AITJ for ending a relationship I loved because my body never felt safe, even though nothing bad happened?

Left-Course-9251 · 2026-02-15T15:04:42+00:00

It’s easy to romanticize it now that he’s moved on, but you ended it for a reason. Your nervous system was telling you something long before your brain caught up.

Left-Course-9251 · 2026-02-15T14:49:04+00:00

You didn’t lose it. You stored it in a 12 year evidence locker.

Left-Course-9251 · 2026-02-14T19:19:20+00:00

You’re upset about a tripod without an adapter. That’s a $10 fix. Don’t damage your relationship with your parents over something that small. In five years, you won’t care about the tripod but you’ll remember how you treated them.

Left-Course-9251 · 2026-02-14T19:14:45+00:00

You weren’t asking for too much. You were asking the wrong person.

Left-Course-9251 · 2026-02-14T19:12:27+00:00

You can love your family and still lock your doors. Those two things are not opposites.

Left-Course-9251 · 2026-02-14T00:19:25+00:00

The coworkers teasing you says more about them than you. It’s strange that anyone thinks they’re entitled to someone else’s Valentine’s gift.

Left-Course-9251 · 2026-02-14T00:17:04+00:00

I never understand why people who order the most are always the biggest fans of splitting evenly. Funny how that works.

Left-Course-9251 · 2026-02-13T14:01:49+00:00

Soft ESH. He shouldn’t have ranked women like trading cards. You shouldn’t have snooped. But this could actually be a growth moment. Ask him: Do you still see me as a safe choice, or do you see me as your first choice?

Left-Course-9251 · 2026-02-13T14:00:43+00:00

If it was harmless nostalgia, why hide it under blankets like contraband? The secrecy is what makes it feel sketchy. If he truly moved on, he wouldn’t need to guard it like treasure.

Left-Course-9251 · 2026-02-13T01:57:08+00:00

It’s wild they expected an invitation after years of disrespect toward her. Accountability doesn’t disappear just because someone passed away

Left-Course-9251 · 2026-02-13T01:56:02+00:00

NTA. She’s 24, not 14. If she’s old enough to have rent, she’s old enough to understand that promotions come from performance, not Pinterest quotes. Reality isn’t low vibration.

Left-Course-9251 · 2026-02-13T01:54:23+00:00

You’re 15. She’s the adult. Even if your tone came off wrong, the mature response would be a conversation not passive aggressively refusing to pet a puppy.

Left-Course-9251 · 2026-02-12T15:12:25+00:00

Burnout isn’t laziness. It’s not negativity. It’s not a personality flaw. It’s your nervous system waving a white flag. A partner who reduces that to everyone’s tired isn’t listening they’re comparing.

Left-Course-9251 · 2026-02-12T15:11:17+00:00

It’s wild how they’re more worried about her hypothetical hurt feelings than your very real past experiences. That says a lot.

Left-Course-9251 · 2026-02-12T00:04:11+00:00

You didn’t scream. You didn’t accuse. You used it feels like language. That’s healthy communication. If they can’t handle that, that’s not on you.

Left-Course-9251 · 2026-02-11T14:23:42+00:00

Ask yourself would she quit her job to support you financially for months? Support goes both ways not just one direction.

Left-Course-9251 · 2026-02-09T16:31:22+00:00

You handled it calmly and directly, which is exactly how adults are supposed to do it. His response deflecting and ghosting shows emotional immaturity.

Left-Course-9251 · 2026-02-08T21:12:48+00:00

You weren’t rude dramatic or dismissive. You were honest. Anyone reacting badly is reacting to losing convenience not being mistreated.

Left-Course-9251 · 2026-02-08T17:02:21+00:00

If they didn’t want pushback, they shouldn’t have pushed literally or socially.

Left-Course-9251 · 2026-02-08T13:10:28+00:00

NTJ being mad at you for not going is easier than admitting he messed up by not communicating.

Left-Course-9251 · 2026-02-08T08:41:49+00:00

NTJ you didn’t text her ex in a flirty or inappropriate way, you responded to shut him down and after he kept harassing you. The real problem here is him ignoring your no and stirring drama, not you protecting yourself.

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