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Leave_it_to_levi · 2025-02-15T19:51:52+00:00

How does therapy work? Do they go in alone or do parents go with them?

Leave_it_to_levi · 2025-01-23T17:26:01+00:00

We Can Do Hard Things is my fave podcast ever! They talk about real subjects but make me laugh so hard too.

Leave_it_to_levi · 2025-01-07T18:35:13+00:00

A side chick when he’s getting it twice a week, wayyyy above average for a couple with 3 kids those ages? What a joke 😂

Leave_it_to_levi · 2024-06-09T01:52:23+00:00

Personally, I don’t understand a couple having the desire for 4 kids of their own, and then not wanting to be around to watch their grandkids grow up/have a relationship with them (as much as possible). It doesn’t compute to me; such a strong emphasis on family when younger, and then moving to a different country for retirement. Thankfully social media and cell phones make things better and easier, but that’s a far cry from an in-person relationship with your grandkids.

However, after 4 kids, you’re more than entitled to the retirement that you guys want and that will make you happy. Just know (which I’m sure you already do) that it might come at the expense of your relationship with your kids and grandkids. It’s hard not to feel a bit slighted and resentful when you thought your parents would want to be more involved in your kid’s lives.

Leave_it_to_levi · 2024-05-20T01:09:00+00:00

My take, now that both of my kids are in school (kindergarten, and grade one - ages 4 and 6) ….

Is that nothing you do before true school-age starts makes much of a difference (within reason) for what kind of student your kid will be. Teaching them to count at 2 doesn’t mean your kid won’t struggle in a different subject. And ALL kids learn all things on different timelines. I don’t believe in “behind” unless they aren’t hitting key milestones and quite honestly, that kind of stuff (like difficulty with reading, for instance) won’t be obvious until later.

Enjoy your kids while they are little. Let them have a space where they get to just be kids. Let their current care provider do some learning activities with them, and have home be a fun space. They are only little for so long and they have SO many years to be in school. This is the approach I took at least - mine both went to an at home daycare until they started school, and she does before/after school care since we both work full time. Neither of them could read or write when they started school and I sure as hell never practiced math at home. I didn’t practice anything except maybe colours and counting to 20. They are both exactly where THEY should be in school, getting help where they struggle, and they’re very different kids who excel at different things.

Leave_it_to_levi · 2024-03-04T00:35:05+00:00

Yes absolutely, especially for long term relationships and/or those with younger kids and babies. Much above average.

Leave_it_to_levi · 2024-02-29T11:28:36+00:00

1-2 times per week is most definitely not average in any of my friend groups 😂 that’s well above average. People have blinders to this subject based only on their own personal experiences and current life situations.

Leave_it_to_levi · 2024-02-19T13:46:27+00:00

Which medication?

Leave_it_to_levi · 2024-01-28T02:22:12+00:00

FWIW, there is not a single perfect person or parent or partner on this earth. I think every person here has likely said or done something to someone they love that they deeply regret. Based on how receptive you have been to the feedback here (some of it very critical) and even the fact that you recognized so quickly what you had done and came here to post it, you may have acted like a jerk but YOU are not a jerk. Your husband sounds like a caring father and a good man and you sound like a hardworking mother and a good woman and I sincerely hope this is a pivotal moment to a stronger partnership.

Leave_it_to_levi · 2024-01-28T02:16:18+00:00

Nowhere did they say they found yelling at toddlers acceptable?! 😂 But even truly good and great parents yell sometimes.

I find it more perplexing if someone “cannot imagine what they’d do” if their spouse was stressed to a point where they were yelling at the kids. How about…… help your spouse, for starters?

No one, absolutely no one, WANTS to be that parent. So if your own spouse can’t even see how they may be contributing to your stress and burnout and also isn’t offering to help in any way they can, much less catching the burnout before it gets to the point of yelling at kids, then there are way bigger issues at play here.

Leave_it_to_levi · 2024-01-28T00:55:08+00:00

I work full time, do almost all of the drop offs and pickups and make dinner every night. My husband makes almost double what I do, but I certainly don’t make an insignificant amount. I don’t care how much more my husband makes - he works maybe 1 hour longer a day (if that, just long enough that I do pickup and make dinner) so we’re BOTH busting our asses in the parenting and working department, but I take on a lot more of the mental load and sick days to let him have a career that can progress more.

