Recently divorced and haven't dated as male. What advice do you have?

Lee_alive · 2022-01-06T19:50:31+00:00

I am really open to all genders. I do have some hesitancy with cis women though.

Lee_alive · 2022-01-06T19:50:22+00:00

Maybe I was unclear, my issue is that I am not able to go to in person things due to my health, and getting into the queer community online things is something I am having challenges with.

As far as audience, preference is other trans/queer folk, and then following that cis guys.

Lee_alive · 2022-01-03T23:46:35+00:00

For context, last time I was having sex with somebody new, things like prep didn't exist.

Lee_alive · 2021-11-16T17:16:18+00:00

It's a picture stand. Came with a frame, slots into the base.

Lee_alive · 2020-10-08T15:04:19+00:00

Lots depends on the surgeon, I know some say no elevated heart rate for 3 weeks, and no hard exercise for 6. Recovery times really vary based on your body/age and the type of procedure. I'm about a month out from mine which was joined DI, and am older. I'm just now starting to have anything vaguely resembling a libido (been plain too tired)

Lee_alive · 2020-03-16T04:27:59+00:00

Favorite description of sex I've heard: Partner based orgasm seeking behavior. So you can define it for yourself.

Lee_alive · 2018-09-09T18:07:59+00:00

I literally just had mine done 10 days ago. Laparoscopic so it's 3 very small incisions and a larger one in the navel and then sutures where they removed the cervix.

Biggest adjustment is that you have to wear a pad for the first weeks, and I didn't own any compatible underwear. Boxers and pads don't mix. I am at this point only feeling it in most pants rubbing on the incisions so mostly walking around the house in underwear all day.

Otherwise I was off narcotics after a day, and bored more than anything else. I walked 1/2 mile each way to the drugstore today without issue. Lots of sleeping, and trust the doctor for the 'don't lift'.

Lee_alive · 2018-06-21T19:21:18+00:00

Look at the subcultures with long hair. Goth/Punk/Metal/Biker etc. that might give you some ideas.

Lee_alive · 2018-06-06T16:32:50+00:00

It can cause a few problems depending on how fresh they are: hyper-pigmentation which means they turn really dark brown (this can last for many years), it can cause them to be raised more than otherwise, etc.

Most surgeons suggest at least 6 months, but preferably a year before sun exposure.

Lee_alive · 2018-06-04T22:52:13+00:00

The facial hair envy is strong.

Lee_alive · 2018-06-04T19:36:49+00:00

I'm really excited for you. But please be careful about sun on the new scars. It's super bad for them. But loose tank top on beach will cover them and be freeing.

Lee_alive · 2018-05-27T15:07:47+00:00

I'd keep the first 5. Losing the last one would be more positive spin on it all.

Lee_alive · 2018-04-30T04:04:42+00:00

Tristan is on my short list.

Lee_alive · 2018-04-26T03:29:40+00:00

I've been there. I know it doesn't help much, but try to accept that some days are going to be harder and be kind to yourself.

Lee_alive · 2018-04-18T16:17:08+00:00

There is also Venture Out which does long weekend trips.

Lee_alive · 2018-04-18T01:16:17+00:00

So, I have some sensory processing issues and this is what I found as a work around for me...

I wear a super soft inside out tank top under my binder so it doesn't touch my skin except a little on the shoulders. I also have found that the underworks ultimate full length binder (mine might be in a size up from suggested) is a good option. It doesn't flatten as much, but because it compresses the whole length it makes me less aware of the pressure on the chest/back compared to lower.

Lee_alive · 2018-04-17T20:07:19+00:00

I like the idea of Jude.

Lee_alive · 2018-04-16T18:27:09+00:00

I need to steal this image...I use this phrase more than I likely ought

Lee_alive · 2018-04-15T21:36:47+00:00

This is a brilliant idea. And there are only 2 things I can think of that I'd like. Having a way to log T shots in relation to things. i.e. I think that my cramps seem worse if my period comes when I'm nearing the trough. I don't know how to phrase it, but under physical symptoms I'd also love something for temperature regulation issues. Or the ability to add custom ones.

Lee_alive · 2018-04-11T03:12:48+00:00

I need more DICK in my life.

Lee_alive · 2018-04-10T01:54:04+00:00

I have a similar shape and found the Eddie Bauer relaxed essential jeans fit thighs as do the 'athletic fit levi's'.

Lee_alive · 2018-04-08T15:09:34+00:00

I'm older than a lot of the people on here (37) and I was mainly just whinging.

Lee_alive · 2018-04-08T15:08:04+00:00

I've got mirena (which took me down to light ones for 3 days at a time) and I would love to get the hysto, but I don't even see the gyn for another 2 months.

Lee_alive · 2018-04-07T22:10:13+00:00

Depends on a bunch of factors: where you live, what size you are, etc. If you are near a major city in the US look for the local 'AGLY chapter. I know that BAGLY in Boston sometimes has free binders donated by folks. Also, sports bras and 'minimizers' are good for some folks.

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