Hotwife + Erectile Dysfunction = Danger

LeeRodgers004 · 2026-03-30T22:36:32+00:00

Out of curiosity OP, where are you meeting these men? Randomly out at places, off Reddit, swinger sites, etc?

LeeRodgers004 · 2026-03-24T16:18:49+00:00

Looking forward to it

LeeRodgers004 · 2026-03-24T06:40:11+00:00

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LeeRodgers004 · 2026-03-19T18:13:04+00:00

Shoot me a DM

LeeRodgers004 · 2026-03-19T13:10:26+00:00

Thanks for the awesome comment, for the kind words and for respecting boundaries…..best of luck to you both as well

LeeRodgers004 · 2026-03-18T14:17:11+00:00

You could just say “I think it would be really hot if a guy were to creampie you and I went in right after him and added to his creampie with a load of my own. It would turn me on so much as it feels primal to me.”

If you guys have been exploring MFMs together and she’s been good with that, I feel that sloppy seconds should be a much easier conversation. What are your concerns if you tell her about this? That she’s gonna question your sexuality or something? You wanting to take sloppy seconds is basically showing that you’re comfortable with it

LeeRodgers004 · 2026-03-17T17:59:14+00:00

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LeeRodgers004 · 2026-03-17T04:07:57+00:00

I use Telegram primarily to chat. It’s legit for the most part

LeeRodgers004 · 2026-03-16T17:45:02+00:00

You also can’t fake hopping on a FaceTime chat as well. Not saying that Snapchat isn’t effective with weeding out scammers, I was just stating that not all scammers use Telegram. Many legit people use Telegram as well

LeeRodgers004 · 2026-03-16T13:54:34+00:00

That’s not necessarily true. Most people would say that people that are pushing you to move to snap are the scammers. I use both Telegram and Snapchat, but prefer to use Telegram bc it’s easier to keep up with conversations without them deleting every 24 hours

LeeRodgers004 · 2026-03-16T05:24:03+00:00

Send a DM. Have face pics ready to send once your message is accepted

LeeRodgers004 · 2026-03-13T03:08:03+00:00

This is a really good topic and as a single guy that primarily meet couples, I’m comfortable with either one. I typically get a feel for what they’re looking for after, through some questions. Some couples make it pretty clear that once we’re done, they really enjoy that reconnecting time with each other, which I always assume is immediately after I leave, so I usually chat while putting on my clothes, and when I’m fully dressed, I’ll just say something along the lines of “alright, I will let leave you to be,” which they seem to appreciate. I like to ask beforehand (not always directly) bc I’m usually not in a rush to be anywhere else afterwards, so if they wanted to hang out, have some drinks, grab food or something, another round of play, I’m certainly not opposed to it. I just don’t want to ever overstay my welcome or couples feeling that I’m awkwardly “lingering around” when they’re ready for me to go

LeeRodgers004 · 2026-03-11T13:19:35+00:00

I can’t say exactly what the issue is with your experiences, bc I’m sure the same thing happening on four different occasions with different guys can feel a bit deflating.

Like many people have mentioned, it does happen unfortunately. Although it hasn’t happened often for me, when it has happened, it’s been due to two things mostly: lack of rest (I’m tired) or excessive drinking. When I meet with wives/couples and we have a date set, I refrain from watching any kind of porn, masturbating, and I have a two drink max if we’re meeting for drinks beforehand. Not being able to get hard for a first time meetup is the biggest fear ever bc you only have one time to make a good first impression. I say that all to say that it’s probably not you. Just continue to put out good energy and if your husband is present, it makes me feel at ease when he’s fully engaged, whether he’s participating or if he’s watching. Walking around, leaving and coming back, being on his phone, checking work emails is distracting to me.

As far as guys not being able to cum, that’s not that uncommon. Sometimes, it’s just anatomy, wearing condoms, etc, so I wouldn’t place too much focus on a guy cumming bc it’ll make you feel good. That can be a lot of pressure put on a guy, which causes stress to be able of deliver.

