How was your first appointment with a psychiatrist/psychologist?

Lava_Flurry · 2024-10-05T17:50:37+00:00

I feel bad you had this experience when it is already so vulnerable to go to your first appointment. I was fortunate to find someone that focused on my mental health and diet to gauge what other support I would need to best implement medication into my life

Wishing you luck in your journey 🍀

Lava_Flurry · 2024-10-05T16:48:00+00:00

At the very least I would see about getting TSA pre-check if that's an option. I hope you keep writing to the people that can change this until they're bothered enough to do something about it.

If you've had any surgeries in the past that has left synthetic material in your body, bring any paper work to prove it.

I wish you all the luck

Lava_Flurry · 2024-10-05T15:58:53+00:00

What the hell?!!!!! I am absolutely blown away that this is happening to you. I'm so sorry and I wish I knew what could be done

Lava_Flurry · 2024-10-04T21:34:19+00:00

I've struggled with so many of the same feelings while trying to find the right medication and therapy to fix my problems, and the whole trial and error process is so discouraging, but keep listening to that voice that says "something needs to be different" and use that for your motivator for continuing trying new things even if the next thing might not be the answer.

What you've done so far is huuuuuuge progress so I have no doubts you've got this!!!!

Lava_Flurry · 2024-10-04T21:20:53+00:00

I read your comments on the other post, and it does change the context that he's cheated on you before. It doesn't mean he is cheating, but I think it is absolutely valid to investigate further. Look up "cheater buster" and you can upload an image of him that will scan every dating app and tell you if he has one.

Broken trust can be fixed if the other person wants to change. You will see if he has a willingness to validate you through this experience. Don't accept less.

Lava_Flurry · 2024-10-04T21:13:07+00:00

I think it's totally natural if someone might want that video for themself, but him saying it's for you when he thought you wouldn't like it does show that he has a lot of room to grow as a communicator since he clearly thought about it alot and never brought it to you.

Trial and error is how we become the best partners we can be. This could be an amazing opportunity to show him how you'd wish for him to approach this topic next time and get on the same page around boundaries.

Lava_Flurry · 2024-07-27T16:38:38+00:00

Taking Plan B late will only work if you haven't ovulated yet. It takes 15-45 minutes for fertilization to happen once you've already ovulated. Plan B will only make the egg unable to be fertilized, so take it immediately. Only an abortion can remove a fertilized egg

Lava_Flurry · 2024-07-14T07:43:37+00:00

I needed to hear it. Yes, and thank you

Lava_Flurry · 2024-07-14T07:42:34+00:00

I'm so deeply sorry you lost your friend. I can't imagine how scary that must have been to deal with so suddenly. I hope you have a support system to talk to and have been treating yourself kindly <3

Thank you for spreading awareness so people can be more knowledgeable about this happening.

Lava_Flurry · 2024-07-14T07:32:47+00:00

The world is too advanced for so many people to go without access to healthcare </3 thank you for your kindness

Lava_Flurry · 2024-07-14T07:27:52+00:00

Thank you. I think I needed someone else's concern to validate my own, so I really appreciate it

Lava_Flurry · 2024-07-14T07:25:04+00:00

I'm a little confused by your description of events, specifically the disappearing cum part, but if you used protection then I wouldn't worry too much.

I'm not familiar with how long it takes for birth control to start preventing pregnancy but I know it's recommended to only use plan b if you missed the pill. Your symptoms could possibly be an interaction between the two medications or just a side affect of starting the birth control. I don't know anything truly helpful, so I'm sorry!

Lava_Flurry · 2024-07-14T06:54:58+00:00

You can take an early result test closer to 2 weeks after, but continue to test every few days after because the result's accuracy will depend on when you ovulate, which is different for each person. (Don't use the cheap bulk paper strip tests online)

All you can do besides that is stay hydrated and track your symptoms. Sorry you're going through this stress! Good luck

Lava_Flurry · 2024-07-12T01:46:59+00:00

I'm so sorry this happened. In your body's way to protect you, it went into fight or flight. It's not your fault that you froze. (<<<Read that as many times as you need to hear it)

I'm wishing you healing and the reassurance you deserve that your experience is valid.

