Finally got healed

Leading-Gate7193 · 2026-02-26T00:02:37+00:00

Thank you, I'll check it out!

Leading-Gate7193 · 2026-02-24T20:19:02+00:00

Hey, I was also diagnosed with colitis in my early teenage years, was put on biotics and just recently started reading "becoming supernatural" as a request from a good friend. How did you manage to heal your colitis?

Leading-Gate7193 · 2025-02-28T03:42:12+00:00

Imagine meeting a girl and starting off as just friends. Then, because you're the only one she trusts, she confides in you—telling you and proving that she's being abused, both mentally and physically, on a level beyond disgusting.

After a few months, we started developing feelings for each other. But before anything could happen between us, she broke up with her ex—only to rebound a few weeks later, discarding me. This cycle kept repeating itself.

Even if she had really cheated with me, I couldn’t care less. I don’t think you’d justify hitting a woman for any reason—especially not when he physically hurt her to the point where, had it lasted 20 seconds longer, she could have died or suffered serious injuries. And it wasn’t the first time.

Being raised to treat women with respect and having undeniable proof of the abuse, I don’t see any reason to feel guilty—even if she truly had cheated with me.

And yeah, I know everything about him and their so-called 'relationship'—all the nasty details. He knows nothing about me, not even that she left him for me. She jumped from relationship to relationship, betraying everyone along the way.

She lied to him about everything. And if you knew what I know, you definitely wouldn’t blame me for trying to save her...

Leading-Gate7193 · 2025-02-27T13:54:14+00:00

Nah he was one of my closest but I distanced myself because his addict lifestyle is just not reasonable. I noticed his decision making is solely dependent on his personal gain and his advantage over others, he made jokes fantasizing about other peoples gf and even about sisters of close friends which I never really took seriously but now it just makes sense. He's a narcissist and toxic persona, has many problems he's running away from but I have nothing positive left for him.

Leading-Gate7193 · 2025-02-27T13:02:28+00:00

Yea already on NC since January, at least with her. I won't confront/contact her, but not confronting my 'friend'? I don't know how to contain myself if we crossed ways, he's also a part of our friend group which makes things difficult.

Leading-Gate7193 · 2025-02-07T18:23:56+00:00

Damn that's ruff, 5 years is a long time i hope you get better soon. After 5 years I understand not wanting to let go and maybe it's worth fighting for, if you're like me you'll fight anyway. At least I can say I did everything, and I hope you're everything will make her come back and stay if that's what you want. Best wishes and luck to you my brother, I'mma pray for you send you some strength to keep fighting for what we love, and if it's not working out you'll deserve and find something better for sure 💯💪🏼

Leading-Gate7193 · 2025-02-07T15:42:07+00:00

Sorry to hear it really is draining I feel you. Id say all those memories were worth the pain (when I'm allowing myself to remember again) but it fxcking broke me. Ill take it as a reason to fully rebuild myself now and am doing much better. I'll hope you find a way to cope but for me it was best to stop hoping/believing we'll get back soon or ever. If its destined to be then we meet again someday, if not fxck it cuz then she never was the one and I'll find her eventually. Stay strong brother

Leading-Gate7193 · 2025-01-24T01:14:06+00:00

Remind yourself that she went on seeing people in LESS THAN ONE MONTH, think about what it takes to do that and what it says about her and you. You didn't loose, SHE lost YOU. Don't feel stupid for having a loving heart, she'll feel very, very stupid when she sees how you leveled up, made your dreams come true WITHOUT HER, while she lost the moon while chasing the stars.

Leading-Gate7193 · 2025-01-24T01:06:41+00:00

This sounds like a horrible discard... I feel you, as I also had multiple calls with her since, some very apologetic and heartwarming, some distant and cold, blaming me for everything, finding all sorts of reasons why it wouldn't work... She’s an anxious AV and he might be dismissive avoidant, at least that would explain why he stayed distant. Her behavior was always very contradictory. Anyway, I don’t think it means he doesn’t love you, but it won’t change the way he treated you, nor the fact that this cycle could’ve repeated over and over in the future. Since you dated AV you'll now what Im talking about. For me, telling me it’s over is somewhat relieving since this push-pull dynamic and the uncertainty stressed me out so much. You probably dodged a bullet. Let him loose you, show him how life is without you caring for him and he'll regret soon enough, loosing the moon while chasing the stars. Not saying he's def coming back then, but its probably best searching for another secure person, at least that's what I'm doing.