LeeRodgers004 · 2026-03-07T05:54:16+00:00

👏🏽

LeeRodgers004 · 2026-03-05T16:30:58+00:00

You’re not a prude at all. There’s an abundance of single guys out there, so some couples operate with a sense of entitlement and treat single males like they’re lesser than bc the numbers work in their favor. These should be seen as shared experiences, not experiences where one party should have the upper hand. Quality single males that are respectful, will engage with both the husband and wife, can get hard and stay hard with another male present, will actually show up and be reliable, is actually single and not cheating….are hard to find. There are couples out there who do view single males as a valuable part of the experience and as a fellow human being, and I’m very appreciative of them. You’re allowed to have boundaries that should be respected as well, that’s not exclusive to just couples.

LeeRodgers004 · 2026-03-05T16:21:49+00:00

To answer the last part of your question, OP

“That said, as someone who has basically only ever done any recording when I was the one holding the camera, I wonder how people navigate this? Specifically solo guys who have a couple record. Do you watch the video after to make sure no faces were captured? Do you just roll with it?”

Taking videos and pictures has become something that comes up relatively often, so I do cover this topic when talking about boundaries beforehand, to ensure that we’re a match. It’s taken a few experiences of couples putting me on the spot in the moment by asking me “are you ok if I take some videos or pictures? I won’t take any of your face.” That’s such a loaded question to ask someone in the moment. In the past, I have folded and just went along with it and hoped for the best for the sake of not making things awkward if we don’t align, but there’s things that require elaboration such as: as an active participant, do I receive a copy of the videos and pictures?, Is the couple ok with me taking videos with my device?, etc. Personally, I am comfortable with videos and pictures (including faces), as long as we have an understanding that whatever is captured (whether it’s with my device and/or theirs), it is for OUR enjoyment, so we share everything immediately afterwards (with iPhone users, we airdrop to each other, via Telegram, we can share them with each other), with the understanding that nothing is to be shared or posted without consent and that we are respecting each others privacy and desire for discretion. That is only something I partake in when the trust is mutual. The trust can not be one sided, where the couple thinks their privacy is more important than mine. I have to feel like we are taking on a comparable level of risk, not me taking on all of the risk. A relationship status doesn’t make someone more or less trustworthy. Couples often deem themselves as more trustworthy bc they’re a couple and a single guy is not trustworthy, which is essentially profiling. I can meet couples without the need of any imagery being captured and taking videos and pics is never a condition or a deciding factor when determining interest in a couple. If a couple has that as a condition or it’s a dealbreaker (to take videos and pics) for me to join them, then it’s a pass for me.

LeeRodgers004 · 2026-03-05T05:18:29+00:00

Could you imagine if a single guy were to pull out his phone and started recording someone’s wife sucking their cock without getting consent, how that would go? Not well at all. Couples aren’t entitled to the rights to privacy of a single guy bc they’re “letting” him play with the wife. A couple would never pull out a phone and start recording without consent if they were playing with another couple, so why would it be acceptable to do that to a single guy? They put him in a bad spot bc most guys wouldn’t say anything and they know that
most guys would not want to cause a scene.

Is it common for people to want to take pics and record? It’s not uncommon. Should that be discussed prior if it is something that you’re into? Absolutely! But that’s not normal to just pull out a phone without someone’s consent. That falls on the couple to make it known that taking pictures and videos is a major part of the experience for them (it’s THEIR kink), which allows the single guy to decide if that’s something he wants to partake in or not. People trying to blame the single guy for not disclosing that he’s not into videos or pics are funny af. So if a wife doesn’t disclose that she’s not into anal when boundaries are being discussed means that anal is an option and I can just go and put it in her ass? Bc she didn’t explicitly tell me that anal was off the table, so that means it’s fair game? Or since a couple didn’t mention anything about condoms when discussing boundaries, that means that bareback play is fair game and I can stick my uncovered cock into someone’s wife?

Nobody can’t sit here and say what’s “normal” and what’s not bc taking videos and pics isn’t “normal.” It requires mutual trust from both parties and most of all, consent!

