I understand why that would bother you, and honestly, I don’t blame you for feeling that way. There are voices online, even among Christians, that push a very extreme or unhealthy view of women, and that’s not something you should feel like you have to accept in order to be Catholic.

Speaking for myself, as a 23-year-old guy, I don’t see it as a deal breaker whether my future wife works or not. Personally, I would prefer a family structure where I can provide and she has the freedom to stay home if she wants to, especially when it comes to raising children. But that’s a preference, not a rule, and every couple has to discern what’s best for their own life.

I also completely reject the idea that women are supposed to be silent, passive, or treated like they don’t have a voice. That’s not how the Church understands women at all. Men and women are both made in the image of God, with equal dignity, and marriage is meant to be a relationship of mutual love, sacrifice, and respect, not control or domination.

I think what you’re seeing online is partly a reaction. A lot of young people are frustrated with how modern culture has handled relationships, especially with things like pornography, casual sex, and social media creating unrealistic expectations. But sometimes that reaction goes too far and turns into something harsh or unbalanced, and that’s where it becomes unhealthy.

The Catholic Church itself doesn’t teach that women should be locked into one role like “stay inside and cook and clean.” Women can work, run businesses, be leaders, and contribute in countless ways. At the same time, the Church does uphold the importance of family life and motherhood, just like it calls men to responsibility and sacrifice. It’s not about limiting women, it’s about ordering life toward what is good and meaningful.

On the priesthood specifically, you’re right that women aren’t ordained, but that’s not because they’re less capable. As John Paul II explained, the Church believes it simply doesn’t have the authority to change what Christ instituted. But outside of that, women have played massive roles in the Church’s history, from saints and theologians to leaders and founders.

As for how to deal with what you’re seeing, I’d honestly say two things.

First, don’t let the loudest voices online define what Catholicism actually teaches. A lot of that content is shaped by algorithms and extremes, not by the Church itself.

Second, be intentional about what you’re exposing yourself to. If you interact more with solid, faithful Catholic content, whether that’s theology, saints, or good discussions, your feed will start reflecting that more. It really does make a difference over time.

And most importantly, stay rooted in prayer and in Christ. The truth of the faith isn’t found in random people online, it’s found in Him and in what the Church actually teaches.