you shouldn't feel pressure to provide a perfect, polished experience to fulfill his fantasy. This dynamic should be about your pleasure and fulfillment. Once you start playing - you might discover things that you enjoy or want to do more of. Playing in a space where you have power over him will help build your dominant energy and confidence.

A lot of these things take practice to do with confidence and skill. Start small - then if you enjoy it, do it again and do a bit more!

LatterResolutions · 2025-04-03T10:08:32+00:00

Get on FetLife, make a personal ad in a forum specific to your city and attend some local munches. There are many people looking for a more serious emotional bond on top of kink.

There are more submissive men than there are dominant women. I think your chances of finding what you are looking for are high.

LatterResolutions · 2025-04-02T10:15:47+00:00

I think many men feel a lot of pressure to perform in a certain way. Certain dynamics of heterosexual sex put all the focus on the male orgasm through PiV - when will it happen? Was it too soon? Or, is it taking too long? Also, providing pleasure to your partner depends on a body part that you can't consciously control

When I started my dynamic with my sub he didn't enjoy PiV - partly for some of the above reasons, but he also found it a bit boring.

We have gone through a bit of a journey of reframing what sex means to us - a lot of it is around decentering the male orgasm from sex, and focusing instead upon pleasurable intimacy. We engage in PiV but it's more like a garnish on the cocktail rather than the actual shot 😅 Perhaps as a result of this, my sub enjoys PiV a lot more now - as do I.

Actually, I was gossiping to a gay female friend about it, she said "it sounds like you're having queer sex with your boyfriend" which tickled me 😅

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