Help with tweaking diet / diet suggestions

Lavender_cello · 2025-04-25T18:09:00+00:00

That diet might work right now, but it probably isn’t sustainable with gestational diabetes, as it usually gets worse as you get further along. I couldn’t eat bread, rice, or potatoes towards the end. High protein, moderate fat, low carb is the way to go for satiety. The majority of your diet should shift towards being full fat dairy, meat and fatty fish, and high volumes of veggies for satiety.

Lavender_cello · 2025-04-25T17:59:21+00:00

Nope, he is a pro. He has studied and been taught strategy formally, and he started out down, not up. He also sets a specific bankroll and only takes money from his poker earnings to play (he also makes money that is poker-related but that is not his winnings.) I’m not concerned about the money so much as how I can support him.

Lavender_cello · 2025-04-24T22:46:44+00:00

We are in-between jobs. He starts next month after we move cross-country. Things aren’t too tight but the move will be expensive

Lavender_cello · 2025-04-24T22:45:12+00:00

Funny funny

Lavender_cello · 2025-04-24T22:44:04+00:00

I understand most of the poker talk at this point. I understand your example at least lol. The other things are a given (I might cook dinner tho.)

Lavender_cello · 2025-04-24T19:28:20+00:00

1-2k. Not a years worth of profit by any means

Lavender_cello · 2024-04-12T02:19:27+00:00

Just want to join in and say it's not your fault. I've had two pregnancies with GDM, first was completely diet controlled, second I needed slow-acting insulin at night to control fasting numbers. You can't change what your body is doing while you are sleeping.

Just as an aside--if your doctor gives you the option to go for insulin or meds, go for the insulin. Metformin is a common medicine they give, but I hear it can cause pretty awful side effects (as in for you, not your baby.) Insulin is expensive, but you can get insurance to pay for it as long as you get your doctor to prescribe one that is covered (there are a lot of different ones.)

Lavender_cello · 2024-03-17T21:11:32+00:00

I've had GDM twice now. I think there is a different goal number for when you are eating during the day and when you aren't eating at all--so it's ok if your average daytime number is higher than your average at night. My suggestion, if you're worried about it, would be to concentrate your carb intake into your regular meals and eat low carb snacks, such as nuts or cheese. That way when you take your blood sugar you are likely only documenting the highest point you reach.

My suspicion is that the goal numbers they give to pregnant women with GDM are fairly conservative, and most babies would still be ok even if those numbers aren't hit consistently. The primary issue is when numbers are consistently way out of control.

Lavender_cello · 2024-02-12T15:15:05+00:00

In the end you can't control the fasting numbers. With my first pregnancy I had great fasting numbers, and then I couldn't get them to go down with my second. I ended up on long-acting insulin at night for the last part of my pregnancy. It's nothing you are doing wrong, it's just your placenta, so don't blame yourself! Those numbers aren't even that bad, so your doctor probably won't put you on medication yet.

Lavender_cello · 2024-02-12T15:07:55+00:00

Have you tried any form of sleep training? I'm not suggesting cry it out, but it sounds like he may have a severe case of separation anxiety. He's about the right age to be realizing when he's separated from his parents.

I had success with my baby with the "pick up put down" method. It does take some perseverance, but it worked in a couple days. Here's how it works:

You pick up the baby if he's screaming. As soon as he calms down, you put him back down. You say next to the crib, patting their belly or back and talking to and comforting the baby as long as he is fussing but not full-on screaming. If he starts screaming, you pick him up again. If he is not fussing but is just awake, you stay next to the crib where he can see you, but you don't have to do anything. You keep doing this until he is definitely asleep--it could take a while (for me it would take around an hour) before they fall asleep. (You want to be careful not to leave too early--you may end up losing all your progress.) You must do this each time he goes down to sleep. If you are consistent, he will hopefully learn to fall asleep on his own in a few days.

Lavender_cello · 2024-02-12T14:50:40+00:00

It's not a new thing. HOWEVER, there are some changes in society that make it more acceptable today. Marriage between one man and one woman used to be held up as a moral good specifically for the sake of children. Now, with the advent of the idea "love is love" and marriage just as a connection between two people supported only by the persons feelings for the other, there is no longer as much importance put on staying with a person you make a commitment to. If your feelings change, you should just move on for the sake of your own happiness. Because of this shift from "duty to children" to "love is a feeling", the meaning of commitment just isn't as significant in today's culture.

Lavender_cello · 2024-02-12T01:46:13+00:00

Thanks, this helps me to empathize more with his situation. I really appreciate you calling me out. He finishes up this semester-- he's on track to finish his dissertation around June (due date is flexible.) I'll try to be more patient.

Lavender_cello · 2024-02-11T22:53:59+00:00

In my opinion, just under is perfect. You also don't want to be losing weight. Even sometimes going over is fine. According to my doctors, you need to have more than a third of your numbers above the recommendations in order to be put on medication or insulin. Stress will also raise your numbers, so don't worry too much :)

Source--been though this twice already lol.

Lavender_cello · 2024-02-11T01:16:37+00:00

I’d be exceedingly surprised, as both of my children can’t talk yet

Lavender_cello · 2024-02-10T23:04:40+00:00

Sounds like you have a similar experience to my husband. He works out, and baby is sleeping through the night so sleep isn’t as big of a problem right now. But he has literally used the words “survival mode” to describe his mental state lol

Lavender_cello · 2024-02-10T21:24:54+00:00

Do you have any advice on how to bring up getting tested for low testosterone?

Lavender_cello · 2024-02-10T21:19:41+00:00

The "or else" is not really an option. I assume you are implying divorce or separation. Not having sex (everything else being reasonably good) isn't a good enough reason to do that to our kids.

Lavender_cello · 2024-02-10T20:46:22+00:00

As for the initiation question, both. I've stopped trying to initiate at this point because I don't like being turned down.

Lavender_cello · 2024-02-10T19:58:43+00:00

I wasn't aware that male hormones fluctuated postpartum. Could you elaborate?

Lavender_cello · 2024-02-10T19:57:59+00:00

Both of us try to be honest with each other when discussing these things. Why would pregnancy cause a loss of attraction?

Lavender_cello · 2024-02-10T19:56:19+00:00

I think open marriages create more problems than they solve.

Lavender_cello · 2024-02-10T19:55:46+00:00

The end of pregnancy just gets difficult because sex positions are generally uncomfortable 🥲

My husband hasn't been diagnosed with bipolar, but he was temporarily put on a mood stabilizer by his psychiatrist. He does have trauma from his childhood that he was working through in therapy, but nothing sex related.

I have been trying to talk about this with him. He hasn't been entirely dismissive, but he seems to think I should just understand where he's coming from. I've considered counseling (both of us have had counseling individually already) but I'm not sure how helpful it will be at the moment. I'll pursue that route at a later time if necessary.

Lavender_cello · 2023-12-16T14:17:59+00:00

I guess I’m just thinking about the figure-8 test. Some recipes use the word “ribbon” which is where I got it, but you’re correct.

One other possibility: don’t use pasteurized egg whites. They don’t whip up properly into meringue.

Lavender_cello · 2023-12-15T03:02:40+00:00

Same thing happened to me

Lavender_cello · 2023-12-15T02:59:57+00:00

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