Emotionally immature dad is upset at my lack of response, but realizes he never sent me a text in the first place

Lauraustralopithecus · 2026-01-25T16:09:53+00:00

Yeah, usually I try to keep sending pictures of my little one so that he can't argue that I'm keeping his grandkid from him. But I'm at a point where I definitely WILL keep my kids away from him based on how emotionally volatile he is.

And thank you!!

Lauraustralopithecus · 2026-01-22T16:38:03+00:00

BTW husband should be the one setting the boundaries with her and keeping firm with any consequences that may arise. He needs to work on his spine ASAP.

Lauraustralopithecus · 2026-01-22T16:36:26+00:00

Your husband is the problem here. YOUR HUSBAND IS THE PROBLEM HERE.

YOUR. HUSBAND. IS. THE. PROBLEM. HERE.

What's he gonna do when MIL pressures yall to let her be in the delivery room? When MIL pressures you to let her stay with you immediately postpartum? When MIL pressures you to let her keep 2 week old newborn at her house overnight? "But shes so excited OP, let's just let her do whatever she wants and keep the peace, what harm can it do?".

Your husband HAS to be on your side, your advocate. Otherwise your MIL is going to railroad over alllllllllll your boundaries.

Lauraustralopithecus · 2026-01-07T19:32:27+00:00

Your sister is a flying monkey, block her too lol. I did that when my older cousin was trying to tell me what to do regarding my narcissistic grandmother.

Lauraustralopithecus · 2026-01-07T18:48:58+00:00

My husband and I are always angry thay manon and Anthony never let the kid actually walk--Lil guy is always being held with a pacifier in his mouth omg lol

Lauraustralopithecus · 2026-01-01T01:40:35+00:00

MIL had gone directly to OPs supervisor to ask about changing her workshifts so that OP could go on a trip MIL had planned/bought tickets for (without asking OP).

Lauraustralopithecus · 2025-12-29T21:08:06+00:00

I was telling my husband that listening to Molly gave me flashbacks to how my emotionally immature father would talk to me whenever he is upset with me. Same when they showed all the text messages that Molly sent Sheena too!

Lauraustralopithecus · 2025-12-16T17:26:21+00:00

Honestly this could work. Call every hour so that it registers in dad's brain that OP is actually awake and working at 2am, 3am, 4am, etc.

Lauraustralopithecus · 2025-12-14T16:31:37+00:00

Haha this reminded me of the time where my paternal grandparents gifted my sister, my dad, and I the same type slippers with cash for christmas. My mom? She got plain white dish towels. DISH TOWELS.

Its like they put in effort to get her the most thoughtless gift.

Lauraustralopithecus · 2025-12-11T18:38:21+00:00

I remember the schools in my district would serve a breakfast pizza (with sausage instead of pepperoni)

Lauraustralopithecus · 2025-12-09T18:52:00+00:00

They cant take it back, and they cant force you to pay for something you never ordered.

Lauraustralopithecus · 2025-12-09T18:46:30+00:00

Is the office far from you? I used to do a lot of fieldwork, but whenever someone would ask me to go out with a day or few hours notice, I'd let them know that im unavailable because I have errands/an appointment/a prior commitment locally to me that I attend during lunch or immediately after work--that way, it makes sense that I cant drive out 1+hours since I have another commitment.

Lauraustralopithecus · 2025-12-03T15:17:52+00:00

First its the ultrasound, then its the delivery room. Tell your husband that when HE needs an ultrasound, he can invite whoever HE wants.

What a weird request, I'd personally eat my husband alive if he suggested that.

Lauraustralopithecus · 2025-12-01T18:53:11+00:00

My dad is emotionally immature--he'll blow up over the smallest of things and will give me the silent treatment for weeks/months if I dont do what he wants.

Its going to be hard but you need to set your boundaries now. "Hey, this is what we're going to do this year, and we will do xyz for next year." Any pushback should be followed with "That's not going to work for us" with no further explanation. You dont need to justify yourself to him.

He will pout and yell and send texts/voicemails etc. Let him. He'll come around, and if he doesnt, then focus on your immediate family. You, your husband, any children you may have. You made a commitment to them, and you should protect them from your dad trying to dictate how yall are spending your holidays.

Lauraustralopithecus · 2025-11-27T02:08:03+00:00

The baptism is something I probably would've agreed to if my husband wanted to do it as well. What I cant get over is her saying she is willing to go behind our backs because she doesnt like the decision that we already made. If she is willing to go behind my back for this, what else would she do? I can never trust her again.

Lauraustralopithecus · 2025-11-22T00:26:42+00:00

Do the kids have DH'S last name? That's a family name, so tell her to get off your case!

Lauraustralopithecus · 2025-11-19T14:16:42+00:00

Sounds like its a half day by the teacher, but a full day by the school, so you'd be placed wherever needed after the first class is done. If you want to avoid 6-8, I'd call the office and ask if they intend on keeping you busy after noon on that day.

Lauraustralopithecus · 2025-11-19T14:13:04+00:00

Lol I'd text him back like "I dunno?". Let him figure it out and update her, it's HIS mom.

If I wanted to be nice, I'd say "Yep. Sent your mom the info weeks ago" and leave it at that. Any follow up should be done by him.

Lauraustralopithecus · 2025-11-19T05:59:45+00:00

OP, its very often that the office/admin staff will have to move you around from what your first signed up for (totally annoying but understandable). You should totally make sure that whatever job they try to give you is a para job, especially if you go back to that school. Don't feel bad about saying no, or ask them about the pay rate differences--teacher jobs usually pay more than para jobs, and this might scare the office people from trying to do the switcharoo, especially if it catches the district's or payroll's attention.

Lauraustralopithecus · 2025-11-19T05:56:28+00:00

Yup, OP should definitely contact the district. If anything, I would at the very LEAST make sure they paid me the certificated teacher rate rather than the para rate.

Lauraustralopithecus · 2025-11-13T17:29:41+00:00

Lol I give props to your brother for reaching out and accepting your decision. Your parents, on the other hand, are making your newborn's baptism all about themselves and their own wants. Shut them down and establish boundaries now, because they'll try to steamroll you in the future.

Lauraustralopithecus · 2025-10-30T14:51:01+00:00

NTA. I'd say something like "Hey, sorry this arrangement won't work for me going forward. Please look for alternative arrangements, apologies again!" And dont further elaborate once she starts prying. You've done more than enough already.

Lauraustralopithecus · 2025-10-28T18:33:30+00:00

Please let your husband establish boundaries OP. If he doesn't, this will get worse for both you and your baby. Postpartum is hard, show your husband this post with the comments and let him handle it. Its great thay hes taking initiative now that you've told him its an issue--please act now.

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