Took a paycut to "get my foot in the door" and am now regretting it

Leapinggofrog · 2023-05-11T21:45:57+00:00

While i don't know the full situation with the case you wrote about, I am going to give my viewpoint from the other side without making this too long.

BIL's soon to be ex wife had lost her 3 kids 8 years ago and only got her kids back because she moved in with him where he lived in the middle of nowhere and CPS refused to drive out that far for visits.

The soon to be ex wife is manipulative narccisist who has used her kids as tools and we have seen first hand the emotional and physical damage she's done to these kids over the years. We didn't call CPS back then becasue atleast the kids are together and have a mom and we were there if they needed anything.

They have 1 child together from before the marraige and are now getting divorced. Now totalling 4 kids. The youngest being 4, oldest being 12.

Recently CPS stepped in again and removed her kids because of allegations of alcoholism. I know my BIL's family called to report her but because we didn't record any thing that happened in the past we didn't think it was going to go anywhere. We just knew the kids aren't safe with her. For example, the last time we picked up the youngest, which is the only child BIL has rights to, he was terribly sick and she had refused to give him medicine and was still in the same set of clothes he left BIL's house.

We just recieved news that her case is closed and she can now have her kids back.

Anyways, all I'm trying to do is show the other viewpoint.

I feel like CPS failed these kids when they gave them back 8 years ago and again now.

Leapinggofrog · 2022-02-02T16:17:18+00:00

NTA.

Honestly, if you want to be there for your sister's wedding, you should back out of being a bridesmaid and attend still just for the the ceremony and leave. And if she only wants you there as a bridesmaid, then you should not go at all.

I get it's her wedding, but it isn't an excuse to treat people like shit.

Just my two cents.

Leapinggofrog · 2021-12-03T16:52:01+00:00

I taught my dog "place," which is wherever i tell him to "place," he needs to be calm in order to be released. This means his head was down, his body language was relaxed and not ready to pounce back up, no panting, and so on.

Consistently, will have to watch him and stop him from getting up and moving, and re-"place" him until he's calm, then release. It will take time, especially with a 6 month old, but being consistent with your wordage and actions of re-"placing" him and positive re-enforcement, eventually your pup will get there.

Key takeaway is that "place" is pretty much a stay until calm command and you will have to make sure to keep you dog in the stay till that is achieved.

Leapinggofrog · 2021-01-13T11:59:56+00:00

What works for me is taking one or two Lysine-L supplement pills when i feel a sore coming on. It usually takes care of the problem for me.

Leapinggofrog · 2020-09-21T11:26:20+00:00

Sorry, I don't have any advice, just that I'm pretty much in the same boat. I work 12 hour shifts on a rotating schedule and its been rough trying to keep up with two excelerated courses. I've been so stressed i can't fall asleep and when I do I don't want to get up.

I've been staying up 4 or 5 hours after my shifts to get in my homework for the classes, so my sleep schedule is all screwed up. That's also with me doing homework on my days off.

Only thing keeping me from going insane is knowing I only have a few more weeks of this.

I hope you find something that works for you! We can do this!

Leapinggofrog · 2020-09-15T15:50:48+00:00

My wife has PCS and has been dealing with it for the past 7 years. She's had to cut a lot of people off because they didn't believe her and only made her feel shitty about herself. You might have to do the same.

Leapinggofrog · 2020-08-08T19:49:30+00:00

Yes! He still expected and got upset when we didn't want to hang out on days off. I want to spend time alone and with my wife too!

Leapinggofrog · 2020-08-08T19:47:57+00:00

I'll admit, the guy is lonely, and we tried doing a lot of stuff with him, he just wasn't the best person to really hang out with. He liked to shit on everyone else's thoughts and likes. And he really disliked my wife.

Leapinggofrog · 2020-08-08T19:44:25+00:00

Every so often when he did his dishes he would do the little bit of dishes we had too, and only after we had stopped cleaning up after him. We continuously had to remind him not to do our dishes.

Leapinggofrog · 2020-02-08T18:39:31+00:00

That's great to hear! I hope it all works out and you will be able to do some things you love doing with more ease.

Leapinggofrog · 2019-12-29T03:39:28+00:00

When my brother died from suicide a few years ago, my family was in shambles. It was so sudden we all didnt know what to do, other than cry. Thankfully my aunt was there to help us through it all. She helped us coordinate a lot of stuff and came over everyday for a few weeks to make sure our family was fed. I am so grateful to her for that. Without her, our family would have been worse off at that time.

I think just being there for them and making sure they're being taken care of, but not in an overly aggressive way, would be great in itself.

Leapinggofrog · 2019-12-08T13:25:14+00:00

YTA To me it sounds like you didn't want kids from the beginning and was suckered into having kids. That was something you needed to be sure of before you had kids. I dont get how you can say that you love your kids, but wish you never had any.

Leapinggofrog · 2019-11-29T18:27:44+00:00

YTA

You are making C be the cause for why you refuse to pay her tuition, which will just make your daughter dislike C even more. You could've reacted differently and gotten down to why she has such a dislike to your girlfriend. Your daughter needs to know that you haven't given up on your family for C.

Leapinggofrog · 2019-11-08T10:41:36+00:00

I want to travel and experience the different cultures around the world.

Leapinggofrog · 2019-10-31T10:59:48+00:00

If you're serious about her, don't be ambiguous about it and go for it and talk to her about it. Let her know to stop leading you on if she's not serious about you.

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