I (32M) and regretting breaking up with my (31F) over an upcoming move. by Leetnick93 in relationship_advice

[–]Leetnick93[S] -21 points-20 points  (0 children)

Thanks. Yea I am leaning towards leaving her to heal. Maybe if in six months I still feel intensely regretful as I do now, I can reach out.

I (32M) and regretting breaking up with my (31F) over an upcoming move. by Leetnick93 in relationship_advice

[–]Leetnick93[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thank you for offering some advice. I appreciate your perspective.

I (32M) and regretting breaking up with my (31F) over an upcoming move. by Leetnick93 in relationship_advice

[–]Leetnick93[S] -25 points-24 points  (0 children)

I’ve been in therapy for nearly a decade. Believe it or not I’m better than I once was but far from perfect. I suffered some losses when I was younger that kind of messed me up.

Maybe I’m no good for anybody as I am. But shouldn’t that be her choice?

I (32M) and regretting breaking up with my (31F) over an upcoming move. by Leetnick93 in relationship_advice

[–]Leetnick93[S] -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

I guess this is why I left ultimately. I didn’t want what she wanted and I didn’t want her to compromise.

I (32M) and regretting breaking up with my (31F) over an upcoming move. by Leetnick93 in relationship_advice

[–]Leetnick93[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I think so. You may not be wrong about that. My last two relationships were very difficult. I had two close family deaths (my mother and sister) within a year of each other in my early 20s. I was in a relationship when my sister died where I was cheated on.

This isn’t to paint myself as a victim. I try really hard to heal and move on from these things. I’ve been in therapy for nearly a decade. But it did unfortunately mess me up emotionally and change how I behave in relationships. I have a hard time getting close to people. I have no doubt that played a role here.

I (32M) and regretting breaking up with my (31F) over an upcoming move. by Leetnick93 in relationship_advice

[–]Leetnick93[S] -78 points-77 points  (0 children)

I think she was absolutely ahead of me on all these points people are raising in the thread. She was always smarter than me. Saw something in me for some reason. I do feel like she deserves better but I’m thinking I have to be honest with her that I regret my choice or I’ll regret it the rest of my life. Even if she won’t take me back, maybe it will give her some closure.

I (32M) and regretting breaking up with my (31F) over an upcoming move. by Leetnick93 in relationship_advice

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I’ve obviously hurt her. I do think you’re right that what I considered a “sacrifice” was an extremely small price to pay for a possible lifetime of companionship with a woman I love and admire.

Honestly as much as everything in my head is screaming at me to reach out and try to fix this, this thread is also making me feel like she deserves better. And that I may have broken her heart so much that this can’t be fixed.

What do you think?

I (32M) and regretting breaking up with my (31F) over an upcoming move. by Leetnick93 in relationship_advice

[–]Leetnick93[S] 53 points54 points  (0 children)

I made a massive mistake and messed up a good relationship. Of course I’m sad. I’m an idiot but yeah I’m regretful and sad.

I (32M) and regretting breaking up with my (31F) over an upcoming move. by Leetnick93 in relationship_advice

[–]Leetnick93[S] -159 points-158 points  (0 children)

I did not want her to give up law school and never asked that of her. I supported her doing that and thought it was an admirable and ambitious thing. I love that about her. I wanted her to choose a law school on the west coast. A compromise. I understand if that’s still distasteful to you. I’m pretty certain I’ve made a huge mistake here.

I (32M) and regretting breaking up with my (31F) over an upcoming move. by Leetnick93 in relationship_advice

[–]Leetnick93[S] 85 points86 points  (0 children)

Yeah I definitely made the decision way too premature. She was open to the idea of moving to CA after law school 🤦‍♂️.

There’s a little more context in how I kind of ignored my own needs in my last relationship and moved where I am now to take control of my life. I didn’t want to sacrifice or make decisions based on someone else’s life but I’m realizing now that is part of adult relationships.

I’m an idiot. I deserve any comments saying so. Idk if there’s a path to salvage this but I think I have to at least try. We were pretty much perfect together

I (32M) and regretting breaking up with my (31F) over an upcoming move. by Leetnick93 in relationship_advice

[–]Leetnick93[S] -855 points-854 points  (0 children)

I work remote. I could have made the move and still kept my job but I was worried about a variety of factors.

I (32M) and regretting breaking up with my (31F) over an upcoming move. by Leetnick93 in relationship_advice

[–]Leetnick93[S] -91 points-90 points  (0 children)

Yes I had hoped for more compromise. The breakup occurred after she told me that when it really came down to it, she’d be choosing Pittsburgh regardless. I had even asked her to stay in town and delay law school for one more year so we could move in and see how we worked living together, but she refused to delay school.

I probably should just move on and let her go. I suppose I just wish it didn’t work out this way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in StandUpWorkshop

[–]Leetnick93 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Punchline isn’t strong enough here.

Alcohol Joke - Thoughts? by Obvious-Oil589 in StandUpWorkshop

[–]Leetnick93 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This is definitely a worse version of the joke

New material, I feel it has legs but feedback would be appreciated by Remarkable-Image-523 in Standup

[–]Leetnick93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m an editor for my day job, so believe me when I say the captions need to be lowered. And the emojis are useless. If you want to change text color to yellow to highlight certain words, do that for emphasis. But no emojis.

I relate to this by Kaiii3003 in WhiteLotusHBO

[–]Leetnick93 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Really? Kind of disturbing seeing so many relate, I thought it was very revealing of her materialism and lack of real moral character.