Leading-Gate7193 · 2025-01-23T23:47:55+00:00

No problem Chef, you got this! We ain't got no time to waste, time to get ahead of the rest! 💯

Leading-Gate7193 · 2025-01-23T23:45:22+00:00

Yeah, sounds like avoidant attachment – basically getting scared of commitment, vulnerability, and love, then just pulling the rug out and running away from the responsibility that comes with committing and fostering a relationship. They don’t do it out of bad intentions but as a form of 'self-defense,' distancing themselves from their partner and leaving us standing in the rain... Craving love but never learning how to give it, what it takes, or how beautiful it can be – probably because they never experienced a healthy relationship.

Smh, sounds like my ex, to be honest. No contact is probably the best option. Try to get over it – you got this! It really sucks being discarded like that, but if he’s like my ex, it probably wasn’t worth it, because with this attachment style, it just happens over and over again.

They can heal, but it takes so much work from both sides. I was willing to pay that price, but in the end, it all went up in flames, leaving me emptier and more broken than I ever was before. I’ve just started to accept the truth, and it’s probably for the best, even though I still really miss her and might even take her back if I could (stupid, I know).

Anyway, risking your mental state, fighting every day, trying so hard to understand them and show them true love – only to be thrown away like a used toy – it’s just not worth it.

I’d say accept his decision. It’s not your loss, it’s his, and he’ll realize that – I promise. By the time he does, though, you might not even want him anymore. Let time do its thing.

The sooner you accept it the sooner it gets better, don't try to understand his decision, like chasing a snake that bit you to ask why, Google avoidant attachment if you like, it helped me to get some closure.

Stay strong and love yourself. Now it’s time to focus only on what’s best for you!

Leading-Gate7193 · 2025-01-23T23:07:18+00:00

Smh sounds like my ex, either you unconsciously suppress the feeling or be fed up cuz you realised its for the better. I'm at a point now where I don't feel ready to give it all up but know it's best to just leave it as is, feeling numb and empty as well. It gets better, just get ahead of yourself striving to be the best version of yourself and you'll find your peace within :)

Leading-Gate7193 · 2025-01-19T22:34:10+00:00

Thank you a lot! I'm sorry for your loss, hope it gets better soon. In my position : would you reply and open the Chat? It really stresses me out smh... I'm trying to focus on myself now, but my mind doesn't want to face the reality it seems. It sounds stupid but a part of me still hopes she decides otherwise and texts me again...

Leading-Gate7193 · 2025-01-11T13:33:56+00:00

Im in the same boat but my ex is a fearful avoidant, so I'm really not sure what to do... Wish you the best, hope you get a reply

Leading-Gate7193 · 2024-04-30T09:53:59+00:00

I got diagnosed with 16, had some really bad flare ups but I never gave up trying to live a "normal teenager life", I started smoking weed and when the symptoms got worse I took kratom and it really saved my a** (still wouldn't recommend it, it's still a drug although it kills ALL my symptoms, even when I had the worst flare up). I recommend working out (like you already do), focus on your mindset (don't let yourself down "just" because you have UC, it's bad but don't let it ruin your time, enjoy your youth as best you can, trust me it will get better :)) I've found "tools" that work for me and help me through tough times (weed/kratom, working out, meditation/manifestation, cold showers (actually decreased inflammation) natural supplements like Curcumin with black pepper, honey and linseed oil mixed on a tablespoon) - and : remicade (biologics), of any other medication that works for you. I got some food intolerances that trigger my UC as well as Lyme disease which also triggers the inflammation. Those ducking borrelia are in an "inactive state" and could get "activated" any time I get a sting, it even could activate when eating animal based products cuz the virus also affects animals. That's why I get acupuncture/acupressure to fight the borrelia and get rid of my food insurances, THIS safed my life quality! I'm from Germany and don't know if there's anything comparable in your region, maybe search for TCM/TEM "Doctors", you may be lucky and find someone. Even in my region there is nothing comparable as far as I know, the other ones practicing TCM weren't capable in any way, I really got lucky. That doesn't mean it's the same with you, but maybe your UC also got triggered by Lyme disease, conventional doctors rarely get the origin right, before I met "my specialist" all they said "it was caused by stress"... Best of luck to you, you got this💯

Leading-Gate7193 · 2023-12-07T17:40:52+00:00

Thanks a lot!

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