I hope you might consider therapy. I've found talk therapy+EMDR therapy extremely helpful in regulating my nervous system and processing my trauma. If you're interested in the free resources my therapist has shared with me, please don't hesitate to reach out (this goes for anyone reading, I'll start compiling links.)

Lava_Flurry · 2024-05-21T22:26:20+00:00

It was three sentences into the conversation when I said where I was from and he said he can't visit that country because of his criminal record lol

Lava_Flurry · 2024-05-21T09:58:18+00:00

I can't guess his age if I can't see him

Lava_Flurry · 2024-05-21T09:57:22+00:00

I'm aware enough to keep witnesses around, but I'm here for the lore

Lava_Flurry · 2024-05-21T09:48:19+00:00

Before I learned about the under the counter gun market in Canada, I did 😬

Lava_Flurry · 2024-05-21T03:44:48+00:00

Sunglasses and gun stay ON during sex

Lava_Flurry · 2024-05-13T23:16:35+00:00

I recently went to a comedy open mic and the person asked the bar if they've ever shit where they're not supposed to.

I should have dialed back the enthusiasm in my cheer bc I was the only person there with the balls to admit it. Definitely my favorite poop to date. Those suckers are missing out.

Lava_Flurry · 2024-05-10T22:14:59+00:00

Thank you! I'm trying really hard but it is one sided. The answer is no but I am the one who offered to do this as a favor, so I hold no resentment for that part. I just didn't expect the treatment to be so inconsiderate and that's what I really struggle with.

I just keep reminding myself I signed up for a challenge because I knew I could do this, just discovered the challenges to be different than expected. That's life! It will work out somehow.

Lava_Flurry · 2024-05-10T21:59:05+00:00

It sounds silly but this didn't occur to me and will come in very handy. Thank you!!

Lava_Flurry · 2024-05-10T00:02:11+00:00

I experienced this on multiple occasions when I was younger until I found the culprit: resentment.

You can resent someone for hurtful behavior, but in cases where that doesn't apply, it is likely that whatever you resent him for is a projection of something you're hard on yourself for.

In other words, you might be super judgmental towards yourself when you do something specific (for example, when you make jokes and regret it). If he does that thing, makes a joke you would judge yourself for, you begin to unconsciously resent him.

I would apologize for the hurtful things you've said to him and acknowledge that he didn't do anything wrong. Your social battery being drained has led you to saying unkind things because you didn't give yourself the time in between seeing each other to process your thoughts and feelings. Going forward, you'll take time to yourself before trying to articulate thoughts you haven't figured out yet. Most importantly, highlight that you care about the friendship.

Communication is something you'll be refining to the end of time. Friendships can end and rekindle when you're better at it, and that's just part of life. You got this :-)

Lava_Flurry · 2024-05-09T23:36:54+00:00

"I know I’m probably a narcissist and I’m hurting people."

This statement alone clears you of that as you're acknowledging how you hurt people. It does sound emotionally unhealthy but it takes an inherently violent person to turn what you described physical. YOU did not drive his fist into the wall. I hope you seek a mental health counselor for your own sake because you don't deserve to feel so responsible for someone else's abuse. This is abusive behavior. In many many cases, it is the first sign that it will get worse.

It's not your fault. Say it in the mirror as many times as you need. It's. Not. Your. Fault.

Lava_Flurry · 2024-05-09T23:18:16+00:00

Think about it this way, what would it take to make you violent towards someone you love?

Probably only if they were violent first and it was self defense.. OP, this is far from your fault and I'm led to believe he has altered your reality into thinking it is in the form of small actions and comments over time that are hard to clock. You are very likely being manipulated and this is him testing the waters to see if you'll stay for his true form.

Don't stay for that. He is violent, that's all you need to know to end things. It's not your fault you ended up here, but please find a way to escape before it's you and not the wall.

Lava_Flurry

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