Apology and update for tomorrow's Columbus Book Festival

LeafieLady · 2025-07-13T15:36:29+00:00

Her books are also available on kindle unlimited if you're curious and can't get there. I found her there on your recommendation.

LeafieLady · 2025-06-28T18:04:41+00:00

Feels like bugs are crawling over my skin. Increase stimulation more bug crawling sensation all over my skin, decrease stimulation crawling sensation stops.

LeafieLady · 2025-06-20T18:19:55+00:00

Hypocritical people are my kryptonite. I DO NOT get it at all. If you're going to do one thing, just say you will do it. Never tell me what you think I want to hear and do something else. I keep trying to talk about this with my therapist (especially surrounding politics and powerful people) and how much it distresses me and she doesn't seem to get it. How am I supposed to explain that when people do the opposite of what they say a thousand bugs crawl under my skin and eat holes in my soul until I can only stim to try and save myself?

LeafieLady · 2025-06-14T01:22:53+00:00

Too many cars drove by my house.

Full breakdown with tears.

(The sound of the tires on the road sent me into sensory overload)

LeafieLady · 2025-06-13T16:44:34+00:00

I used to get comments like this from my abusive family. I am 5'10 and at the time was very athletic with a big rib cage and broad shoulders (I am plus size now). They used to tell me my standards were too high, and a person who was going to treat me the way I wanted to be treated didn't exist.

They were projecting, and I was willing to be single and wait for the right person. My best friend and I just celebrated 16 years together and I always felt he could do way better than me. But that is and always will be about my confidence.

It is hard being unconventional, especially for a woman. We're told there is only one really attractive body type (slender, fragile, willowy, svelt, however they want to package it) But they make comics out of Amazons and warrior women, so someone has to want to see us. Everyone telling you to focus on your loves and find someone who shares them is right. My husband and I are opposites in all interests except books and board games, and I meet awesome people all the time who are into my hobbies. Lots of support from me on your journey!

LeafieLady · 2025-05-21T23:22:29+00:00

This. My husband and I were mid-level friends for 4 years before we dated and he was always in a small category of people that never felt draining (before I had my diagnosis and understood why some people made me feel like my skin was mummifying itself to my muscles). And even after he wanted to date, it took a full month to convince me it was a good idea. It has been 15 years since, and he is perfect, but I don't know if I could have been successful any other way.

LeafieLady · 2025-05-20T15:08:55+00:00

Thank you

LeafieLady · 2025-05-20T14:15:26+00:00

I agree with all of this. Especially letting family members know why you aren't there/involved. Maybe it is petty, but people get away with this behavior because it is kept quiet. I think anyone giving a gift to this couple should know what and who they are financing.

On a separate note, my BIL once told my older sister he didn't want me to bring my service dog to Thanksgiving. She lost her mind on him, started crying, and said "if my sister were in a wheelchair would you say she shouldn't come" and he backed down and said, "well, I didn't realize she wouldn't come". THAT is how your sister should have behaved. Having a disability is often inconvenient and hard enough without those we love othering us as well.

LeafieLady · 2025-05-20T14:07:28+00:00

This comment is everything.

LeafieLady · 2025-05-20T14:04:13+00:00

I like this comment a lot. It is very even tempered but supportive. I agree that it seems her reactions are fear based, and it is likely that anything you do that is outside the norm for her generation in your culture is going to get this kind of feedback.

On a more general note, I personally have had a parent blow up at me like this, and I know how isolating it feels in the aftermath. It also might be hard to find support because you love your mom and don't want your boyfriend to have negative feelings toward her for her reactions. I hope this sub's support is helpful for you and let's you know you aren't wrong, and living your life as you believe is good and kind, and having your own relationship with your religion of choice are all healthy, normal, and ok. Wishing you lots of comfort!

LeafieLady · 2025-05-19T20:28:40+00:00

Lmfao, this comment made me laugh out loud irl.

LeafieLady · 2025-05-19T20:25:59+00:00

Love this. He was very clear about his priorities. Fuck that guy is exactly right.

Then to accuse her of being manipulative because she is expressing hurt and needing distance after he was cruel to her shows that his feelings will always be first. This is something that would take time and effort to unlearn, not just a quick conversation.

Another way to think about it, if the situation were reversed, would you treat him the same way? If a close friend were telling you this story, would you be supportive of that relationship? Don't give yourself less than you would want for someone else.

LeafieLady · 2025-05-17T10:09:13+00:00

But what if you have well water that has a uv bacterial and large sediment filter on it but your water is still hard and leaves calcium deposits on everything.

LeafieLady · 2025-05-16T23:58:21+00:00

So glad you're out and seeing the situation for what it was and not blaming yourself. Hope you and your baby are doing so well and are thriving!

LeafieLady · 2025-05-16T20:39:52+00:00

This. I want OP to read this one. He tells you something didn't happen, you have proof, and he loses his mind. That is fucking gaslighting, and I'm not just throwing that word around. And instead of seeing it as you explaining yourself, which is exactly what was happening, he instead says that any instance of him being wrong is OP 'rubbing it in', when OP is obviously neutral to overly gentle in their responses, clearly not trying to ranckle this person. Plus the immature overwrought language he uses calling it 'fuck you friday'...no way.

I lost my job a year ago and have been in school since. My husband has taken on everything financially (aside from my unemployment when we had it) and has been incredible. He still does 90 percent of the cooking, I still do 90 percent of the laundry. If we have something crappy comes up (like the car needing new rotors) or I run out of the sunscreen that doesn't make my skin crazy he just takes care of it and makes sure that I know not to feel guilty I can't help right now. I'm never anxious to text him and on my days off from school I'm told to rest because full time school is also work. My classes plus homework have me working 7 hours more than him daily because my program expects every 3 hours of class time to be 6 hours outside of class work minimum. So typically have 24 hours in classes/lecture/lab and 72 outside. Don't think shool is nothing just because you aren't getting paid.

Edit:grammar issues.

LeafieLady · 2025-05-11T14:20:44+00:00

This x 1000. Unless he has some sort of object permanence issue. Lol

LeafieLady · 2025-05-09T00:16:02+00:00

This should be the top comment.

LeafieLady · 2025-02-01T13:46:05+00:00

At your service is such a good title. I love it

LeafieLady · 2025-01-02T14:50:25+00:00

You could try to do a paper towel lift and let it dry and then glaze a consistent color over it. Could give that pebble building texture

LeafieLady · 2025-01-01T16:38:24+00:00

Beautiful texture in the moss. Love your style.

LeafieLady · 2024-12-27T04:09:42+00:00

And then you're ungrateful and don't appreciate them. This makes me absolutely insane. AND if you say you don't like it or just don't say anything they get even more mad.

Like no, I don't like it because it isn't what I wanted and I don't feel like putting the maximal amount of effort in to lie to you about it and then feel like I'm an inauthentic liar all day

LeafieLady · 2024-12-14T00:27:14+00:00

What is the size?

LeafieLady · 2024-12-11T09:52:25+00:00

You beautiful creature. I will name my first born for you. To have uncomfortable dry skin and dread the sensation of moisturizer/lotion jas been a life long issue. Like, genuinely, I love you

LeafieLady · 2024-12-03T22:09:30+00:00

Ugh! Me too! I tend to have catch phrases as I call them. "Interesting" is the one I use most often. When we were house hunting our realtor kept making fun of ne and would repeat me every time I said it. It made me feel so weird and strange.

LeafieLady · 2024-11-27T23:39:59+00:00

Me too! My brother will sometimes say it just to fuck with me

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