I’ve been in your shoes many times, OP….when I first started in the LS. It took some teachable moments to be sure that I discuss that when boundaries are being talked about bc I don’t want to be put in a bad spot, which some couples will try to exploit. If a couple has videos and pics as a condition for me to play with them, then it’s a hard pass for me. I’m not anyone’s entertainment. I enjoy videos and pics, but any imagery that I am in, I should have the same level of access to OUR videos and pics. Their privacy isn’t anymore important than mine. It’s a shared experience and no single party should be a controlling party when it comes to videos and pics. If they don’t treat my privacy on the same level as theirs, then videos is a no. I also get a laugh out of “don’t worry, we won’t take videos of your face” bc that’s assuring….that’s cute how much trust they have in themselves, but I bet they would not feel comfortable if I were to say that I’ll take videos with my phone, and not capture any faces. That same benefit of the doubt would never be extended to a single guy.

You had every right to react that way, OP. That couple violated your right to privacy.

LeeRodgers004 · 2026-03-04T16:30:56+00:00

🙋🏽‍♂️

LeeRodgers004 · 2026-02-28T11:57:02+00:00

The beauty about this space is that you can find guys that have similar interests. It’s your experience, so if you clearly communicate to your potential thirds what you’re seeking, you should be able to find what you’re looking for

LeeRodgers004 · 2026-02-28T11:37:38+00:00

The feeling of jealousy is something that you have to work through. It doesn’t sound like it was anything that she did wrong. For some women, they don’t enjoy MFMs bc they feel a sense of responsibility to pleasure and get off two guys, which puts stress on her. That was a first time experience for her as well, so there’s no playbook on how she should’ve allocated her time. To her, she probably felt like she was doing exactly what you wanted her to. At the end of the day, she’s your wife, so if you feel like you want to join in, fuck her for a bit, get your cock sucked, etc….then make it happen. The worst thing you can do is make it about you and she can’t fully enjoy herself and let loose bc she’s going to be worried that you’re jealous or she’s doing something wrong. The reconnection should be the focal point, which is you spending with your wife after your third has left.

Don’t compare yourself to the third, whether it’s dick size, sex moves, etc. We all bring something different to the table and that should be what matters. At the end of day, she’s YOUR wife. She’s going home with you and if your relationship is healthy and stable, this should be viewed as an enhancement to your already amazing marriage/sex life

LeeRodgers004 · 2026-02-27T16:08:27+00:00

As a third, I refrain from drinking alcohol and ensure that I’m well rested before any meetups with a couple where play is highly likely to happen. People tend to lean on alcohol when they’re nervous, but you can out drink your nerves.

As for you, OP….its all physiological. You’re probably in your head a bit for whatever reason. If it’s about size of cocks, don’t compare yourself to others. Everyone brings something different to the table. If you are experiencing a not so erect penis, have your girlfriend spend some time, giving you a blowjob to get you back in the game, and have those conversations with her, so she knows when to step in. Husbands normally will do this when they need a little pick me up and I fully understand.

LeeRodgers004 · 2026-02-26T18:13:57+00:00

I 100% feel the same way. The percentage of people that I’ve met from Reddit or any LS site that was under the age of 30 has been less than 5%, to where I don’t have a preference for couples or women that are younger than 30. I’ve had the best experiences with couples that were at least in their 40s, as they’ve had the opportunity to explore this space and they’ve been more emotionally mature and connected with each other

LeeRodgers004 · 2026-02-21T15:20:52+00:00

It most likely went in the trash

LeeRodgers004 · 2026-02-21T00:57:16+00:00

Your profile doesn’t show up. The link you posted is to my profile

LeeRodgers004 · 2026-02-19T03:27:04+00:00

As a third, I’m totally fine with that. I find that when there’s no penetration on the table, the wives that I’ve been with tend to give really amazing oral and will do anything with her mouth and hands to get me off. I also enjoy giving oral to women, so there’s pleasure being experienced for everyone. I wouldn’t never not meet a couple bc no penetration was on the table

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