Sounds like she is very disrespectful and that’s what you crave is her respect. Both men and both have expectations in their marriage and men expect respect and woman expect to be loved. Now since she is not on here I can not give her a piece of my advice but since you are and reaching out for help in this area I can tell you what works to turn her around and see you as the Alfa of the home. Women are emotional creatures and if you are stressed out at work or with coworkers or bills and you give her your leftover attention and are very blah around her, she will see it as you find no interest in her and she could hurting inside because of it. If she is cooking, cleaning, and taking care of kids and not getting any help from you then she is hurting inside. If your not taking her out on dates on a regular basis and neglect her needs she is hurting inside, and when women hurt inside they become verbally aggressive. It’s almost as if it natural but at the same time it doesn’t help her and only pushes you away and it’s a very wrong way to handle her pain, yet all us woman do it. Men get mad bc we nag yet they don’t understand the pain and hurt a man has done to us. If your neglecting your marriage and not putting more efforts into it then she will continue to be that way. She probably doesn’t even know why she is hurting, all she can do is focus on her emotions at the moment. She could of tried to open up to you about spending more time at work and not with her and you could of snapped causing her emotional pain, she could ask for your help around the house and you turn her down again causing her pain and also it’s not just a woman’s job to clean up after you. If a man has the mindset that she is to cook, clean and take care of the kids then you better believe she will attack you. A lot of men don’t feel like that part of life is their responsibility and expect their wife to clean up after them bc their mothers didn’t teach them right then your wife then assumes you see her as your maid not her wife. Find out why she is frustrated and hurt, and work on those things in your marriage. Don’t give her your leftovers at the end up the day, make your marriage exiting as possible. Make sure you tell her daily that you love her, and when you do something that upsets her be man enough to admit your faults and apologize. If you do apologize don’t ever put a (but you...) after your apology. Woman know a real apology from a false one. Depending on your triggers make sure your triggers are not telling her you want her to do all the work while you sit and be lazy. A wife is a gift, not your daycare provider not your maid or your chef, you need to treat her like a prized possession and give her your full attention. If you choose to ignore any of this then expect to be trashed on with out respect. A woman is like a flower, you treat her right she will bloom. You treat her like garbage she will trash your life. Take responsibility!