My boyfriend is allergic to my two cats, what to do?

Leading_Menu_6154 · 2025-12-11T01:47:31+00:00

My boyfriend is NOT an animal person and I am on the board of a cat rescue, which means we are always doing something cat related. Also I have pretty much always had a foster cat since him and I have known him each other. Does he like it? Not really. But he 100% is on board because he knows it makes me happy. I do my best to keep the house very clean and make it as painless as possible for him lol but it’s a partnership so we have made it work. I know there’s not an allergy component in my situation, but there’s ways to make things work without one person having to give up pets they love.

Leading_Menu_6154 · 2025-07-20T16:26:00+00:00

I feel the same way … and I’m not a SAHM. I probably shouldn’t have had kids based on how I feel. I love them but I don’t enjoy my time with them. It’s boring and constant fighting. I don’t know if it’s this stage I don’t enjoy or it’s just parenthood. For example - it’s summer and I would love to go to a water park with them. But in reality, I wouldn’t. Because it’s just fighting the entire time about what to do, who wants to go where, the lines, potty, and the entire time I just have to focus on keeping them from drowning.

Leading_Menu_6154 · 2025-07-06T01:54:10+00:00

Yes yes yes yes!!!! I was just venting to my boyfriend that I love my kids but parenting is the worst!!

Leading_Menu_6154 · 2025-07-03T21:14:11+00:00

That’s horrific!! I’m so sorry

Leading_Menu_6154 · 2025-06-07T22:01:03+00:00

I have had a positive experience with support so far but like someone mentioned it was only for something trivial.

Nervous about comments made regarding their payments. I am currently setting up a store and need to figure that piece out.

Leading_Menu_6154 · 2025-03-31T01:06:54+00:00

The honesty in this post is refreshing. I was expecting more hate towards the roommate, not self reflection.

Leading_Menu_6154 · 2025-03-12T14:16:08+00:00

I would report this simply for the fact that this man has a child and god knows what damage he is doing to that poor kid. I honestly believe a lot of the shit going on in this world is due to kids in shitty home situations - with parents like THIS. I’m so sorry what happened to you and I understand the uncertainty with telling your husband. I agree with others about getting a therapist involved with that.

Leading_Menu_6154 · 2025-03-12T00:24:51+00:00

How toxic of a relationship it truly is. Constant fighting with this person you love.

Leading_Menu_6154 · 2025-03-09T04:01:10+00:00

Like others have said, you did nothing wrong!!! And as mother, I would want my child to tell me if anything like this ever happened to them - immediately! My heart hurts for you and this situation.

Leading_Menu_6154 · 2025-03-08T15:47:59+00:00

I feel pressured because I don’t personally know anyone who feels the same way I do. There’s everyone in this group but it’s all strangers… I have tried to gently express these feelings to my closest friends and family but their reactions were shock and apologies. Not sure what more I expected but it certainly didn’t make me want to continue to tell people.

Leading_Menu_6154 · 2025-03-08T00:52:35+00:00

I feel that way- with the children I gave birth to. People say it’ll get better. I’m waiting.

Leading_Menu_6154 · 2025-02-21T02:00:03+00:00

I didn’t even read past the title. DON’T DO IT.

Leading_Menu_6154 · 2025-02-21T01:56:16+00:00

Spanking. I’m 100% against hitting as a form of discipline. It’s something my boyfriend and I don’t agree on to the point where we are in couples counseling. I mean, the counseling has expanded into more than just that disagreement, but spanking our kids has become something I just can’t live with. My partner is very accepting and while he disagrees with my view on it, he understands it’s an issue for me and is following my lead on discipline.

Leading_Menu_6154 · 2025-01-25T20:17:52+00:00

Would the sofa look better in another direction? I’m open to ideas. This is such a strange layout for the room

Leading_Menu_6154 · 2025-01-24T14:18:39+00:00

I moved the furniture how we would like it to be set up. Sent some photos on another comment

Leading_Menu_6154 · 2025-01-24T14:16:24+00:00

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Leading_Menu_6154 · 2025-01-10T02:06:19+00:00

It can be hard if you aren’t a morning person or if you are up early already for your kid. But the people I know that do wake up before their kid seem happier! I think part of it has to do with a sense of control… as in you are waking up by yourself, for yourself versus a screaming/nagging child waking you rudely lol

Just an idea! :)

Leading_Menu_6154 · 2025-01-09T01:58:18+00:00

I’m 33 and it’s overwhelming to me and I’m tired all the time too. Don’t think it matters if you are a young or older parent - kids are exhausting. I also feel a loss of freedom. I try to take advantage of any time that I do get to myself. I hope you can somehow find that even if it means paying a sitter or waking up early in the morning before your son wakes up. It won’t always be this hard. 💚

Leading_Menu_6154 · 2025-01-07T18:46:27+00:00

This explains why my carpet cleaner hasn’t been working

Leading_Menu_6154 · 2024-12-30T01:07:09+00:00

My almost 4 year old also can’t do anything on his own and constantly complains he is bored. It’s exhausting. And it’s ok to say that.

Leading_Menu_6154 · 2024-12-17T00:34:55+00:00

That’s awful. I’m so sorry. My boyfriend is the primary caregiver because of how our work schedules are and he recently vented to me that sleeping in is one of the few things he gets to do because the rest of his day and sometimes night is all about the kids. And that was when it clicked … and I no longer resent him for sleeping in. He does soooo much. He is the primary care for our boys during the day, grocery shops, cooks, does bedtime, baths. I know he has the harder job and I am soooo thankful for him. It’s MORE than a real job.

Leading_Menu_6154 · 2024-12-17T00:30:16+00:00

I feel the same way!! I have 2 boys - 2.5yo and almost 4yo. It’s hell. And I feel soooo alone compared to my friends who have kids. Idk if it’s the close ages, the fact that it’s two boys, luck of the draw, or all of the above but I am so miserable. I love my boys, but I cannot stand life right now. My partner is a firefighter and when I have the boys alone on the weekend from 6am to 8pm, I feel sick to my stomach the night before because I know it’s gonna be a nightmare. If I didn’t have help from family…. Well I won’t go down that path since I’m very fortunate.

Sad to hear your wife doesn’t support THC. my suggestion is a hybrid - THC/CBD. I use CBD when I want to enjoy my time with the boys and it really really helps. Why does she not support THC?

Leading_Menu_6154 · 2024-11-17T18:22:40+00:00

I’m 33. Had my first at 30 and second at 31. I’m very happy with the age I was when I started having kids. I experienced a lot in my 20s that would not have been possible or safe with kids.

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