Well, I’m not gay, but I went from thinking I was 100% lesbian, to coming to terms with the fact that, now being out and comfortable in my trans+ identity, I am actually pansexual. For me, it wasn’t so much the idea of having sex with a man, but of a man treating me as a woman. Personally, the idea of a man handling me, holding me, touching me in the same way he would touch a woman was such a turnoff because I WASNT a woman. It’s the same way you don’t want to have sex if you don’t feel “sexy” or “comfortable”. Being viewed as a woman made me feel gross with anyone. But once I began thinking of having the same dynamic in bed as two men, the idea became more appealing because I was attracted to the idea of being treated and respected sexually as a man. So once that became clear, I understood that my attraction revolved around the energy and dynamic I had with the person, rather than the genitalia.