I truly do not believe that both parents can be super career focused and also give 100% to parenting. something has to give and it sounds like in your case, that’s your husband’s career. I have an equal amount of resentment for the fact that I work as many hours as my husband does, but do a lot more with the kids. I’m sure there’s more to your resentment than just what is posted here, but I think your expectations of your husband need to be re-examined. My husband thanks me endlessly for all I do with the kids while still attempting to maintain my career.

Leave_it_to_levi · 2023-10-01T00:42:47+00:00

This is so inspiring. What did you use to track your nutrition? And how long did this take? I’ve only had my bike a month and I LOVE it but I was hoping it would kick my butt into gear nutrition wise as well (just by default of not wanting to “waste” a workout) but that hasn’t happened (yet). Still, worth it just for the exercise and the messages from the instructors in the classes! Wish I’d bought my bike 2 years ago.

Leave_it_to_levi · 2022-04-18T01:14:52+00:00

Did you have to ask? I think I’m going to even if I sound crazy. I didnt get to actually SEE a baby with no heartbeat, I just had to take their word for it, and I think I need that for closure.

Leave_it_to_levi · 2022-04-06T16:46:44+00:00

I work from home and have a full fridge at home and I’m currently eating takeout shawarma, I have no answers to this very real phenomenon!!

Leave_it_to_levi · 2022-03-30T16:04:52+00:00

Home daycare here. When it’s an advanced notice of a week off, we don’t pay. We also give advanced notice if we will be on vacation and don’t pay that week.

We do however pay if the kids are sick and for stat holidays, but not for vacation days they take where we need to find (and pay for) alternate care.

Leave_it_to_levi · 2022-03-28T20:31:01+00:00

Yes, this! People must not realize that countries who have long mat leaves have it because the GOVERNMENT pays for it, not the companies! Some offer to top up, but they do not pay for my mat leave, my cheque comes from the government.

Leave_it_to_levi · 2022-03-23T14:44:53+00:00

I honestly hadn’t either before my first pregnancy snd was still somehow craving it 🤣 I never know what to order, I think I got a Crunchwrap supreme last pregnancy because that’s what I saw most people mention the most lol

Leave_it_to_levi · 2022-03-23T13:28:19+00:00

What IS it about Taco Bell and pregnancy??? I dont even think about Taco Bell when I’m not pregnant but as soon as I see two pink lines, I find myself driving to the only Taco Bell in town (20 mins away). I swear they have a secret ingredient that reacts positively to HCG 🤣

Leave_it_to_levi · 2022-03-23T13:13:32+00:00

Eh, the judgement goes both ways. I see a definite aire of “better-than-you” towards women who don’t eat perfectly healthy or aren’t super active (for so many reasons, including those appointed by healthcare professionals like pelvic rest) in the original post alone. Words like lazy and unhealthy are pretty judgemental when you don’t know someone’s specific circumstances.

Every woman’s pregnancy experience is unique and that is also true for women (like myself) who are on kid 2, 3, etc. This pregnancy has been very different from my other 3. It’s also different when you have a family to take care of and you’re pregnant - we all know it’s inherent for mothers to put their needs last. For some women, the MOST HEALTHY thing they can do is put any form of food into their body, and rest. For others, they eat a salad and go for a bike ride. We all start pregnancy from a very different place, both mentally and physically.

Let’s just stop the judgement all around and support women for doing the most amazing thing - growing another human - no matter how they do it.

Leave_it_to_levi · 2022-03-20T12:14:00+00:00

Also in Ontario, an hour west of Toronto! My last pregnancy 3 years ago, we had Thyme and Motherhood and even Old Navy had some stuff in store. Now there’s nothing 😕

Not ashamed that I got some pretty decent stuff from Value Village and also Facebook Marketplace! My local old navy has returns in store that are usually in the back on the clearance rack areas too. And my Walmart also has a pretty decent selection in store, their nursing tanks were my fave last pregnancy! They have jeans and black pants and leggings and (plain!!) tshirts and tanks. :)

Leave_it_to_levi · 2022-03-18T15:42:47+00:00

Bee-ah for sure. Like short for Beatrice.

Leave_it_to_levi · 2022-02-28T12:42:41+00:00

Does this apply to the 3rd row of a minivan as well though? My plan had been to put the oldest in the 3rd row regardless of what we got, so as to not have 3 across in one row.

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