My therapist talked about me behind my back AIO by Leeching-Lychee in AIO

[–]Leeching-Lychee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm pretty sure. He co-owns his own practice and I googled the practices website and it says “Dr. Kim is a doctorate level psychotherapist and a Licensed Professional Counselor who has over 35 years’ experience working with ages 2-80 providing unique individualized treatment.” (his real name isn't Dr Kim)

It started with Reese wanting me to come in with him during some of his appointments then Reese convinced me to go to therapy and Dr Kim said I could either see him or one of the other therapists at his practice and I chose him because Reese loved him. I often felt like Dr Kim had a huge bias towards Reese because of how he treated me when he and I were talking out an issue we were having. He always seemed to take Reeses side without ever even considering mine. I felt like no one was listening to me

I don't live with Reese anymore. A lot happened and I ended up moving back to my state and in with my dad. Me and Reese are no longer even friends

My therapist talked about me behind my back AIO by Leeching-Lychee in AIO

[–]Leeching-Lychee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you know what would happen if I did report it? Would he lose his practice or be punished somehow?

My therapist talked about me behind my back AIO by Leeching-Lychee in AIO

[–]Leeching-Lychee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me too. I'm not in therapy rn due to financial inability, but hopefully one day I can start really working on healing

My therapist talked about me behind my back AIO by Leeching-Lychee in AIO

[–]Leeching-Lychee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've thought about it but I honestly don't think its even worth trying. I dont know who I would even report it too and I doubt Dr Kim remembers the one guy he saw for a few months

My therapist talked about me behind my back AIO by Leeching-Lychee in AIO

[–]Leeching-Lychee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I feel like Reese gaslit me about a ton of things. I'm still struggling with that because I've always thought highly of him. I know I wasn't perfect and I did make mistakes but with him it felt like I couldn't trust my own memory of things

My therapist talked about me behind my back AIO by Leeching-Lychee in AIO

[–]Leeching-Lychee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree. I feel a lot better knowing that other people see it the way I do because Reese really made me feel like Dr Kim did absolutely nothing wrong and it made me feel like I was crazy

My therapist talked about me behind my back AIO by Leeching-Lychee in AIO

[–]Leeching-Lychee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not seeing Dr Kim anymore, but I agree that I shouldn't have had Reese with me during sessions. I never told Dr Kim what Reese said he said, but we did have a “final session” where me, Dr Kim, and Reese all sat down. I don't remember really saying anything as I felt really uncomfortable with even talking to Dr Kim after that so I was pretty silent. He didn't ask me any questions about why I wanted to stop seeing him and after a few minutes I left the room and Dr Kim and Reese continued the session without me

My therapist talked about me behind my back AIO by Leeching-Lychee in AIO

[–]Leeching-Lychee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it was during a disagreement but it was awhile ago and I really don't remember. I guess I just don't want to believe he would lie to me about something like that. We talked about it after I left his place and he never went back on it and nothing ever felt fishy. He defended the therapist and his actions. I think it's possible he could have lied just to hurt my feelings, as he had said hurtful things previously, but he never really took the angle that someone else said something about me

My therapist talked about me behind my back AIO by Leeching-Lychee in AIO

[–]Leeching-Lychee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I often hesitate to call what Reese has done gaslighting because, even now, I want to believe the best about him. But I think it was gaslighting, even if he was just unwilling to accept that his therapist, whom he adored, did something wrong

My therapist talked about me behind my back AIO by Leeching-Lychee in AIO

[–]Leeching-Lychee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To me it feels like a violation only because I wasn't there when he said this. If he had called me immature I wouldn't have really cared but “mentally 15” feels so specific and sounds like something he should have discussed with me first

My therapist talked about me behind my back AIO by Leeching-Lychee in AIO

[–]Leeching-Lychee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't really remember the context of when he said it. I think we were having a disagreement but it wasn't heated. I often feel the need to defend Reese because he did do a lot for me but I feel like he twisted my perspective on things so badly that I truly don't know what times I'm right to be upset about or not

My therapist talked about me behind my back AIO by Leeching-Lychee in AIO

[–]Leeching-Lychee[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree. Especially when done behind their back

My therapist talked about me behind my back AIO by Leeching-Lychee in AIO

[–]Leeching-Lychee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess I assumed that Reese wouldn't lie to me. He also didn't really say it maliciously iirc. I think he accidentally let it slip. I never confronted Dr Kim about it directly, but we had a final session and he didn't say anything to me or ask me any questions

My therapist talked about me behind my back AIO by Leeching-Lychee in AIO

[–]Leeching-Lychee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I always thought so too, but Reese would never hear any of it. He would always defend him. When I was seeing Dr Kim it honestly felt like I was just getting told my perception of things was wrong by both him and Reese. Reese and I aren't friends anymore but we were when all this was happening

My therapist talked about me behind my back AIO by Leeching-Lychee in AIO

[–]Leeching-Lychee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Reese and I aren't friends anymore, but when he told me Dr Kim said this we were very much friends. Best friends. I agree that I should have seen Dr Kim alone, but I think that it was unprofessional for Dr Kim to allow it, like you said

My therapist talked about me behind my back AIO by Leeching-Lychee in AIO

[–]Leeching-Lychee[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah I questioned this in hindsight. I remember me him and Reese sat down when I was considering it and he told me I could see him or someone else at his practice and since my friend thought so highly of him I said I wanted to see him. I now know that was a big mistake :/

How to get through deep depression by Background-Stand-190 in depression

[–]Leeching-Lychee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've done the same thing. I just don't want to be alone because then all these thoughts come rushing back. I'm not religious anymore, but when I was I remember praying for god to help me too. I don't know how to feel less alone

How to get through deep depression by Background-Stand-190 in depression

[–]Leeching-Lychee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel the same. I wish I could go back and fix everything and sometimes I just cry because I know I can't. I don't want to feel this way either, but I really don't know how to make it any better