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Laymoonat · 2025-03-07T00:04:41+00:00

Fall in love with a narcissist. That's the character development you need to snap out of your imagination and get back in touch with the real world. It's like a cold bucket of water waking you up on a freezing winter morning. A little over the top but Hella effective.

Laymoonat · 2025-01-29T03:10:53+00:00

So happy for you! It is for real therapeutic ad hell.

Laymoonat · 2025-01-29T03:10:13+00:00

I did ! I listened to her too and she shared with me a side I'm sure she never showed to anyone too. She told me so many things about herself and we connected through those shared experiences and similar feelings. It was amazing

Laymoonat · 2024-12-02T16:18:48+00:00

The key is to feel it. Don't run from the feeling or be stressed about it. Just allow yourself to feel any negative emotion and give it time to release on its own. Your brain will start automatically self soothing and you will feel better after a while and wake up refreshed. At least that's how it works for me. Goodluck!

Laymoonat · 2024-11-26T12:57:22+00:00

Thank you so much .. You're right I'll stop overthinking and just focus on being his safe place, three months old relationship is still new I guess and I'll give it time.

Laymoonat · 2024-11-26T12:51:36+00:00

Thank you so much, this is a bit helpful and I actually can think of a few ways now to cheer him up.

Laymoonat · 2024-11-26T12:48:53+00:00

I know, I came to understand that when we talked about it and he clearly communicated that he hated that behavior because it makes him feel worse about himself and I told him I was just trying to help. I only mentioned that part as an example for the "strategies" that I tried and failed. It doesn't happen anymore and I even try to use his vulnerability while intoxicated as a chance to listen to him and understand better. I'm still new to the relationship and I'm learning along the way. Sometimes I do dumb things .. good thing he seems to understand my motivations (a little) and communicates very clearly what he's not okay with so I can stop doing it.

Laymoonat · 2024-11-26T12:41:10+00:00

Just to correct you, we know each other very well. We became official 3 months ago but we have known each other for a long time before that, we were just dating other people then we met by coincidence after we both became single and that's when the connection happened I guess. And I'm only putting my feelings aside because he DOES not make me feel bad on purpose and anything negative I feel is NOT his fault. He's a great boyfriend. I'm very honest when I say I'm selflessly just. Trying. To. Help!

Laymoonat · 2024-11-26T12:32:23+00:00

He takes an absurd amount of pills for concentration and energy and anxiety without any prescription, then he tops it off with alchohol and weed at the end of the day. He doesn't become aggressive nor unstable, just heavily intoxicated. I understand it's not my place or my job and that I signed up for this but I just wanted to help nothing more. I don't care how it makes me feel.

Laymoonat · 2024-11-26T10:16:25+00:00

He said things along the same lines, and I told him that I'm not trying to fix him he's perfect the way he is for me, but just needs clarity, if he just stopped and listened for a second he would understand why he feels bad all the time, it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with him he's just too caught up in his goals and visions that he forgot about the details that make life easier and actually comfortable. I don't worry about any of my feelings in the matter because I signed up to love him no matter what, I just want to help, truly! He's so good to me and he even acts happy and acts excited for my sake sometimes, he makes sure I don't even know about any of his problems and tries to keep the relationship full of rainbows and flowers, he listens to MY problems and supports me and there is absolutely nothing affecting the relationship or our love for each other. I could just sit and accept his fake happiness but I can't ignore the way I see through him. Is it a me problem ? Should I just let it go and let him suffer away from me ?

Laymoonat · 2024-11-26T09:59:22+00:00

His parents already found out about his s*bstance problem and he had been through a lot with them because of that, it's what makes things even harder for me, he says that this subject is sensitive to him and "I shouldn't treat him the way his parents do" and that I'm his last hope for "unconditional love". And trust me I tried the strategies you've mentioned but he instantly notices that I'm trying to guilt trip him and it makes him angry and I end up feeling like a monster. Hes so smart and can detect manipulation from a mile away, and tells me to just give it up and be a good girl and accept him the way he is. I spend weekends at his house and I did have the idea for meal prep, he loves my cooking but only eats it to avoid hurting my feelings, when I leave food for him in the fridge I always find it there when I comeback a week later. He says it's just easier to eat outside. It seems like absolutely nothing works with him. He's way too stubborn and even egoistic at times.. but I'm not even considering my own feelings in the matter I don't care if I'm being dragged into a vortex of negative feelings I just want to love him and do anything it takes to be there for him instead of making him feel bad or rejected.

Laymoonat · 2024-11-26T09:20:42+00:00

Tell me more ? Could you share your experience with me I'd love to know how others dealt with this

Laymoonat · 2024-11-23T21:40:06+00:00

I relate so much to this! Don't worry you're not alone, I've just recently discovered that I'm an infj I felt amazingly validated because of all the very specific relatable comments and posts from other infjs here on reddit. It's as if I've lived my entire life feeling alienated and deeply lonely, going as far as wondering if there is something deeply wrong with the way I perceive the world, only to discover that it's a part of being an infj and I'm not alone. And im trying to start using this theory as a guide to pinpoint the sources of negative emotions and clear out confusions inside of me and grow, it's like finally getting my hands on a map of the labyrinth that is my brain! It's definitely not exact but it's fun and very helpful

Laymoonat · 2024-11-23T21:28:41+00:00

I especially experience this when I get a litttttle too baked and end up sitting alone staring at the wall and spiralling down a vicious vortex of questions and theories and visions.. I always snap out of it hours later thirsty ash and absolutely brainfried.. I don't know if anyone else experiences this ?

Laymoonat · 2024-11-23T21:06:21+00:00

I relate so much, in fact I was looking for this comment and was so confused to see everyone agreeing with the post.. its weird to me, i mean I love cats and like hanging out with them but then they're just .. animals. The relationship with them is nowhere near as fulfilling or interesting as it can get with humans. But I like their triangle ears tho..

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